08/01/2026
Just engaged! Looking for positivity.
Hi all! I got engaged recently. To be honest, I know very little about fine jewelry and didn't have some specific look I wanted before my partner and I began discussing it. As we researched, I knew I wanted yellow gold, sapphire (not a diamond center stone), and that it needed to be sturdy because I am clumsy -- so nothing too tall. Another jeweler told us yellow gold is outdated, but I have always associated it with wedding jewelry and don't really like platinum/white gold/rose gold (for me -- they look great on others!).
My partner ended up creating this customized (see edit note) ring with a sapphire center, little diamonds on the side including salt and pepper diamonds. The stone is actually oval but they created the look of a more geometric stone with the setting. To be honest it is basically exactly what I asked for but with his own choices.
Anyway...my mom has been making negative comments about it to me and to my sister, and it's just kind of put a damper on it and made me doubt my own tastes. She also seemed disappointed that it was just a very simple, private ask, which is what I wanted. I know I shouldn't let that get to me. So I wanted to post this here because hopefully someone else out there likes it and is supportive.
edit: I just want to say thank you. I felt embarrassed posting this but to be honest, I just really wanted to hear some good feedback after feeling bad. That said, I do want to clarify that my sister has been incredibly supportive, sorry for the poor wording! Also, poor-ish wording -- for those curious, a local jeweler had the band (it was open in the center) and my partner was discussing custom plans with them. When they pulled out the band, my partner was like, "that's perfect," and then they customized adding in the center stone, which is a vintage sapphire. Thank you so much for being supportive. It really, really means a lot.
