21/07/2025
I find it curious how the very people who have no self-control or respect for your feelings are the same ones who demand self-control and respect from you..
Itโs the ultimate hypocrisy.
These are the people who will raise their voice, insult you, lie to your face, betray your trust, and trample over your boundaries without a shred of guilt or awareness โ yet the moment *you* express hurt, anger, or even try to stand up for yourself, suddenly youโre the one whoโs โtoo emotional,โ โtoo sensitive,โ or โoverreacting.โ
They expect you to stay calm while they rage.
They expect you to be respectful while theyโre being disrespectful.
They expect you to forgive them over and over, while they hold grudges over the smallest things.
They expect patience from you while offering none in return.
They live by a double standard, where *they* get to be flawed, reactive, and impulsive โ but *you* must be composed, agreeable, and endlessly tolerant. And if you dare mirror their behavior or respond in kind, they will call you toxic, crazy, or unstable.
Itโs not just frustrating โ itโs mentally and emotionally exhausting.
Whatโs even more maddening is that many of these people arenโt clueless. They know theyโre crossing lines. They just donโt care. In their minds, the rules are only meant to apply to *other* people โ not themselves. Itโs a sense of entitlement, often rooted in deep insecurity and lack of emotional maturity.
This kind of behavior is manipulative. Itโs designed to keep you in a constant state of guilt, confusion, and self-doubt. You end up tiptoeing around their moods, silencing your own emotions, and trying to meet impossible standards โ while they give themselves permission to behave however they want.
But here's the truth: **Respect is a two-way street.** Self-control should never be a one-sided expectation. No one has the right to demand calm, respectful behavior from you while actively provoking, hurting, or disrespecting you.
You donโt owe anyone your silence just because theyโre uncomfortable with your truth.
Healthy relationships involve mutual respect, accountability, and emotional safety โ not double standards that leave you drained and diminished. You have the right to expect the same basic decency that others expect from you. Donโt let anyone convince you otherwise.
