25/10/2025
A Sin that Women Suffer too (But scared to admit)
There’s no more frightening place to sit than alone in the shadows with your sin. The decay of sin’s destruction is not a metaphor. It is real, consuming, and silent. But what if some of our pulpits, in their good intentions, are helping people stay hidden in those shadows?
We talk boldly about total depravity, predestination etc, yet when a pastor addresses “the men’s problem” of po*******hy, the silence in the room deepens for the women who struggle too. The Word exposes all sin without distinction. So why has the church chosen to whisper when women fall into the same bo***ge?
I have read testimonies that carry both pain and redemption. Some women once enslaved to sexual addiction, others scarred by exploitation. Whether through po*******hy, manipulation, or trauma, the wound is the same - sin that shames, isolates, and lies. The world normalizes it; technology like smartphones multiply it. The result? P**n users have not only soared - they’ve left no age group, demographic or gender unharmed.
That said, we must stop assuming po*******hy is a men’s problem because it’s not. IT’S A HUMAN PROBLEM.
“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and He will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation, He will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13)
In context, Paul is addressing two specific temptations: sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 10:8) and grumbling (1 Corinthians 10:10). Paul calls these sins “common” because they are regular temptations everyone faces. The apostle Paul was not writing to men only. He addressed the whole church. When pastors assume sexual sin belongs to men, they leave half the congregation abandoned in their shame. When the church ignores this sin among women, we WITHHOLD GRACE and HELP from those who need it most. The gospel is not gendered. Christ’s blood does not discriminate.
Jesus met the woman at the well in her shame and confronted her sin, not to condemn her but to redeem her. He said, “Whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again.” (John 4:14) Grace found her when others avoided her. The same Saviour who restored her still calls women today out of silence into life.
Paul urged the older women in Titus 2:3–5 to teach what is good and to train the younger women to be self-controlled, pure, and reverent. It is time for the elderly women to stand up and help their younger sisters. Silence has never protected the church; truth has.
When a sin is left unspoken, it becomes a fortress for Satan. When pastors avoid uncomfortable topics, sin festers under the cover of decency. BUT WHEN WE MAKE A PARTICULAR SIN TABOO FROM THE PULPIT OR ANYWHERE ELSE IN THE CHURCH, IT CREATES POCKETS OF DARKNESS WHERE SIN CAN FLOURISH. SHELTERED BY SILENCE AND FED BY SHAME, THE UNADDRESSED SIN DESTROYS LIVES.
“Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.” (Proverbs 28:13)
The Bible never presents confession as weakness but as worship. David said, “When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long.” (Psalm 32:3) Hidden sin always kills joy. But when confession breaks forth, mercy flows freely.
Confession in Scripture is never meant to be private isolation but humble restoration. We first confess to God, for only He can forgive sin. David declared, “I acknowledged my sin to You, and You forgave the iniquity of my sin.” (Psalm 32:5) Every sin is ultimately against God, and therefore it must be laid bare before Him in repentance. Yet the Bible also commands, “Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed.” (James 5:16)
Sisters, this means your battle is not to be fought in silence. Find mature, godly women who walk in truth and humility, as Titus 2:3–5 instructs. Let them walk with you, pray for you, and remind you of the mercy of Christ. True confession brings both forgiveness and healing - forgiveness from God and healing through His people.
Your shame is not stronger than His mercy. “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9) Jesus answers your loneliness with His comfort, your guilt with His righteousness, and your longing with His presence. Come into the light. Confess to the Lord, and find fellowship with those who will lift you up in grace, not in judgment. For those who walk in the light, the blood of Jesus cleanses from all sin. (1 John 1:7)
Pastors and elders, po*******hy is not a male problem. It is a human one. The gospel demands that we speak plainly, teach wisely, and shepherd faithfully. To those who struggle - come into the light. The One who forgave the woman caught in adultery still says, “Neither do I condemn you; go, and from now on sin no more.” (John 8:11)
Church, rise up. Do not let silence protect sin. Do not let shame silence your sisters. Speak truth, extend grace, and bear one another’s burdens, for this is the law of Christ (Galatians 6:2). When the church opens her mouth for the bound and the broken, she reflects her Redeemer - the One who broke our chains and called us into the light.
He, who has ears to hear, let him hear.
Jeremiah Knight
The Reformation Resurgence