Love, Wander Mum

22/10/2025

19/10/2025

18/10/2025

18/10/2025

It takes a village,⁣
but in our society, the brunt of it falls on a mom.⁣
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She’s the landscaper,⁣
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the cleaner who picks up after the kid tornado that storms through her house,⁣
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the chef and waitress who oversees and serves every meal AND snack,⁣
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the referee constantly breaking up sibling fights,⁣
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the teacher of everything from homework to the world around them,⁣
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the scheduler who makes every appointment, playdate, birthday party, and project deadline,⁣
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the life coach who gives advice, comfort, and a listening ear,⁣
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the nurse who fixes boo-boos with magical kisses and colorful band-aids,⁣
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and the list goes on,⁣
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and on.⁣
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It takes a village, but when she doesn't have a village helping her all the time,⁣
she’s left feeling exhausted, and like she’s falling short.⁣
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She becomes anxious and depressed.⁣
She feels lonely, unseen, and constantly judged.⁣
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She’ll try to do more as a mom to feel better,⁣
and it becomes a self-perpetuating cycle where she’ll never feel enough.⁣
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But the fact that she's struggling is not a reflection of her failures but the impossible expectations placed on her by society.⁣
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So, yes, It does take a village,⁣
but in our society, the brunt of it falls on a mom,⁣
𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘩𝘦’𝘴 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘞𝘈𝘠 𝘵𝘰𝘰 𝘮𝘶𝘤𝘩.⁣

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15/10/2025

What people don’t understand is that most households are run by a single mother — whether she has a husband or not. She may share a house, but she carries the weight alone. She manages the emotions, the schedules, the chaos, the bills, the tears, the patience, and the love — all while being made to feel like it’s just “her role.” Society romanticizes her strength but ignores the fact that she’s only strong because she’s had no choice.

She wakes up before everyone else, makes sure the kids are ready, the house is in order, and the day begins — even when she’s exhausted, even when she’s breaking inside. She remembers every appointment, every meal, every missing sock, every forgotten detail that everyone else takes for granted. And if she forgets something once, she’s labeled careless. But when a man does the bare minimum, he’s celebrated as “helpful.” That’s the quiet injustice of motherhood — she’s expected to do it all, and still smile while doing it.

The truth is, many women are “married single mothers.” They have partners who live in the same home but don’t share the same load. Men who think paying bills equals contribution, while emotional labor, nurturing, and patience are dismissed as invisible work. She doesn’t just take care of the kids — she manages the mood of the entire household. She smooths over the conflicts, hides her own frustration, and makes sure everyone else feels okay even when she’s not.

She’s the emotional backbone, the mental planner, the peacekeeper, and the provider of comfort. And yet, people ask why she’s tired. Why she’s distant. Why she doesn’t smile like she used to. They don’t see the nights she stays awake, worrying about things no one else notices. They don’t see how heavy it is to be the person everyone depends on, but no one truly supports.

A real partnership means balance. It means both people showing up — emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. But too many women are surviving in dynamics where they are the emotional parent to their partner too. They are raising their kids while carrying the emotional immaturity of a man who should’ve been their teammate.

And still, she continues. She keeps loving, providing, managing, creating order out of chaos. Because that’s what women do — they hold it all together while being told they’re overreacting. But one day, people will have to stop praising her strength and start asking why she had to be so strong in the first place.

Because the truth is, most homes don’t run on money or authority — they run on a woman’s emotional labor, her endurance, and her ability to love through exhaustion. So yes, most households are run by single mothers, even when a man is standing right there pretending he’s leading.

08/10/2025

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08/10/2025

“My wife handles the kids and keeps the house together because I’m the one who works.”

That’s not something to brag about.

Earning a paycheck doesn’t erase your role as a father or a partner.
Money doesn’t wipe down counters.
It doesn’t change nappies or soothe a crying baby at 2am.
It doesn’t fold clothes or make sure there are lunches for tomorrow.

She deserves more than a spectator.
She deserves a teammate.
Someone who comes home ready to step in.
Someone who takes responsibility for his own mess.
Someone who shows up for his family in every way.

If you believe your only job is “bringing in money,” you’re not a provider… you’re just a flatmate who shares expenses.

08/10/2025

Too many men think going to work is enough.

Meanwhile, women go to work, raise the kids, run the home, and carry the emotional weight of the relationship.

The modern man comes home expecting to be pampered like another child, while his partner is already exhausted.

Women deserve partnership, not parenthood. ❤️‍🩹

07/10/2025

Someone once told me,
“If you can’t settle the baby or the toddler, bring them outside or put them in the bath.”

And honestly, that was the best parenting advice I’ve ever gotten.

It sounds so simple but it works.
The air changes, the energy shifts, and suddenly the crying softens.
It’s like the world steps in to help soothe them when you can’t.

Now, every time things start to spiral, I remind myself:
go back to the basics.
Water. Fresh air.
The things that calm their little souls and mine too.

06/10/2025

Before kids, I could knock out a whole to do list before lunch.
Clean the house, throw in laundry, cook dinner, answer messages... easy.

Now? If I get to p*e alone, it feels like a luxury.
Washing a single dish feels like a small victory.
Folding a load of laundry? A miracle.
Getting everyone dressed? Feels like training for the Olympics.

No one prepares you for how the simplest things suddenly feel impossible.
Because you’re not just cleaning, or folding, or cooking.. you’re doing it while rocking a baby, calming a meltdown, answering a hundred “moms,” and reheating your coffee for the third time.

All while trying not to fall apart yourself.

But still... you show up. You keep trying.
You keep loving.
And that right there?
That’s the quiet strength every mama carries, even when the world doesn’t see it.

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