MOMderful.life of Jho

16/07/2025

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Isang babae na binubuo ulit ang sarili, habang bumubuo ng buhay ng iba, at bumubuo ng pamilya..

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Pagkatapos manganak ng isa babae, akala ng iba, balik normal ka na agad.
Pero ang totoo?
Malayo pa.
Malayong malayo pa—-
Physically, mentally, emotionally…
Roller coaster changes!!

Let me tell you a little bit more about what new moms really go through:

💔 6+ months
- para maghilom ang sugat ng panganganak –
Taon kung CS pa yan..
sa labas mukang okay na..
pero ung tahi, skin recovery, matress!
It really takes time..

💔 12+ months para makabawi ang katawan – kasi kahit bumalik na sa dati ang timbang, hindi pa rin bumabalik ang dati mong lakas.

💔 2 years para maayos ang hormones –
Hairfall, weight—
Yung feeling na bawat suklay, dami ng buhok na natatanggal, minsan iiyak ka na lang kasi parang nawawala ka na.
Hindi lang buhok ang nalalagas, pati na ang confidence, self-esteem, at minsan, yung pakiramdam mo na ikaw pa ba ‘to?

💔 Up to 5 years para mahanap ulit ang sarili – kasi natutok ka na lang sa pagiging nanay, minsan nakakalimutan mo na kung sino ka noon, ano ba ang mga pangarap mo, at ano yung nagpapasaya sa’yo maliban sa anak mo.

💔 Hormonal changes na minsan, hindi mo maintindihan – biglang lungkot, biglang inis, biglang iyak, biglang galit. Tapos iisipin mo, “Bakit ba ako ganito?” Pero totoo, hindi mo kasalanan. Yung hormones, parang roller coaster, and it’s hard to explain to someone who hasn’t been there.

Ang daming pagod na need eembrace- pagod na hindi nakikita ng iba..
Walanf tulog pero kailangan pa ring ngumiti. Yung gusto mo na lang umiyak pero kailangan magpakatatag para sa anak mo. Yung gusto mong sabihin, “Teka lang, pagod na ako,” pero hindi mo masabi kasi iniisip mo, baka isipin nila mahina ka.

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Kaya sa mga tatay, mga partners, at mga taong nakapaligid sa isang bagong ina:

Please, be kind. Be patient. Be loving.
Mahirap, oo- pero gagaan kapag my support system sa mga kasama nya sa bahay.

Hindi lang siya basta nanay. Isa siyang babae na nagbubuo ulit ng sarili, habang binubuo ang buhay ng iba.

Kung may kakilala kang bagong ina, yakapin mo siya.
Sabihan mo siya na
“Ang galing mo, Mama. Proud ako sa’yo.”
Praise her…
Kasi minsan, iyon lang ang kailangan niyang marinig para makabangon ulit.🥹

Ang sarap gampanan ang role ng pagiging asawa at nanay kapag lagi syang may karamay, katuwang at kakampi..

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MOMderful.life with Mommy Jho

16/07/2025

Eh kac ano…

Yung huling binili ko eto - 5 years na kame. Naipagmamalaki pa din sa sampayan😂
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15/07/2025

Naka ilang oras na ba ko ng tulog? 🥲

15/07/2025

Kaya nga. Why ganun? 🤔🤔🤔

14/07/2025

Just a random post - flexing my “duty-buddy”😂
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14/07/2025

𝗜𝘀 𝗶𝘁 𝗺𝘆 𝗳𝗮𝘂𝗹𝘁?🥺
Today, I raised my voice…
I sent my child to his room after I let him face the wall…
I said things I didn’t really mean…

And after—- this question has been playing in my head all day.🥺

𝗜'𝗺 𝘁𝗼𝗿𝗻…
Was I being unreasonable?
Or did they really need to be taught a lesson?

Am I just too tired?
Or are they just too much today?

Was that punishment deserved?
Or was it a reflection of how drained I am?

Because honestly…
Maybe, if I were a more present mom —
The one who always calmly explains the difference between good and bad,
Who always responds with patience,
Who always has time to kneel down to their level and say, “𝙎𝙬𝙚𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙩, 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙤𝙠𝙖𝙮, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚’𝙨 𝙬𝙝𝙮…”

Maybe they wouldn’t have acted that way.
Maybe they would’ve understood better.
Maybe they wouldn’t push my buttons so hard.

But instead,
I’m the mom who’s trying to hold it all together.
Who’s working, hustling, providing —
Giving them everything I never had,
While feeling like I’m giving them none of me.

And so when they act out,
I wonder — Did they really misbehave?
Or are they just aching for attention I haven’t been able to give?

And when I lose it,
I wonder — Am I disciplining them?
Or just displacing my exhaustion?

Because truthfully…
I know, they’re just kids.
Learning. Testing. Feeling.
BUT I’m just a mom.
Doing her best. Fighting silent battles.
Carrying invisible weights —- loving them..

𝗦𝗼 𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘁 𝗺𝘆 𝗳𝗮𝘂𝗹𝘁?
𝗜𝘀 𝗶𝘁 𝗢𝗨𝗥 𝗳𝗮𝘂𝗹𝘁…

…for trying to be everything,
…while feeling like we’re not enough?
…for loving them so much,
…that it breaks us when we fall short?

And I feel so sorry for what I did…

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If you ever felt this — you’re not alone.
We’re not perfect moms.
We’re real moms.
With real love, real limits, and real guilt.

And maybe that guilt just means we care enough to reflect.
To try better tomorrow.

To keep showing up —
Not as perfect,

But as present as we possibly can be.

We are all doing great 🫂

MOMderful.life of Jho

13/07/2025

Oh dba lunes ulit bukas …

12/07/2025

Izzzzaaa prank😏

12/07/2025

Sakto weekend ngayon. Galaw galaw😂

11/07/2025

11/07/2025

So trueee!🥺

🎥 The Straw
Single mom ka?
Ready ka ng tissue!!

Nung una sabi ko—-
“Grabe naman!”
“ Sunud-sunod namang kamalasan yan…”
“ Parang ang OA naman na”

But while watching and habang lumalalin yung kwento…
Ang daming realizations….
Na oo nga no? - possible, possible talagang magsabay sabay…
Lalo pag MAG ISA kang nagtataguyod ng mga responsibilidad na dapat may katuwang ka…

Then this line hits me!

“Be careful who you have a baby with.”

And suddenly…
it’s no longer just a line—it’s a cry!
A scream muffled by years of quiet SACRIFICE & SUFFERINGS.

WE watched Straw thinking it would be another dramatic piece from Tyler Perry—pero hindi!!
This one is a reality!
This wasn’t just about a woman having a very bad and unlucky day…

This was about EVERY mother who’s ever been abandoned, ignored, or expected to carry everything alone.

This movie channeled the voices of millions of women na di na marunong humingi ng tulong kasi ang tagal na nilang lumalaban mag-isa.

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Then ito talaga, when Taraji Henson said…

“Be careful who you have a baby with.”

Like — oo nga no?

Tapos marerealize mo nalang na sobrang possible talaga na yung nanay tuloy pa din ilalaban pa ang magandang buhay para sa anak …
Habang yung tatay - wala… walang pakeelam.
Hindi mahagilap!
Walang bay*g!

Yung nanay ayun, bumubuhay ng bata habang sinasalo ang judgment ng mundo!
Na naanakan lang…
Na nabuntisan lang yan…

Pero tuloy lang…

Kasi sa mata ng iba…
Pag single mom ka,
“Nagkulang ka.”
“Nagkamali ka.”
“Pinili mo yan.”

So yes… please!

“Be careful who you have a baby with.”
Consider that as a life and de@th choice ..

Kaso sa totoo naman diba?
Ang pipiliin mong magiging tatay ng anak mo—
pwedeng maging kasama mo sa laban sa buhay ,
o sya mismo ang maging dahilan ng pagkalugmok, at paghihirap mo…
At sa totoo lang—- nakakab@liw!!!

Kaya kung ikaw ‘tong nanay na ito—
Yung iniwan pero hindi bumitaw…
Yung mag-isa, pagod pero di pa rin bumitaw…
Single moms…

NapakaSaludo po namin sa inyo.
Nakakahanga yung strength and dedication nyo para maitawid yung laban na kayo lang mga single parents nakakaalam… 🥹