14/01/2025
Ladies & Gents,
Why a 𝐍𝐨 𝐥𝐚𝐛𝐞𝐥 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 Isn’t Aligned with God’s Will
Many people have shared their experiences of heartbreak caused by undefined relationships, and I’ve gone through that pain myself. Settling for a relationship without clarity often leads to unnecessary struggles.
If you’re involved in a 𝒎𝒖𝒕𝒖𝒂𝒍 𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈, almost-relationship, no-label, or friends-with-benefits situation, take these lessons to heart, to remind you of God’s design for relationships:
1. 𝐆𝐨𝐝 𝐂𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐬 𝐔𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐂𝐥𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞
God’s character is one of order and clarity, not confusion (1 Corinthians 14:33). He desires to give you a life of purpose, direction, and peace. A relationship without definition often invites uncertainty and emotional distress. Rather than holding on to something unclear, surrender the relationship to God and trust Him to guide you toward what aligns with His plans.
2. 𝐔𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐒𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐏𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞
Without clear boundaries or commitment, overthinking and anxiety can easily creep in. You might feel hesitant to express your concerns because you lack the assurance of mutual understanding. If this is your reality, ask God for wisdom and courage to address the situation. Talk openly about where the relationship is headed and seek His guidance in every decision (Philippians 4:6-7).
3. 𝐈𝐭 𝐂𝐚𝐧 𝐋𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐞
Without a clear goal or purpose, you may find yourself compromising values you once held dear. True love is rooted in patience, kindness, and purity, as described in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. If boundaries have already been crossed, turn to God for forgiveness and begin walking in His grace and truth.
4. 𝐓𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐄𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐲 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐏𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐑𝐞𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐞𝐬
When you invest your time and emotions in something uncertain, you risk losing focus on the things that truly matter. The Bible reminds us to guard our hearts (Proverbs 4:23), as they influence the course of our lives. Set standards that reflect your worth in Christ, and don’t settle for anything less than God’s best for you.
5. 𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐁𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐆𝐨𝐚𝐥 𝐨𝐟 𝐚 𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩
God designed relationships to prepare us for marriage, a covenant rooted in love, commitment, and purpose. If a relationship isn’t progressing toward this goal, it may be time to step back. Don’t let fear of being alone push you into something temporary. Remember, God is always with you, and His presence is more than enough to sustain you (Deuteronomy 31:6).
6. 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐂𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐧 𝐛𝐲 𝐆𝐨𝐝
If you ever feel like an option in someone’s life, remind yourself that you are chosen and dearly loved by God (1 Peter 2:9). He values you so much that He sent His Son to redeem you. Trust in His love and let it guide you toward relationships that honor Him.
𝐹𝑜𝑟 𝐺𝑜𝑑 𝑖𝑠 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑎 𝐺𝑜𝑑 𝑜𝑓 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑓𝑢𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑏𝑢𝑡 𝑜𝑓 𝑝𝑒𝑎𝑐𝑒.
– 1 𝐶𝑜𝑟𝑖𝑛𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑎𝑛𝑠 14:33
