25/12/2025
LOVE ME IN MY LOVE LANGUAGE WHILE I LOVE YOU IN YOURS.
In every single relationships I've been in, I've given everything I've had to offer.
I thought LOVE was SIMPLE.
That gifts, time, attention was the blueprint for a successful relationship. But all my relationships failed because I thought LOVE was a universal language...
But the problem wasn't effort...
I'd show up, give everything, stay consistent..
They show up, give everything, stay consistent..
And yet we'd both end up FEELING NEGLECTED because...we were completely blind to the fact that the other person wasn't feeling loved at all, because when I'd write paragraphs at 3am, she needed me to be there with her.
When she'd plan thoughtful surprises, I needed her to remind me she loved me, because the most dangerous lessons we were taught was that...LOVE IS JUST SHOWING UP and trying our best.
Because without realising it, we love selfishly, and we end up giving love the way we understand.
And the hardest truth about love is... good intentions don't equal connection and effort doesn't equal understanding, because love isn't proven by how much you give, it's proven by how much they feel.