29/12/2025
Tama nmn.
Kapag mahilig kang tumulong, talo kaâŠ
Masakit pakinggan.
Especially if youâre genuinely a good person.
When they have a problem, youâre there.
Kapag may emergency, you show up.
Kapag kapos sila, andyan ka pa rin.
At first, it feels okay.
It feels good to help.
It feels good to be reliable.
But it stops being okay whenâŠ
Youâre always tired.
Youâre the one running out.
Youâre the one left with nothing for yourself.
While theyâre comfortable,
sanay na sanay na andyan ka.
Hereâs the problemâŠ
When you have no boundaries,
youâre not just helping people.
Youâre also training them.
You train them to be dependent on you.
You train them to stop figuring things out on their own.
Not because theyâre bad people.
But because they got used to it.
And this is where many good people get taken advantage of.
They think saying no is selfish.
They think setting limits is wrong.
They think you have to say âyesâ all the time to stay âkind.â
But thereâs another kind of helpâŠ
The kind that doesnât drain you.
The kind that doesnât pressure you.
The kind that doesnât turn you into an emergency fund.
You help because you want to.
Hindi dahil sinisisi ka.
Hindi dahil kinokonsensya ka.
Hindi dahil sinumbatan ka ng nakaraan.
This is what I realizedâŠ
Help without limitations
is no longer kindness.
Itâs already abuse.
Youâre not losing because you help.
You lose when you forget yourself.
You lose when you allow yourself to be abused.
So before you give again,
ask yourself:
Am I helping because I can,
or because Iâm afraid to say no?
Because real help
needs boundaries.
And boundaries
donât make you a bad person.
They protect you too.