03/03/2025
If, as a man, you don’t find a woman while you’re still trying to establish yourself, rest assured that you will find a woman once you’ve found your footing. However, the real question is: what guarantee do you have that you’ve married the right woman for you?
You will undoubtedly find a wife once you feel you have the resources to support a family, as many women are willing to marry a man who appears ready for marriage. This is often due to their biological clock. But before rushing into such a decision, you need to ask yourself some important questions:
1. What does this woman truly understand about my struggles in life?
2. If I had not yet reached this level of comfort, would this woman still have agreed to marry me?
3. What impact has this woman had on my life?
4. If I were to fall from grace now, would this woman still respect me and be submissive?
5. Do I truly deserve to marry this woman?
It is never advisable to seek a wife only once you’ve accumulated wealth. What you might have found is simply a woman, not a wife. She might be your wife legally, but does she truly embody the qualities of the woman you envisioned when you made her your wife?
When some men say they can’t disclose their earnings to their wives, the questions I’ve raised above are often at the heart of their reservations. If a wife doesn’t check off the important boxes in a marriage, it may mean the husband has lingering doubts.
One sure way to guarantee a lasting and peaceful marriage is to make each other key stakeholders in one another’s growth. It’s unhealthy when one partner feels they are doing the other a favor. In many cases, it is the man who feels this way because he doesn’t perceive the wife as contributing meaningfully to his growth. As a result, he may see her as opportunistic, and if he’s unfortunate enough to have married such a woman, she may turn against him when times get tough.
If you’ve never worked hard to attain something, you’ll never truly value it.
If you are a man who hasn’t yet found a wife but is doing well for yourself, it’s important to focus on finding a woman who appreciates you for who you are, not what you have. Using money to gain her attention is a poor strategy. While she might marry you quickly, she will expect you to continue using money to maintain her interest.
Women can be ruthless if they feel they no longer need you. The situation becomes even worse if you have a manipulative and greedy mother-in-law who constantly influences her. Together, they may undermine you without mercy. If they choose to show any mercy, it will be gradual, and you may not even realize the damage being done until it’s too late.
There are countless instances where men return home only to find that their wives and children are no longer there. Why? The women decided to leave the marriage, citing "suffering" as the reason. Since they never truly invested in the marriage emotionally, they feel no obligation to stay.
Not all men will be able to find a partner during their struggling years, but at the very least, they can vet the women they consider for marriage. It is vital that men do this the right way, not by trying to impress a woman with wealth, but by showing genuine character and integrity.
A woman who knows you are truly ready for marriage will understand, even if you don’t display your financial resources. What she needs to see is how well you can lead her, not how much you can spend on her.
If you have been dating a woman who is pretentious, she will eventually reveal her true nature. In fact, it’s important to cohabit with her for some time before you decide to marry. Don’t fall for excuses like “my religious background doesn’t allow it” – often, this is just a cover for things she’s hiding from you.
Don’t gamble with your happiness simply because of temporary, superficial things.
~ Professor ~
Proff Denis
