02/11/2025
Good women donβt have bad taste in men β itβs narcissistic men that have good taste in good women, because they know exactly who to target. They donβt chase chaos; they chase kindness. They seek out women with empathy, loyalty, and strength β the ones who forgive easily, love deeply, and see potential in people even when itβs buried under red flags. To a narcissist, a good woman isnβt just a partner; sheβs an endless source of supply β admiration, emotional labor, and validation they could never give themselves.
At first, he studies her like a project. He mirrors her values, reflects her dreams, and pretends to be everything sheβs ever prayed for. He listens, compliments, and pays attention to every detail. Itβs not love β itβs data collection. Heβs learning her triggers, her weaknesses, and what makes her light up so he can later control that light. To her, it feels like fate. To him, itβs strategy. Narcissists are rarely attracted to women who are weak; they want women strong enough to carry the relationship alone when things start to fall apart.
Soon, the mask starts to slip. The same man who once adored her now criticizes her. The compliments turn into comparisons, the listening turns into silent treatments, and the charm transforms into control. He begins to drain her confidence while convincing her that sheβs the problem. And because sheβs a good woman, she tries harder. She gives more, forgives more, and prays more β hoping that the man she met in the beginning is still somewhere inside. But the truth is, he never existed. He was only a reflection of who she is.
By the time she realizes whatβs happening, sheβs emotionally exhausted and mentally confused. She questions her worth, doubts her instincts, and starts to believe that maybe she really does have βbad taste in men.β But the reality is, she didnβt fall for a man β she fell for a performance. The narcissist wore her love like a costume, and when she finally saw behind the mask, she wasnβt looking at a lover, but an actor who thrived on her light.
So no, good women donβt have bad taste in men. Narcissistic men just have excellent taste in good women. They know the kind of heart that will keep loving even when it hurts. But hereβs the power twist β once a good woman learns to love herself the way she used to love him, she becomes the one thing a narcissist canβt control or destroy. Her empathy turns into wisdom, her pain turns into strength, and her heart becomes her shield.
