Joi Erni

01/11/2024

Never gossip about your wife to your mother, father, brother, or anyone else. The words you share about her should honor and protect her spirit. Your marriage is built on a foundation of trust, and every word spoken about her should reflect that.

When you marry someone, you choose to love them fully—not just in the good times but in moments of frustration, too. Sharing those frustrations with others can erode the sacred bond between you.

She is pure-hearted. In her, you find a partner who trusts you with her heart and soul. Speaking about her flaws or mistakes to others can chip away at the trust she has placed in you. Instead of airing her imperfections, cherish the qualities that made you fall in love with her. Hold her close in the space of your heart where love, not judgment, resides.

You chose to marry her, not your family. The promises you made to her on your wedding day are a commitment between the two of you, not a matter to be weighed by others. Your marriage is a sacred bond that should not be influenced by the opinions of outsiders, even if they are family. Remember that the unity you share with her is your responsibility to nurture and protect.

She matters to you. Her happiness, well-being, and sense of security in your relationship should be your priority. When you share private details about her with others, it can cause her pain. Instead, keep her close, understanding that she looks to you for the emotional safety of knowing that her heart is safe with you.

When you speak of your wife to others, speak with pride. Focus on her strengths, her kindness, and the beauty of your shared journey. By doing so, you uplift the essence of who she is, showing that your loyalty is not just to her presence but to her spirit. Protecting her name is a reflection of the love you have for her.

Your wife should never feel like she has to compete for your attention or validation with your family. It is your role to ensure that she feels valued, loved, and respected.

The way you speak about her to others will shape how they perceive her and how she feels within your marriage. Make sure that perception is one of love and respect.

No matter the challenges you face together, it’s important to resolve them within the walls of your home, where the bond of trust and understanding is strongest.

Venting to others might provide momentary relief, but it can cause lasting harm to your relationship. Let your home be a space where both of you can openly discuss your feelings without fear of being judged by others.

Your loyalty to your wife is a testament to the strength of your character.

It’s easy to complain when things are hard, but it takes strength to work through those moments with understanding and patience.

When you refrain from gossiping about her, you show that your commitment is unwavering, even in difficult times.

You know that she left her home and family to build a life with you. Honor that choice by being the partner who stands by her side, both in private and in public.

Let her know that she can trust you with her heart and that her secrets are safe with you. The security you provide will only deepen the love you share.

When your wife knows that you speak highly of her, even when she’s not around, it builds a profound sense of trust between you.

It assures her that she is loved for who she is, not just when she is perfect, but even when she is flawed and human.

It’s in this space of safety that true intimacy and connection are born.

Protecting her heart is a daily commitment, not just in grand gestures but in the small choices you make, like choosing to keep your challenges private. It’s about recognizing the power of your words and how they can either build or break the foundation of your love. Choose to build, choose to uplift, and choose to love her in a way that makes her feel cherished every day.

- Abhikesh

27/10/2024

20/10/2024

Mas piliin nalang
manahimik para ipakita
na hindi ka apektado.

— Open Letter.

02/10/2024

Don't leave anything for later.
Later, the coffee gets cold.
Later, you lose interest.
Later, the day turns into night.
Later, people grow up.
Later, people grow old.
Later, life goes by.
Later, you regret not doing something...
When you had the chance.
Life is a fleeting dance, a delicate balance of moments that unfold before us, never to return in quite the same way again.
Regret is a bitter pill to swallow, a weight that bears down upon the soul with the burden of missed chances and unspoken words.
So, let us not leave anything for later. Let us seize the moments as they come, with hearts open and arms outstretched to embrace the possibilities that lie before us. For in the end, it is not the things we did that we regret, but the things we left undone, the words left unspoken, the dreams left unfulfilled.
— Before the Coffee Gets Cold is a 2015 novel by Toshikazu Kawaguchi

30/09/2024

“You handled it so well.” —Yes, because no one noticed the quiet tears I wiped away when no one was looking.

No one heard the loud screams echoing inside my head, the ones I buried deep so no one would ask if I was okay. I learned to smile, to keep it all together when inside I felt like I was falling apart. I didn’t ask for help because I was too used to being the one people leaned on. No one saw the weight I carried, but I carried it nonetheless, hoping one day it would get lighter.

Through all those silent battles, I found a quiet strength I never knew I had. I became my own shoulder to lean on, my own hand to hold when the nights felt too long. It wasn’t easy, but I survived. I’m still here, and somehow, that feels like victory. I’m not unbreakable, but I’ve learned that it’s okay to be fragile and still stand tall.

Maybe that’s what real strength is—continuing even when the world doesn’t see the war you’re fighting.

~ LJ Blossoms, Writer’s Blossoms

~ Art by Duy Huynh

28/09/2024

Let them misinterpret, let them judge—because no matter what you do, some people will only see what they want to see.

They’ll take a fragment of your story and build an entire narrative around it, casting you in a role that suits their version of events. Maybe it’s the way you didn’t respond to a message, or a decision you made when you were at your lowest—they’ll seize those moments and define you by them. And sometimes, no matter how much you explain, they won’t hear you. It happens to all of us. At work, when we’re misunderstood by our colleagues, or in friendships, where they choose to believe a rumor rather than ask us directly. In those moments, the hardest thing to do is to stay quiet and let them think what they want. But that’s where your peace lies.

You don’t need to carry the weight of convincing others of who you really are. We all know what it’s like to be misjudged—to have someone form an opinion based on a single mistake or a brief misunderstanding. But even when you try to clarify, it rarely changes anything if their mind is already set. So, focus instead on building yourself up.

Understand your worth beyond their opinions. In the same way we all stumble through relationships or missteps at work, take those as lessons for growth, not as reasons to shrink back. Because in the end, it’s the quiet confidence of truly knowing yourself that sets you free from their expectations. That’s how people grow, how they become stronger—by letting go of the need to be understood by everyone and learning to stand firm in who they are.

~ MJ Blossoms, Writer’s Blossoms

~ Art 'Empowered' by Janice VanChronkhite

25/09/2024

25/09/2024