NO More Bullying

11/03/2025

Pink Shirt Day is coming up on 16 May 2025

So my question is this

If you support Pink Shirt Day and wear the t-shirt and celebrate that day to raise awareness but your a bully yourself,

Why do you wear the t-shirt and support Pink Shirt Day what does that achieve and what is that teaching the children?

Have a think about it, don't comment on this post, I just want you to think about it.

Why are you supporting Pink Shirt Day if you are a bully?

22/01/2025

This is something I just csme up with writing just now because I heard of another person taking their own life due to bullying.

We need to do better, we need to take action now to raise more awareness around bullying.

It is very sad that another person took their own life. It is very sad for the family and friends whom have lost someone so dear to them.

Yes this was a young girl, a child and it hurts my heart when I hear another has taken their life.

We need to be getting into the schools and workplaces to raise more awareness that it's not ok to bully another person.
This child had her whole life ahead of her and now it's all taken away from her all because of bullying.

Let's do better.....let's come together and take action now......who will stand with me......
Let's not have another one only to be known as a statistic.
They are someone's family, someone's relative and someone's friend.
Let's do better New Zealand, let's do better in our country and our Nation.

09/09/2024

Today is World Su***de Awareness Day

We remember people who have left this earth in taking their own life when they felt at their lowest and felt they had no way out but to go down this path.
There is also people who have contemplated it but did not take that final step to take their own life.

If you ever feel like going towards that path or thinking about or even feel at your lowest, I urge you to please reach out to someone you can talk to, someone you can trust, reach out to this page by sending a message or even our group page. You can also reach out to the helpline

Here are a few New Zealand helplines you can ring

Need to Talk ph: 1737
free service you can call or txt

Lifeline Helpline
Helpline ph: 0800 543 354
Text Us ph: 4357

Tautoko Su***de Crisis Helpline
Helpline ph: 0508 828 865

Youth line
Free txt ph: 234
Free 24/7 call ph: 0800 37 66 33

Please do not be afraid to reach out to any of these numbers or to this page, we want to help you and we do not want to see you or anyone else heading down that path.
If you see or hear anyone who is at their lowest, please reach out to them and help them get to reach out, they may just someone to be their for them, just a hug or a listening ear. It is at these times when someone just may need you. Even a smile could be just what they need.

07/09/2024

07/09/2024

I brought this the other day and I am going to make su***de awareness chocolate ribbons for World Su***de Awreness on 10th September which is this Tuesaday coming but I need to get some Whittakers White Chocolate and Some chocolate colouring to make the chocolates yellow for Su***de awareness colour.

World Su***de Awareness 10th September 2024

Su***de Awareness means alot to me for many reasons.
Here are my reasons

I knew someone who ended their life in su***de who I used to talk to on messenger who yes lived in Taupo and a lot of people knew her, and now I am friends with her sister and kids.

My second reason is, I was that someone who wanted to end my life many times for various reasons which I won't go on about but I will say I overcame wanting to end my life and never want to be in that situation again. It is not a nice feeling when your at your lowest odds low points in your life or it's because someone is making you feel you want to end your life.
You just can't go on living your life like that thinking there is nothing left for you here on this earth because there is. You matter, your life matters, you are worthy of everything in your life. You need to keep going and never give up.
Even though you may go through challenging times in your life, you will get through it no matter how it gets. No life is an easy road and no life is perfect. We just got to deal with what happens in life and find those solutions to deal with it to work through it.
When you feel like your getting to a low point or falling into depression, and you can't cope or you can't do it on your own, don't even think for a minute that you are alone because you are never alone. There are people around that are willing to help you and who love you. Reach out for help. For some it may be hard to reach out or you are scared to reach and sometimes can be terrifying but don't be because we only want to help you to overcome whatever it is your going through or help you to not get to thar point in life.

There are some people who are still dealing with a loved one who ended their life in su***de but just know you are not alone also. Always reach out if you need to.

21/07/2024

Being You Is Your Power

26/06/2024

Do you ever feel like there's no way out, no hope left for you, it's like your drowning, you're trapped in your own body and just can't get out.

Well that's what it's like for some people who have been bullied. Some people even have voices in their heads or feel they have nobody to turn to when they are feeling this way.
Some people don't or won't reach out for help because they can already feel and hear the gossip going on about them.
Some people get anxieties not knowing which way to turn, if it's left or right thinking who else is next in line.
What people don't realize is that, what these people go through that I have mentioned is not even close to everything that they go through. There are people who have taken it to the extreme of su***de. Some have ended their lives in su***de due to all the bullying they have received. Some try to end their life but failed. Some contemplate ending their life or someone stops them from doing it.
You may think you know a person who has been bullied, but you don't. I am not saying that you have or haven't been bullied, but if you haven't, you couldn't possibly understand what a bullied person goes through.
Some of them won't even leave the house and stay home in their comfort zone at home., they are not being bullied face to face.
That's what you also think right.....well you're wrong on so many levels.
Bullying may not be happening to them just face to face but could also be happening on social media or via text messages. Those messages or comments can be really nasty ones. Could you imagine some of those comments being said to you.

Here are some examples that can and could be said:
1) You're not good enough
2) You're ugly
3) Go f... yourself
4) Go hang yourself
5) You don't belong here
6) You're trash
7) You have no talent
8) You're fat
9) You're a fat ugly b...h
10) Go starve yourself

The worst one of all is:

"Go Kill Yourself"

Now could you imagine any of that being said to you if you have never been bullied.
Some of these people get these comments on a daily or weekly but out of those people, you wouldn't know if they are being bullied because they don't reach out. They suffer in silence.
You would think it's just a normal day, they are just trying to draw attention to themselves, they are just drama queens.
What you don't understand is, you don't have those words being said to you. The constant words that play on their minds over and over again and how they feel once the words have been said. The constant sleepless nights they may have.
You think words are just words, but it's never a joke.
Do you know that it could be happening to someone in your family or one of your friends, or maybe someone you know.
The thing is, it's not only the one's getting bullied that we need to think about.
We also need to think about the one's that are the bullies.
Now I wouldn't really label them bullies per say as some would. Why I say this, is because there are two types of bullies.

The first bully, now they think it's funny, it's a joke to bully a person. They think it's funny continue to do so until someone is either crying, injured or committed su***de.
Some don't stop there, they take it too far, so continue to the next person.

Then you have the second bully. Now this person is out there bullying another person because it's there way of a coping mechanism. Don't know how to deal with their emotions, or they react by bullying another person because it happened to them. They too got bullied themselves and think it's ok to bully someone else. Until they learn to deal with their emotions and learn coping mechanisms, they will continue to bully.

The moral of this is, unless you have been bullied you wouldn't possibly be able to understand unless you have been through it.
And it's not just the ones who get bullied we need to look out for. We also need to look out for the ones who are bullies.

We need to look out for the signs.
Their moods could change from being someone who keeps busy or interactive down to staying quiet, becoming noninteractive and being by themselves all the time, sleeping all the time and many more.
These are some of the signs we need to look out for within the person. Also keep an eye or ear out for what the person is saying or talking about to get hints of, if they are being bullied and/or thinking about su***de if they may talk about death or dying alot.
These could be your first point of call to be there for them and get help for them.

26/06/2024

This is going to be raw and it's going to be real. Believe me when I say this.
Counsellors are not there for you. Counsellors can not help. Yes they may be qualified by paper, but they can't help you unless they have been through what you have been through.
Counsellors may say they care, but are they really there for you? In the long run.....no.....unless they have been through what you have been through. They can not give advice on something they have never experienced or been through.
So if you think sexual assault or bullying affect your life or the people around you, your wrong. There are survivors all around us, there are people you care about, who you never knew, were suffering in silence, or may have already ended their own life because they felt they couldn't reach out.
Let them know that you're there to listen. It's time for you to know the survivors in your life, to hear their stories and to know that their voice matters and to know that there is a platform for them to speak up and to say sexual assault and bullying needs to stop.
No matter, we need to stand together, unite as one, stand strong as one, support each other, speak up, raise our voice to no more sexual assault and no more bullying.
Let's stand as a united front. It's time to end it all.
My name is Dinelle Turdeich and I am a survivor of sexual assault and bullying.
I will not stop and rest from raising awareness to stand up for myself, stand up for other's stand up for people who can't speak, stand up for people who are too afraid or shy, and stand up for people whom have already taken their own life in su***de.

"Enough is Enough".

03/06/2024

An update for next year's event I am prepping and organizing for.
I am behind the scenes coming up with some new designs for t-shirts, maybe posters and canvases along with looking at more items to get for the gift bags.
There will only be a limit gift bags, not sure how many just yet as I have not decided on the many gift bags yet.
I am though looking for someone who could draw up a design for a colouring competition for the young kids around bullying. If you know anyone who could do this, I would be very appreciative of you. I would possibly like 2 designs of this.
I am still on the look out for people to come on board with this event for next year.
I will update when there is more.

28/05/2024

Since the event will be called Hope for Change.
Here is the second item that will be going into the gift bags.
These cute butterfly keyrings. Now how cute are these......Would you want one of these keyring.

I will be getting more of these in.

Don't worry there will be more items for these gift bags.

28/05/2024

Here is an update of the event I am preparing for, for Pink Shirt Day next year.
I will be doing up some gift bags and hopefully will be able to do many gift bags. So first up for the gift bags are these magnetic bookmarks which have a butterfly on the front and a saying on the back.

Will be getting more of these in for the gift bags.

22/05/2024

I am on the lookout for people to come on board, who are in New Zealand that would like to help organize the Pink Shirt Day event next year, which will be held in Taupo.
I know it's early and this one this year has finished but I would like to be prepped and ready for next year one and get I need to throughout the year for next year.
If you would like to come on board to help, please send a message as yo why you would like to help and how you can help. I would to have you in board.
I want to make this an awesome event and even get maybe get schools to come to the event.

More updates on the event to come soon.

18/05/2024

Here is a very small hint of what I am going to be doing for Pink Shirt Day next year.

Hint 1
It is going to be a little bit based about butterflies.

Why do I say butterflies you may ask......

This is because butterflies represent Hope and Transformation.

It's bringing hope to a person in hope that change can happen for a transformation that they will not bully another person and on hope that they will change to become a better person within themselves.
We don't want to see them bully another person, we want to see them become a better version of themselves.

It's bringing Hope for Change.

That is just a snippet of what is in the planning for next year's Pink Shirt Day that I am in the planning off and I would love to see some people to come on board with this.

18/05/2024

As I wasn't well prepared for this year's Pink Shirt Day but managed to do something as to what I did to raise the awareness, I didn't get any t***s from any vehicles going passed but that's OK because the signs might have been too low for them to see.
So I am getting all prepared for next year's Pink Shirt Day even though it's a long way away yet.
I am going to organize something that I have never done before but will let you all know in due time what it is.
It may get the attention of others to do it in their town also to raise the awareness and to remember the people whom have already left us by ending their own life in su***de due to bullying.
Remember it's time when can never get back with them but we can always remember them in our hearts and remember ther person that they were, the memories you made with them, that's what matters in your hearts and you will never forget them.
One way to remember them is by planting a tree in their memory or having their photo put onto something special like a memory plaque or maybe a blanket or something that is special to you.
But know this, those people who have bullied them will never be able to forget the face of the person they bullied because it stays in their memory that they can not erase.
It is up to the family to be able to forgive the person that bullied the person to end their life in order for the family to be able to move forward and it won't be easy to do.
We can't just think about one side, we have to see it from both sides of why?

Why did that person bully another person?

Why did that person end their life?

Why won't that family forgive?

We need to look all aspects of why not when or how but why?

Have a think about it, you will might be suprised at the outcome of it. Sometimes there is a reason why it happens. You can't just keep blaming the bully all the time.
Now I am not on just the victims side or just the bullies side. I am on both sides to finding out why and to help find a solution to why.

17/05/2024

This picture video is not perfect. It took me a long time to edit to get this far doing it with talking/speech together, (Not perfect at it).
Pink Shirt Day is very important and close to my heart in raising awareness because I have been through it myself.
If you or someone you know is going, please, please, please don't hesitate to reach out for help. I know it can be scary to reach out at times, thinking people won't understand, and you're right......they won't understand unless they have been through it themselves.
As for myself, I found that counsellors didn't help me because even though they may be educated to deal with it through qualifications, how could they understand what you're going through if they haven't been through it themselves. Noone can understand unless they been through it or been through similar situations.
Remember you are not alone, you are enough, you are worthy, you are loved and you can get through it.
To all of you who are going through it or have been through it, stay strong you will get there.

Shirt Day Aotearoa

16/05/2024

As I go out today to do my paper delivery I have done up my trolley for Pink Shirt Day Aotearoa
in my support to raise the awareness.

'Give a toot if you support Pink Shirt Day'

'Give a toot if you support the awareness'

'Give a toot if you support Anti Bullying'

How are you showing your support?

Pink Shirt Day

16/05/2024

Have you been been bullied in your life?

Because you may have been bullied, do you think it's ok to bully another person?

If you have been bullied and it really hurt you like your emotions or to a point where you didn't want to be here anymore. Are you allowing it to continue , or are you doing something about it?

Too many people get bullied over the years around the world which leads to some people being too afraid to speak up or they take their own life. Some people even contemplate taking their own life but they do not. Some people try to take their own life but fail at it.

We even may see lots of people getting bullied but do nothing about it or do not intervene.

It's is time now that you make that call to stand up and speak up to raise the awareness that any kind of bullying is not ok at any time whether be in the home, streets, schools, workplace or social media.

You wouldn't want another life ended in su***de due to bullying now would you.
I know I wouldn't and I have been in that situation before. It is not something that we can take lightly because it can play on your emotions, it can really hurt.

Even sometimes the one that is the bully is showing a way of reaching out because they may have been bullied and the only way they know how to deal with it, is by bullying other people, because what has happened to them, they may think it is ok to bully another person.
Some people may think that bullying other people, it is a joke when it's not.

It's times like these where we need to stand up, stand together, speak up to end all kinds of bullying and raise that awareness.

As you are out and about why not be nice to someone, give them a compliment. This is where you can show that bullying is not the answer. Bullying is not going to solve anything. It will just bring more hate in the world.

Let's stand together to stand up, speak up to raise awareness to stop bullying.

♡ Be an Upstander - Not a Bully ♡

♡ Show Love - Not Hate ♡

Pink Shirt Day Aotearoa