The Holistic Assistant NZ

26/03/2025

If you feel like you're stuck in a chaotic loop trying to raise your neurodiverse kids, check out this new video.

Discover the Law of Cause and Effect and how it affects your parenting journey with your neurodiverse child. In this quick video, I share the power of “respo...

21/03/2025

Don't you just love the days when you're working on something and something (or someone 😉) throws a 🔧 in the works, and you end up off track for the day?

Would love to hear what throws you off track, and how you recentre without losing momentum!

Lmk 👇 what works for you...keen to hear if there's different strategies that can be tried!!

06/03/2025

😔 Mums, ever feel the fight for your neurodiverse child or teen never ends?
Yesterday, as I mentioned then was particularly rough. I was exhausted homeschooling my 14yo, battling schools, going to work, and relying on my 17yo to help me keep up with everything. The fight mentality trap was snapping tighter around me!

But self-care changed everything—small, real steps to break free! As a result, I'm feeling better today but thought this was a topic worth exploring.

Read my latest blog post if you're after some easy, guilt free, do-able self care tips for our busy lives: https://www.mellissaedney.com/wholeheartedmagic/self-care-when-youre-barely-holding-it-together

What’s your go-to self-care moment? Share below 👇 I'd love to hear any more inspiration that you can add!

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06/03/2025

I'm absolutely exhausted today and wondering how on earth I'm managing to keep everything together at the moment, let alone having any energy left for self care...it made me wonder how you're all going too?

Let me know how you're going with balancing life and self care... I'd love to know if you've got any little tips or tricks that I may not know 👇

03/03/2025

One of my pet peeves personally over the years with my son in school, was the insistence that every issue had was a result of bad behavior.

I find that Sticker charts and behavior tracking often miss the root cause of our kids' struggles. Instead of compliance-based methods, ask: “What is this behavior communicating?” Then, advocate for nervous system-friendly supports instead. 💛

Have you dealt with behavior charts? I'd love to hear if you have a different view on this or if you've found ways that they have worked well.

Tell me your experience below👇

28/02/2025

New 5 min video up now! Check it out if you're a neurodiverse parent wanting to see how the Law of Attraction can help you find calm and abundance in your life🥰 Watch now at https://youtu.be/caSY7wCKDVs

Plus you can also grab a free Path to Peace Printable Journal from my website - you'll find the link in the video description.

What's one small win you've had today? Share below - I'd love to celebrate with you!

Unlock the Law of Attraction (LOA) as a neurodiverse parent with this beginner-friendly 5-minute guide! Tired of positive thinking falling flat? Discover why...

24/02/2025

Advocacy is exhausting when we’re running on empty. Regulating your emotions helps shift your energy first—so you can show up as the calm, confident parent your child needs. Small shifts in your regulation create powerful shifts in them 💛

Want to try this? Save this post & I’ll be sharing a free resource soon!

21/02/2025

I'm still of two minds as to whether to publish this or not, as it is still so very fresh and painful, but I think understanding the toll of judgement is something that needs to be talked about. This post is dedicated to my boy Bear with the hopes that the situation we've experienced in the last few days, helps to bring a little less judgement into the world xx

A personal story reflecting the toll of judgement on neurodiverse parents and a call for understanding and peace in the world.

17/02/2025

IEP (or support plan) meetings can be overwhelming. One way to prepare and stay calm? Make a script of key points before you walk in. If the meeting is in relation to a particular incident, make a timeline of events that contributed to the incident. When emotions rise, you’ll have something to fall back on, which helps you contain your emotions ✨

Need help preparing for a meeting? Drop a ❤️ if you’d like a free checklist!

13/02/2025

If life feels overwhelming, this simple yet powerful concept can help.

Your energy—your vibration—affects how you experience life, from daily stress to moments of joy. This knowledge can help everyone struggling through daily stressors, and is especially useful if you're a mother raising a Neurodivergent Child!

Unlock the secret to finding more peace in your day with The Law of Vibration for Beginners!

Check out our video to discover how small shifts, like gratitude, breathwork, and intentional focus, can raise your vibration and transform your reality. Ready to create more ease and flow?

Watch now on YouTube and start shifting your energy today!
https://youtu.be/_I5iOudk9lg 🌿✨

Unlock the secret to finding more peace in your day with The Law of Vibration for Beginners! If life as a neurodiverse mom feels overwhelming, this simple ye...

10/02/2025

It’s frustrating when teachers don’t seem to ‘get it’, and continually try to paint your child as a badly behaved kid that's not trying. But how we communicate matters. Instead of saying, “You don’t understand my child”, or "It's not a behavior problem" try: “Here’s what works best for my child at home—can we explore ways to support them in class?” It feels a lot better than the feeling of hitting your head against a brick wall, and you do actually start to make progress. Collaborative, not combative. 🌿

What’s the hardest part about advocating for your child?
Let’s talk in the comments.

09/02/2025

Just doing a little scrolling to unwind... check out some of my favourite channels if you're interested in health, wellness, homesteading, providing for your family, or something a little more out there💓

I highly recommend checking out: Suzanne Horrocks Wellness , Carpenter Landscaping and Farm , Steffi Wolf Creations , Nocoma’s Pass , TEKI Holistic Services and the wonderful Miranda MacKenzie Auracle