09/05/2026
Hindi lahat ng “naalala ko siya” ay relapse.
Lately, madalas nating marinig online:
“Relapse malala, na-miss ko ex ko.”
Gets naman. Minsan may kanta, lugar, amoy, date, or memory na biglang nagpapabalik ng bigat. Bigla mong maaalala yung taong akala mo okay ka na. Bigla kang malulungkot. Bigla kang magkakaroon ng urge na i-chat siya, i-check profile niya, or balikan yung dating version mo.
Pero gentle reminder: hindi lahat ng emotional pain na bumabalik ay relapse.
Sometimes, it is a trigger.
Sometimes, it is grief.
Sometimes, it is longing.
Sometimes, it is your nervous system remembering what once felt familiar.
Sometimes, it is an old attachment wound asking for attention.
Clinically, relapse usually means the return of symptoms, harmful patterns, or a condition after a period of improvement or recovery. Mas mabigat siya kaysa simpleng “naalala ko ulit.”
Kaya kapag na-miss mo siya, hindi ibig sabihin bumalik ka sa zero.
Kapag nalungkot ka ulit, hindi ibig sabihin wala kang progress.
Kapag may urge kang bumalik, hindi ibig sabihin talo ka na.
Minsan, ang tunay na progress ay hindi yung wala ka nang nararamdaman.
Minsan, progress is:
naalala mo siya, pero hindi ka na naghabol.
nasaktan ka, pero hindi mo na sinira sarili mo.
na-trigger ka, pero alam mo na kung paano alagaan sarili mo.
namiss mo siya, pero hindi mo na ginawang dahilan para bumalik sa cycle na nakasakit sayo.
Healing does not always mean the feeling disappeared.
Sometimes, healing means the feeling came back, but you responded with more wisdom this time.
So maybe instead of saying, “Nag-relapse ako,” we can say:
“Na-trigger ako.”
“Bumalik yung feelings for a moment.”
“May emotional setback ako today.”
“Naalala ko siya, pero I am still choosing myself.”
Because remembering is not always relapsing.
Missing someone is not always going backward.
And feeling pain again does not erase the healing you fought hard for.
