26/03/2026
🧠 BRAIN DUMP: RAW ASF 😤
Since starting Not One More Brother, and receiving over 2.5 million views on my platform just from showing up unapologetically as myself, and spreading awareness in the best way I know possible, raw, real, no beating around the bush potty mouth styles, and calling out the abusive behaviours woman have inflicted on brothers. I knew I had started a movement that was going to impact a lot of lives - especially coming from a woman.
Since then, I have had the privilege of receiving hundreds of stories from brothers, mothers, sisters, new partners, and even perpetrators who wanted their mamae, pain, hurt, and regret to be heard, understood, and acknowledged.
A major pattern I saw coming through was one I knew all so well which has been happening for yonks. And that is baby mamas using, and abusing their power as a mother by keeping their kids from seeing or having any relationship or contact with their father. I understand if the father was abusive, and unsafe with the kids, however, most of the stories I have read, this is 100% not the case.
Mothers taking 100% advantage of this power, causing unnecessary pain, and hurt towards the father, and especially his whānau are absolute pieces of s**ts - and no one can change my mind. Reading how common this behaviour is, which is still happening today, obviously made my blood boil. I had brothers as young as 20, to brothers in their early to mid 60s sharing stories that involves the baby mama withholding kids from seeing their dads.
I speak so cruel about baby mamas who are like this because I have seen first hand the detrimental effects this shocking behaviour has had on people close to me. My brothers, my husband, and the mental breakdowns this hideous behaviour had caused. Not only did it affect them, but it also affects the kids, and how the fathers show up in their new families. Whether you see the effects now or not. The signs will show in time.
Brothers are left feeling hopeless and worthless. They feel its not worth living anymore. It isn’t just because they can’t see their kids, but its also because mothers use the kids as an excuse to f**k with their minds in other ways. “Do this, do that, pay for this, pay for that or you wont see the kids”. This is just one p***c hair of manipulation women use to have power and control over brothers.
And you know what the most f**ked up thing is… when brothers submit to their demands, lies and manipulation, this is when these toxic - pieces of s**t women feel powerful, because they have achieved what they wanted, for our brothers to be weak minded, so they can become their puppets. They know what hurts our brothers the most, and thats using the kids.
This then has a domino affect where brothers feel stuck in a dark hole. They have no strength or energy left to fight for their kids. Brothers believe the mother has all the power, and has more rights than them so ultimately they give up 😞. They give up on themselves, they give up on life, and they give up on the precious gifts that love them the most, their babies. But through all of this, brothers don’t believe their kids love them because untrue s**t talk has rotted our brothers minds to believe otherwise. Oh and the crap talk that has rotted the kids minds about their father as well 😤.
Anyway, I’ll stop here… this is why I am so staunch with my kaupapa NOMB. There is nothing more satisfying for me but to see justice served, and when our brothers are finally reunited with their babies, no matter how long it takes.
Kia kaha, keep fighting the fight brothers. I understand your pain.
Not One More Brother!
P.S ignore any mistakes or grammar errors in my story. Grammar and perfect writing is not my objective.
