The Holistic Assistant NZ

19/08/2025

Ever stood at school pick-up and felt like you didn’t belong?

Like everyone else has their s**t together — the perfect hair, the calm toddlers playing together sweetly, the easy smiles — and you’re just… standing there wishing you could vanish?

Yep. Been there. Done that.
More times than I can count.

That’s why I made this Reset. 💜
It’s a quick 2 ½ minute breather you can slip into your ears right before (or after) school pick-up — so instead of dreading the cliques and the stares you swear everyone’s giving you, you can walk in grounded, calm, and actually feeling like you.

✨ Watch the Reset free on YouTube here 👉 https://youtu.be/fjYad6UGYtI

Let it carry you through school pick-up today, or any other day you might need it💖

08/08/2025

Well it's done! I've been so quiet lately on Facebook and all other social channels because I've been working on something which feels like it could be really important to all mums out there.

I'm officially ready to announce Wholehearted Magic Reset Bytes.

So what are Reset Bytes? Reset bytes are for Mothers who need a little bit of a break in life. Motherhood is a balancing act, no matter what your circumstances are or your child's stage in life.

Reset Bytes aren't meditations - they're simply a short perspective from a friend on situations that you may be facing as a mum. Each free Reset Byte comes with a free printable download to help you reset when things get tough, and an added helper's sheet for your child. So they know if you're not feeling quite right, what they can do to help.

Essentially, they are an on call, virtual hug and help from a friend when you need it, without having to try and schedule it around life's chaos! They are very specific as to the situations that they are created around, but they are generally situations that you could face as a mum, with either a neurodiverse or neurotypical child.

The first couple are live on my site now and I would love to get some honest feedback from you as to whether they help you relax when times are tough as a mum.

My site is https://www.mellissaedney.com

If you do check them out, please let me know if they do help below 👇

26/03/2025

If you feel like you're stuck in a chaotic loop trying to raise your neurodiverse kids, check out this new video.

Discover the Law of Cause and Effect and how it affects your parenting journey with your neurodiverse child. In this quick video, I share the power of “respo...

21/03/2025

Don't you just love the days when you're working on something and something (or someone 😉) throws a 🔧 in the works, and you end up off track for the day?

Would love to hear what throws you off track, and how you recentre without losing momentum!

Lmk 👇 what works for you...keen to hear if there's different strategies that can be tried!!

06/03/2025

😔 Mums, ever feel the fight for your neurodiverse child or teen never ends?
Yesterday, as I mentioned then was particularly rough. I was exhausted homeschooling my 14yo, battling schools, going to work, and relying on my 17yo to help me keep up with everything. The fight mentality trap was snapping tighter around me!

But self-care changed everything—small, real steps to break free! As a result, I'm feeling better today but thought this was a topic worth exploring.

Read my latest blog post if you're after some easy, guilt free, do-able self care tips for our busy lives: https://www.mellissaedney.com/wholeheartedmagic/self-care-when-youre-barely-holding-it-together

What’s your go-to self-care moment? Share below 👇 I'd love to hear any more inspiration that you can add!

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06/03/2025

I'm absolutely exhausted today and wondering how on earth I'm managing to keep everything together at the moment, let alone having any energy left for self care...it made me wonder how you're all going too?

Let me know how you're going with balancing life and self care... I'd love to know if you've got any little tips or tricks that I may not know 👇

03/03/2025

One of my pet peeves personally over the years with my son in school, was the insistence that every issue had was a result of bad behavior.

I find that Sticker charts and behavior tracking often miss the root cause of our kids' struggles. Instead of compliance-based methods, ask: “What is this behavior communicating?” Then, advocate for nervous system-friendly supports instead. 💛

Have you dealt with behavior charts? I'd love to hear if you have a different view on this or if you've found ways that they have worked well.

Tell me your experience below👇

28/02/2025

New 5 min video up now! Check it out if you're a neurodiverse parent wanting to see how the Law of Attraction can help you find calm and abundance in your life🥰 Watch now at https://youtu.be/caSY7wCKDVs

Plus you can also grab a free Path to Peace Printable Journal from my website - you'll find the link in the video description.

What's one small win you've had today? Share below - I'd love to celebrate with you!

Unlock the Law of Attraction (LOA) as a neurodiverse parent with this beginner-friendly 5-minute guide! Tired of positive thinking falling flat? Discover why...

24/02/2025

Advocacy is exhausting when we’re running on empty. Regulating your emotions helps shift your energy first—so you can show up as the calm, confident parent your child needs. Small shifts in your regulation create powerful shifts in them 💛

Want to try this? Save this post & I’ll be sharing a free resource soon!

21/02/2025

I'm still of two minds as to whether to publish this or not, as it is still so very fresh and painful, but I think understanding the toll of judgement is something that needs to be talked about. This post is dedicated to my boy Bear with the hopes that the situation we've experienced in the last few days, helps to bring a little less judgement into the world xx

A personal story reflecting the toll of judgement on neurodiverse parents and a call for understanding and peace in the world.