04/09/2026
Ever since I realised that God never brings a battle bigger than us, I stopped doing life with fear.
I move through life with so much more courage and gratitude now.
Look, no matter what we do or how we see life, fate will always bring reality to us.
And guess what? God has already equipped us with the strength and courage to face whatever life throws our way.
So stop living life in fear. Fear has nothing to offer you except limitations.
While I was still living in Lagos with my uncle, his wife got pregnant and they had a beautiful baby girl. Six months after the baby was born, my uncle dïed.
That was actually the first time I truly felt the paiin of deãth.
Before then, I had seen people cry and wail when they lost someone they loved. I would feel sorry for them and understand that they were hurting, but I had never really understood how painful losing someone could be until I lost my uncle.
After he died, I watched my aunt nurture their baby through the sleepless nights, chaotic days and everything that came with raising a little child while grieving.
I watched everything she went through, and honestly, it didn't look like something I was capable of doing.
Sometimes I would help her with the baby, especially when I returned home from work. I would play with her and spend some time with her.
But seeing my aunt go through sleepless nights and watching the pressure whenever the baby was sick gave me so much anxiety.
Naturally, I have always said that I am not a baby person. 😂
Even from childhood, I never really enjoyed nurturing children because I didn't think I had the patience for it.
Long story short, life happened and I eventually started my own family.
Even while I was pregnant, I lived a normal life. I was excited and anticipating the birth of my baby, but sometimes I would even forget that I was pregnant 😂
Gradually, those fears started disappearing.
I became more focused on the joy of finally meeting my baby.
I carried on with my normal life and continued working until I gave birth.
And when I finally gave birth, that was another phase of life for me.
Life became even more interesting.
Those little fears disappeared because I was overwhelmed by the joy of my new bundle of joy.
Gradually, I started falling in love with babies, and somehow, my patience started growing naturally.
I still remember going to wake my baby (Olivia) up from sleep because I felt she had been sleeping for too long 🤣🤣
My mum, who was doing omugwo for me at the time, would try to stop me.
"Allow the baby to sleep. That's how they grow!"
And me?
"Mummy, no! This girl is sleeping too much!" 🤣🤣
Imagine that.
The sleepless nights that once looked like a nightmare to me became something I got used to.
Sometimes, I would even willingly put myself in that position, with joy and commitment, because this was my baby.
Motherhood changed my mindset.
Motherhood built me.
Motherhood taught me courage and strength.
And most importantly, motherhood made me realise that I am capable of facing much more than I sometimes think I can.
That's one thing life has taught me.
Sometimes a situation looks terrifying from a distance. You look at it and think, "There is absolutely no way I can handle this."
But when the time comes, somehow, the strength comes too.
The courage comes.
The patience comes.
You grow into the person that moment requires.
These days, I try not to waste too much of my life being afraid of what might happen tomorrow.
Whatever life brings, I will face it when it comes.
Because I have learned that sometimes the strength to carry a challenge arrives together with the challenge itself.
And until then, I choose to live.
With courage.
With gratitude.
And without allowing fear to limit me 🫶
