Jham

03/06/2025

"Waday kumaan, wada abey sumawang"

I often heard this phrase from my friends and even from my own lips. "Aw, waday kumaan nem dibale wadan tu abey sumawang." It implies self-comfort, not only from broken hearts but everything in our lives.

Ad adduy umali, ipugaw man sa uno namateryalan ay banag. Maminsan et ad adduy mamaga gapo si "hindi inaasahan" ay kanan da. Nem sinay ay banag et waday planon di Namarsuwa. San barkada wennu gayyem man sa et wada ay kumaan da, tan baken sisay di paran sika. San materyal et wada ay madadael dasa, wenno mamaga en sika tan baken syay nakasagana para en sika. Sin biyag et "ad adu di mamaga". Nem din planon di Namarsuwa, wada ay nawaywaya. Din damag sin nemnem mo et masungbatan tu dasa, "ay isunga baw namaga di tan kaman dana." Sin biyag et nu baken pran sika kaanen Apo, tan waday insagana na ay mas maymayat paran sika.

Ed wani waday namaga, nem si bigat waday sumawang ay ragsak paran sika. Mantalek ka en Apo tan adi bumaybay an sisya, kanayon ay way insasagana na para en sik-a.

God always has sweet, lovely surprises for us – if only we can be patient. We must slow down and open our space, schedules, and minds to provide room to receive God’s blessings – so that we can see and listen for them. These blessings can be in the most unexpected places and the most mundane ordinary moments of life.

28/05/2025

26/05/2025

"Es-estem"

Es-estem is a Kankana-ey expression that basically means "always do your best". Every time I hear this phrase from my parents, uncles/aunties, manangs/ manongs, and other acquaintances, I felt motivated.

"Es-estem eskwelam enggana ay makalpas ka, narigat man ed wani nem wada ay kayaem sa. San adal anggey di enmi maipatawid en sik-a tan maga di nalawas garden takus engkan tu pan-ublaan. Isunga, es-estem san eskwelam." I often hear this advice from my parents, and it is indeed motivating. Hearing their expression, "es-estem kanak," pushes me to give my best. Every time I feel like giving up, I always remind myself of this advice from my parents. It is a powerful tool for me to go on in my journey. No matter what happens, "kanayon ay ennak es-esten, tan ammuk et waday kasukat danan rigrigat si naragsak ya maymaymayat ay bigat."

If you're feeling unmotivated, "es-estem, kayam sa, ituloy mo tan enggay dandani ka sin murdong din danan mo."

25/05/2025

Anusam, Wada py dedan.
(persevere)

Apay ngata ay ad addu di maupay nu enggay dandani da sin murdong di danan da? Apay ngata ta ad adduy sumadot yan enggay ay magaw at dan susi para sin ruwangan ay layden da?
I really can't afford this word, "anusam". It's too expensive for me. But as I witnessed those people who became successful because of the word "anusam," I believed in it.

Begew si kinakurang kayman di "panakaanus" et ad adduy maupay. Maminsan et permi ay umuga ta begew si kinarigat di biyag. Ubla, eskwela wenno sino man dasa et talaga ay waday dumateng di padas. "Usto et, enggay nabayak. Adak et kaya." Ngem ay sigurado ka? Ay wada ngata di maalam nu kaman dasa ka? Ay magun od mo ngata di arapaap mo sin biyag nu isardeng mo san nirugiam? Kanana sin kanta, "Ilaem san ginawang, ad addu di ena pandanan. Maekgas essan deppas, maurnong essan pusong. Kaman dasa di biyag sinan daga, ad addu di rigat na. Ngem kaman san ginawang, maymayat si il ilan." Kaman din sinay ay kanta, sin biyag et ad adduy rigat ay mapadas, ngem din biyag et ad adduy nalawag ay parte na. Narigat kayman di bumangon si binigat tan kaman enggay adi kaya begew sin udom ay banag ay ka up upayan. Ngem ANUSAM, WADA PY DEDAN. Anusam ed wani tan si bigat et wada py dedan di subalit dasa ay saksakripisyom.

"Isunga adi kayon emegyat tan sak-en ay Diyos yo di mangadkadwa en dakayo. Papigsaek ya badangak dakayo, salaknibak ya isalakan kos dakayo sin panakabalin ko." —ISAIAH 41:10

24/05/2025

Reminiscing Childhood

The ache of nostalgia pulls at me, a constant tug back to simpler times. As a child, I wished, "Ayuuu, laydek abe ay madakdake" – I wanted to grow up. I saw only the shining paths of my elders, the respected mamanangs and mamanongs, aiming for their success. "Nu madakdake ak abe et manpabaknangak, man balinak ay abogado," I'd whisper – when I get to be on that age, I'll be a lawyer. I didn't see the shadows, the struggles hidden beneath the surface of their achievements. Adulthood, in my child's mind, was a kingdom of "anything is possible."

Oh, how naive I was. The reality is a crushing weight. Sometimes, all I want is to sleep, to recapture the innocence of those carefree days. To return to the garden, to work alongside my parents, and to rest when tired. But that child is gone, replaced by a grown woman burdened by responsibilities. The playful days are a fading dream, replaced by the relentless demands of learning, growing, and facing tomorrow's uncertainties. The world isn't a kingdom, it's a battlefield, and I'm still learning to fight.

If you are still a child, please, hold onto your innocence. Don't rush this precious time. The lessons will come, the hardships will arrive, but the joy, the simple, unburdened joy of childhood – that is a treasure beyond price, a treasure you will one day long to reclaim. Don't let it slip away. "Habang an anak ka paylang, ganasem et kinaubing mo. Aytan samo nalaka'y man biyag nu enggay masiken ka. Ad adu pylang di pandaanam, baken lang wat sisay" (While you're still a 'kid', enjoy your life, have fun You'll experience a roller coasters when you enter the world, called life.) -elders.

23/05/2025

Insecurities✍️

Hello:)I'm sitting here, fingers on the keyboard, about to spill my guts about something that's been weighing me down for as long as I can remember— insecurities. It's not easy to talk about this stuff. I mean, who wants to admit that they're not confident all the time? But here I am, taking a deep breath and hoping that by sharing my story, you might feel a little less alone in your own struggles.

I've always been my own worst critic. I look in the mirror and instead of seeing a unique and beautiful person, I see all the things that I think are wrong with me. My skin color? Too dark. My size? Too big. My height ? Not enough. It's like my brain is on a constant loop of negative self-talk, and I can't seem to turn it off.

I compare myself to others all the time. I see those perfect-looking people on social media and wonder why I can't be more like them. I think that if I had a lighter complexion, a slimmer body, or a more attractive height , people would like me more. But the truth is, no matter how much I change on the outside, I still feel the same way on the inside.

Insecurities have a way of sneaking up on you when you least expect it. One minute, you're feeling okay, and the next, someone says something or does something that triggers all those negative thoughts and feelings. It could be a comment about your appearance, a rejection from a friend or a crush, or just a bad day at work. Whatever it is, it can make you feel like you're not good enough.

I can still recall people saying, "Wahh, Tinmaba ka et yay. Ayase, nangisit ka mo!" And every time I heard those words, I felt an overwhelming urge to burst into tears. My heart would sink, and all I wanted to do was let out a loud, long cry.

But you know what? This feelings taught me a lot. It taught me that I can't base my self-worth on what other people think of me. It taught me that I need to love myself for who I am, flaws and all. And it taught me that I'm not alone. Everyone has insecurities, no matter how confident they may seem on the outside.

So, if you're reading this and you're struggling with insecurities, I want you to know that you're not alone. You are beautiful, you are strong, and you are worthy of love and acceptance. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. We can face our insecurities in every step of the way.

22/05/2025

Gender Stereotype

When a guy and a girl hang out, or two people who happened to just be “inseparable” it does not mean they're dating. No such thing as a “girl best friend” or a “boy best friend”. The essence of friendship should not be tied to a gender stereotype. There are always skeptics and gossipmongers when you spend time alone with someone and show acts of intimacy with them, which only proves some people have only allowed themselves with stereotypical friendships and not experienced platonic ones or a deeper form of friendship.

Normal friendships are made because they have similarities, while Platonics arise because they conquer differences. Affection and care should not be mistaken to exist only in romantic relationships. They are universal qualities that nurture every relationship. When people are intrigued by two people caring for one another, they reveal a part of them that's only dependent on romantic dates for affection and undermine what platonic friendships are made for.

✍️ credits://He Writes For Him//

20/05/2025

//HAGIT//: A bisaya word which means challenge (pagsubok).Life is full of surprises:challenges are part of it. "When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee." —Isaiah 43:2 (KJV)

19/05/2025

"When Coffee Turns Cold" ☕️

"When coffee gets cold," it usually means things aren't fresh anymore. But this is a different story.

Someone says, "enta agkape?", a simple invitation. We meet, get our coffee, but we don't drink it right away. We let it get cold. It seems strange, but there's a reason.

We stay for a long time, just talking. We share our worries, our happy things, our problems—everything. It's not a quick chat; it's a real conversation. We go to the cafe to talk, to connect with each other. We need that time.

By the time the coffee is cold, we feel lighter, calmer. It's not the coffee that makes us feel better; it's the talking, the sharing, the time spent together. The cold coffee is just a reminder of how long we talked, how much we shared, and how much it helped. It's a simple thing, but it means a lot.

So when you're feeling blue, "enta agkape". And we'll wait for the coffee to turn cold before we drink it.

18/05/2025

Storya ti Ayat

Hi, syak gayam ni Cia (not my real name). I want to share a story about my lovelife— nu kasanu dak nga insala ni AYAT . I was highschool before edi na am ammuk dytui nga lalaki. Ilemmeng tayo isuna ti nagan nga Makmak, ka klasek metlang isuna ti highschool. Maibagak nga nasingpet isuna uray nu la ag tatalna ta kanayon ko nga ob observaren ti garaw na. Han ko ammu nu edi damu ket kayat ko suna wennu ma am amazed ak lang kinyana ta throughout my observation ket makitkitak nga nasimpet isuna ken nalaing nga ag kansyon la ta sabayan na py ti panag gitara. Nalaing isuna ti eskwela ken matured nga ag panunot. Han kme nga close ngem gapu sguro ta kayat ko isuna ket kanayon ko buybuyaen ti garaw na isunga ma am ammuak ti kinatao na.

Limmabas ti 2 tawen nga kasjy ak kanayon kinyana, awan dadduma nga kinayat ko nu di ket isuna lang. Pinadas ko garud maki am ammu ta naichamba nga ka grupok iti maysa nga project idjy eskwelaan mi. Jak met nagkamali ta nagsingpet nga talaga gapu ta idi nag kadkadwa kme ti project ket mayat ti inpakpakita na kanyak. Nag assume ak nga kayat nak ta permi kinasingsingpet na nem nalipatak nga kasjy lang talaga isuna. Asidegen garud malps dytui nga project ket naadaan nak ti turod nga umamin kanyana, binmain nak ti sungbat na edi nagkatongtong kme. "Makmak, kasanu ngay ti panag biyag?" "Mayat met ladta Cia, ne sabali ti itsuram tadta ah, Adda samet ti ibagam ah?" "Ah Mak, madik mailimed gamin dytui marikriknak kanyam, kaykayat ka edi pylaeng damo nga nakita ka". Naadaan kme garud ti silence nga makunkuna enggana nag sao manen isuna ket haan ko ammu nu agbain nak wenno maayatan nak idjy imbagana. "Cia, awan ti lalaki nga han nga mangkayat kinyam, nem jak ammu ti isungbat ko iti ayat mo kanyak ta ubing tayo pay ken kayat ko py makaadal. Salamat dta kunam nga marikriknam, nem nu data talaga, addan tu ti tiempo, han lang nga tadta."

Nagmayat ti panag end ti tontongan mi edi ket kunak nu dyay en ti last nga tongtongan mi nem nagrugi edi nga aldaw mas naging close kme pay. Nakitak ti kina mature na uray nu la G10 kme pylang edi. Agyamanak met ken isuna ta gapu iti haan na panagadayo kanyak sipud edi nag confess ak kenyana ket mas na inspire ak pay nga agbasa nga nalaing. Gapu ngarud nga makitkitak isuna nga ag ef effort academically ket ma mot motivate ak met to do the same. I was so amazed ta compared iti dadduma nga lalaki idjy eskwelaan mi ket isuna dyay tipo nga haan nga nalaka nga ma distract. Ag eskwela nga nalaing ken maki hang out lang iti friends na nu adda time na. With that kind of person ket han ko maiwasan nga mas ma admire pay isuna, nem adda nga kanayon idjy panunot ko dyay nga inbagana.

Dimteng garud ti moving up nga makuna ket naragsakak ta adda award ko, gapu ta motivated nak nga nag ad adal. Maragsakan nak met para kinyana ta addu metla ti award na. Nag start garud ti bakasyon ket han kon suna nakitkita, enggana inchat ko met isunan tapnu agpa kamusta. Nagreply met dagus ket nagkamusta, nagrugi garud idjy ti conversation mi (as a friend). Ngem gapu ta syak ket talaga nga grabe ti pagka crush ko kinyana, nag as assume nak nga talaga nga addan tu kuma nga maging dakame. Nag tultuloy ti panag chachat mi enggana enrollment manen ti senior high nem gapu ta agsinabali ti strand nga kayat mi ken sabali nga eskwelaan pag enroll an mi haan kon manen isuna makita. Nag start ti klase nga han kmen ag chachat. Limmabas ti duwa tawen ti senior high enggana nag gradwar kme ket in congratulate ko isuna via chat ken kasta met iti sungbat na kinyak.

Enrollment manen iti kolehiyo ket nag take nak ti kurso nga Psychology nga makunkuna gapu ta kayat ko nga maadal nu kasanu ti panag panpanunot ti maysa tao. Ken kayat ko nu makitak manen isuna ket ma i apply ko dytui nga naadal ko hehe. Isuna met ket in try ko nga kamustaen ta damagek nu anya iti kurso nga i pursue na ket kunana nga ag Criminology kanu isuna. Gasem man ta talaga nga inpursue na ti in is storya na kanyak edi. Kasta garud ket adda nga kanayon idjy panunot ko dyay inbagana nga "ag eskwela ta pay nu data talaga ket data nga talaga". Garud ket inistimar ko tu panagbasbasak, talaga nga naka tutok nak ti panagadal ko. Kanayon ko isuna i s stalk ti social media na uray nu awan ti barbaru nga post na ta makitak lang isuna ket ma motivate nak hehe.

Kasta sidegen ti panag ga gradwar mi iti kolehiyo. Nagmayat ti isem iti pamilyak edi inbagak nga ag gradwar nga nga maysa iti makunkuna nga Cum Laude. Gapu garud ta inis istimar ko iti panagadal ko, ma proud iti pmilyak kenyak. Kasta met kinne Mr. Criminology (Makmak) inmuna nga nag gradwar gapu ta sabali ti eskwelaan na ket nabalitaak met nga isuna ket nag gradwar a kas Magna Cum Laude idjy eskwelaan da. In congratulate ko met via messenger ket medjo sabali ti marikriknak gapu ta nagado message na kanyak. Kunak nu agpasalamat lang ket malpsen iti conversation mi. "Salamat Cia! Sika ngay kaanu ka met ag graduate?" Kasjy ti damag na ket basta nag tuloy conversation mi. Limmabas ti 3 days ket sikami met ag gradwar. Nag pa pintasak met a ta uray la nabanbannog tayo nga nagad adal ket napintas tay ladta nga ag gradwar. Kasta garud ket nagna ak iti stage nga kadwak ti parents ko ken mayat edi isem da makasangit da py ta dyay anak da nga kapintasan ket naka gradwar ti kolehiyo a kas Cum Laude.

Fast forward, nag take nak ti review tapnu ag take nak ti board exam. Haan ko manen nalipatan nga kamustaen ni Makmak ket ag rev review metlang kanu ta ag take isuna board exam. Kasta garud ket naawan manen ti conversation mi ta maawatak nga talaga nga dapat ag focus kme iti review mi. Nag take nak garud ti exam ket kaasi ti Apo naka pasa ak itu first take ko. Agyamanak la unay iti amin nga suporta nagapo iti pmilyak ken iti amin nga kakabsat nga sinmupruporta kenyak. Iraman ko dytui Mr. Criminology nga naging inspiration ko ken nang motivate kanyak. Kalpsan na ket inuray ko met ti result iti board exam ti Criminology ket nakitak iti nagan na. Maragsakan nak pra kenyana ket in congratulate ko met. Nag reply met ket haan nga thank you ti reply na nu di ket "congrats met Cia, enta agkape?" Kasta garud ket in accept ko met iti offer na nga ag kape kano. Rimwar kme garud ket permi ti isem ko ta dyay crush ko idi ket nagayab nga agkape. Haan ko nga mailemmeng iti isem ko karu ta idi nagkita kme manen ket permi nga nag gwapo isuna, nagado nagbaliw kanyana, naporma ken mayat ti isem na nga karkaro.

Simrek kme garud ti kapean ket nag is isturya kme panggep iti biyag ken naplpalabas nga challenges mi. Nag tultuloy ti panag is isturya mi enggana nagdamag isuna ti " Cia, adda gayyem mon?" kunana nga kintawaak. "Ayapo Makmak, baka adda asawakon nu nag gayem nak, baka hannak kadwa ditoi nga ag kapkape tadta nu adda gayyem ko." kunak iti sungbat ko nga iniseman na lang ken intuloy na nga agsao "Ammum Cia, 7 yrs ago inmamin ka kenyak. Dijjy nga aldaw inmisem ti pusok gapo ta kayat ka metlang edi. Nem gapu ti standard iti pamilyak, kayat ko pay nga malps ti panagadal ko sakbay nak nga maki gayyem. Edi kanayon nak nga kamustaen ken dinak lipatan nga i congratulate idi, permi unay ti ragsak ko. Tadta nga nlps tan ti panagdal, nakapasa ta nga pada iti board exam, kayat ko kuma nga sika met ti i pursuek." Makasangitak iti speech ni Makmak ket shempre gapu garud ta pada kme nga nakapalpas ket apay ag arte nak paylang aya ket kaykayat ko dytui nga tao, ket shempre nag wen nak.

After 8 months ti panagarem na garud ket sinungbatak ti ayat na. Napalabas ti maysa tawen ket inpa am ammu dak ti parents na ken kasta met iti parents ko. Ket agpatingga garud ti isturya ni ayat kenyak ditoi. Kayat ko lang ipa remind kenyayo nga ag uray kayo ta NU TALAGA NGA LOVE DYTA, IT WILL MAKE A WAY.

✍🏽 Cia

The story is posted here but written by an anonymous person. Share your stories with us. (family, friendship, situationship or any relationship) ❤️

17/05/2025

"GAGANGAY NASA"

A phrase often used to comfort someone. "Gagangay na sa." It conveys a sense of reassurance, similar to 'everything happens for a reason.' ". If you're vulnerable,"gagangay na sa". If you feel sad, seems like you're carrying the whole world, "Gagangay na sa".

Everything happens for a reason. "GAGANGAY NASA, LUMAG-AN TU METLANG SAS BIGAT". Gagangay nasa, waday labis kaseyepan, ya pan inanaan. Nu kasapulam di inana, wadas Diyos Ama, kararag di agas nisa!

Song By: Raiya