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19/08/2025

Do not for your child

19/08/2025

WHY A WIFE SHOULD ALSO EARN MONEY TOO....

No matter how wealthy a husband is, the wife should also earn her own money. Whether through employment, or business. Whether she earns more money than him, she needs to earn her own money for the following reasons...

TO TAME THE HUSBAND

Some Men cheat and feel like they can get away with cheating on a woman who has no financial muscle. These men who cheat know that the woman can do nothing without him and so she will stay home with the child/children regardless of how bad he treats her. The first thing a man who is cheating and destroying a woman does is to financially strangle her. When a man has a wife who is financially capable of standing on her own, he tends to be in his good behavior because he knows she can walk out the moment he cheats, even with the child/children because she is capable. Men rarely mess with empowered women, such a woman can stand up to him. Wives with no finances, put up with all the evil done to them because they have been locked out of outside help and contact; their life is at home, no matter how toxic that home is

FOR PERSONAL FULFILLMENT
In as much as men have dreams and feel fulfilled as they pursue them, women have dreams too. The same joy a man feels when providing for his family, building, funding projects; the woman should feel that too. Just like a man, when a woman does her dream job, lives her dreams, earns money and contributes to society; she feels more confident and filled with dignity

TWO ARE BETTER THAN ONE
A man is great by himself, but with his wife, he is greater; and so is the woman. When both husband and wife combine forces, they have better returns. More money never hurts a family that knows how to use money

TO PURSUE HER CAUSES
We all as individuals have a personal cause we want to take care of in society. A woman might feel passionate about the environment, the arts, cyber security, orphans, leadership, fashion, health. When she has her own money that she has earned, after using part of the money in the family and marriage; she can finance those personal causes without begging for her husband to believe in and fund what she is so passionate about. Having her own money empowers her

FOR STABILITY
Yes, storms happen in life. The husband can become broke, retrenched, his business can suffer huge losses or even worse, he could get sick or involved in an accident. When the productivity of the husband gets negatively affected or paused, the wife can step in even more and make sure the needs of the family are still met

TO MAKE GOOD USE OF HER SKILL
She was taken to good schools; Primary to High School, maybe even University. Perhaps she has a Degree, Masters or PhD. Life has also taught her a lot and she has gained many skills and much wisdom; surely, all that should be put into productive use. Lady, don't waste your life away. Get out there and get involved. Work

TO REDUCE OVER-DEPENDENCE ON THE MAN
Instead of her constantly turning to her husband and asking money for hair, fuel, food, clothes, sanitary pads. She can be interdependent. Yes, interdependent because lady, just because you earn your own money doesn't mean you two don't need each other. He is still your husband. You are in this together. The husband feels good when sometimes the wife says "Relax honey, I got this!" Now that is a Queen

TO MODEL TO THE CHILDREN
When mom is earning and is successful in her career or business; the son learns that women are not weak and that they can work hard just like men. The daughter learns to believe in herself and dream big dreams. 'If mum can do it, so can I' she thinks

TO BE AT PAR WITH HER HUSBAND
Many husbands eventually find their housewife not as challenging, the two drift apart. That is because, as the husband works and earns, he grows in many ways professionally, socially, mentally and physically. But the housewife, all her life is largely about children, and house chores. Conversations with her are not as engaging as with the people outside who are working or in business. The wife should find som**hing challenging to do, even if it means running an online business or commercial blog. As she engages in more than household matters, she grows, just like the husband is growing

SHE IS MORE THAN A WIFE AND A MOTHER
A woman is capable of not just being a good wife and mother, but also a good social leader, business person, career woman, public figure, activist, scholar. She can balance it all. She has so much potential. There is more to her than being a wife and mother. She was created with a destiny to realize

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16/08/2025

"NAWALA SI MAMA NUNG TINIGIL KO ANG ALLOTMENT"

Halos buong kabataan ko, para kay Mama at sa pamilya ko ang lahat. Simula nang magtrabaho ako sa barko, diretso ang allotment ko sa kanila—pang-tuition ng mga kapatid, panggastos sa bahay, panggamot, lahat. Hindi ko iniisip ang sarili ko basta makita ko lang silang kumakain nang busog at walang iniinda.

Sampung taon ang lumipas, nakapagtapos ang dalawa kong kapatid. Proud ako, sobra. Pero kasabay ng tuwa, napansin ko… bigla silang nag-asawa, nagka-pamilya, at parang nakalimutan na yung hirap na dinaanan ko. Hindi rin sila nakatulong sa mga natitirang kapatid namin.

Doon ko naisip… Kailan naman ako? Kaya kinausap ko si Mama. Sabi ko,

“Ma, baka stop muna ako magbigay ng allotment. Mag-iipon muna ako para sa sarili ko. Ako naman.”

Tahimik lang siya noon, pero ramdam ko ang bigat sa puso niya.

Hanggang sa isang araw, habang nasa biyahe ako sa barko, nag-chat siya:

“Anak, yan lang pala gagawin mo sa pera, akala ko mag-iipon ka, igagala mo lang pala… sayang lang…”

Mga salitang nakasakit at may nasabi rin akong hindi maganda. Pero akala ko may oras pa para magkaayos kami…

Hindi pala. Ilang araw lang, binawian siya ng buhay. Wala kaming pagkakataon na mag-usap ulit, na magpaliwanag ako na hindi ko siya iniwan, na hindi ko siya tinalikuran… na gusto ko lang ding mabuhay para sa sarili ko, kahit sandali.

Ngayon, araw-araw, iniisip ko:

"Kung hindi ba ako tumigil noon, mas masaya kaya siya sa huling mga araw niya? "

Bawat piso sa ipon ko ngayon, parang may kasamang bigat. Para bang hindi ko magalaw, dahil naiisip ko si Mama—at yung posibilidad na baka naging makasarili ako pero pinagdarasal ko ito:

"Panginoon, patawarin Mo po ako sa mga salitang hindi ko binawi, sa oras na hindi ko naibalik, at sa pagmamahal na hindi ko naipakita sa tamang panahon. Nawa’y yakapin Mo si Mama sa Iyong kaharian, at yakapin Mo rin ang puso kong mabigat hanggang ngayon. Amen."

Huwag mong ipagpaliban ang pag-aayos, lalo na sa mga taong mahal mo. Dahil may mga oras na hindi na maibabalik, at may mga salitang hindi na masasabi sa harap kung wala na sila sa mundo.

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16/08/2025

The WORST feeling for a woman is when she tries to have a conversation with a man about his BEHAVIOR that hurts her every day, but instead of listening, he gets ANGRY and turns the situation around on her.

It’s a feeling that cuts deep—a mix of frustration, sadness, and emotional abandonment. She gathers the courage to speak up, not to argue, not to attack, but because she loves him and wants to make things better. She speaks from a place of pain and hope, hoping that maybe this time, he will really hear her, that he will understand the weight she’s been silently carrying.

But instead of leaning in, he raises his defenses. Instead of acknowledging her feelings, he deflects. He gets loud, or cold, or sarcastic. He shifts the blame onto her, twisting her concerns into accusations against her character, her tone, her timing. Suddenly, the conversation becomes about how she brought it up instead of what she brought up. And just like that, her pain gets buried under his anger.

And it’s not just the argument that hurts—it’s the message underneath it all: Your feelings don’t matter. Your pain is inconvenient. Your voice is too much. That moment becomes a silent wound, another scar added to the emotional pile she’s been trying so hard to suppress for the sake of peace. But peace without understanding isn’t peace—it’s silence. It’s pretending. It’s walking on eggshells while slowly losing pieces of herself just to keep things from falling apart.

What’s worse is that after enough of these moments, she starts to question herself. “Maybe I am too sensitive.” “Maybe I should just let it go.” “Maybe it’s not a big deal.” But deep down, she knows it is. She knows what respect, empathy, and love should feel like—and this isn’t it.

When a woman reaches out to address som**hing that hurts her, it’s a gift. It’s her saying, I still care enough to fix this. It’s a chance for connection, healing, and growth. But when that moment is met with anger or blame, it pushes her further away. Not just emotionally—but spiritually. Because nothing is more damaging to a woman’s spirit than constantly being made to feel wrong for wanting to be treated right.
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16/08/2025

A gentle reminder by Liza Soberano! ❤️‍🩹

May we learn to be kinder to ourselves, protect our peace, and love ourselves enough to never settle for less than we deserve.

And may we all find the courage to heal from the traumas we carry—slowly, gently, and at our own pace—until life feels lighter again.

16/08/2025

Shame on Philippine media and all the big social media platforms that turned Liza Soberano’s truth into background noise.

Her breakup? Headline news.
Her real story? Ignored.
Her story could save lives, open eyes and you looked away.

She didn’t just “grow up in hardship.”
She endured a childhood no child should ever face.

🚩Parents addicted to crystal m**h.

🚩Father deported. Left to endure her mom’s toxic, abusive relationships.

🚩 2 years old: told to smash her baby brother’s head.

🚩 2 years old: hit on the head with a gun by her mom’s boyfriend.

🚩 Left in a car seat overnight.

🚩 Mother sent to prison.

🚩 Passed from foster home to foster home. Where “home” meant cruelty.

Foster parent Melissa treated her like a dog:
🚩 Forced to lick dog f***s.

🚩 Made to sit in a box like a dog.

🚩 Left in a cold garage overnight, threatened that her baby brother would be locked in a fridge if she screamed.

🚩 Forced to eat a meatball to choke, made to look like an accident.

Bullied. Silenced. Traumatized.
And this is only part of what she endured.

Yet when she opened up-
You ignored the abuse.
You ignored the violence.
You ignored the years of trauma.

Because in Philippine showbiz, you cared more about her love team breakup than the lifetime of abuse she survived.

Liza Soberano is more than a “love team.”
She’s a survivor of the kind of cruelty that should make headlines for all the right reasons.
Start focusing on the stories that matter.

We love you Liza Soberano 💙

15/08/2025

Disrespectful words can feel like an invitation to a fight. But what if we chose a different path?

The moment you feel yourself wanting to match their energy, pause. Realign with your inner self and choose to respond from your heart instead of your emotions.

A simple, powerful question can change everything: "What do you mean by that?"

This gentle inquiry makes them own their words and gives you the space to maintain your peace. ✨

Follow for more gentle reminders and practical wisdom.

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15/08/2025

13 DESTINY KILLERS MEN IGNORE UNTIL IT'S TOO LATE

This is the raw, undiluted truth you didn’t know you needed.
Forget village people — you’re doing yourself in.

Let’s go:

1️⃣ WOMEN, WOMEN, AND WOMEN AGAIN.
Yes, three times for emphasis.
Most men ruin their lives chasing curves and empty thrills.
You spend your small earnings on women who don’t respect you.
Sacrificing time, energy, and peace for people who don’t care.
There’s no trophy for a high body count — only invisible scars and wasted years.

2️⃣ GAMBLING — THE CANCER OF DESTINY.
You think it’s fun?
That “one more bet” might cost you everything.
Time. Money. Peace. Your name.
You don’t win with luck — you win with skill, discipline, and work.

3️⃣ ALCOHOL — THE DRUNK MAN’S DESTINY IS DELAYED.
You drink more than you save.
You inherit hangovers while your peers inherit assets.
A man who spends his salary at the bar leaves his children inheritance of shame.

4️⃣ TIME WASTING — THE SLOW KILLER.
You scroll, gossip, argue football while other men build empires.
Time is currency. Waste yours and life will waste you.

5️⃣ FRAUD (AKA YAHOO) — FAST MONEY, FAST MISERY.
You may flex today but you’ll rot inside.
Quick money is expensive — it costs your peace, your future, and your soul.
It’s not a shortcut, it’s a su***de note.

6️⃣ SMOKING & DRUGS — ADDICTIVE SLOW DEATH.
W**d. Pills. Codeine. Crack.
It starts like fun — ends with depression, job loss, and madness.
You’re numbing pain but feeding your destruction.

7️⃣ LAZINESS — THE ENEMY WITHIN.
You’re broke because you refuse to work.
You want soft life with zero hustle.
If you love sleep more than success, poverty will tuck you in.

8️⃣ LACK OF SELF-CONTROL.
A man without discipline is a loaded gun pointed at his own head.
No routines, no boundaries, no self-mastery.
Weak men self-destruct.

9️⃣ DISRESPECTING YOUR PARENTS.
Insult your parents, abandon them — watch your blessings dry up.
Life may not punish you immediately, but it never forgets.

🔟 DEPENDING ON OTHERS FOR SURVIVAL.
A man who begs through life dies without dignity.
Stop leaning on people for basics — build your own table.

1️⃣1️⃣ BAD FRIENDS — DESTINY KILLERS.
You move with 5 jokers? Don’t be shocked when your life’s a circus.
Your circle determines your future.

1️⃣2️⃣ LIVING TO IMPRESS SOCIAL MEDIA.
Posting like a king, living like a peasant.
Buying iPhones with empty bank accounts.
TikTok won’t pay your rent, bro.

1️⃣3️⃣ EMOTIONAL WEAKNESS — THE INVISIBLE TRAP.
Soft-hearted, zero resilience.
Crumbling at rejection.
Giving up at failure.
Life is tough. Be tougher.

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FINAL WARNING:
Stop blaming the devil for what your poor decisions keep creating.
Destiny isn’t automatic — it’s BUILT.
With sweat. With strategy. With sacrifices.
If you don’t fix your habits, your habits will finish you.

Start now:
✔️ Master your time
✔️ Build real skills
✔️ Cut off dead weight
✔️ Harden your mindset
✔️ Chase legacy, not thighs

You were born a man — act like one

Nature is Powerul