18/09/2025
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Hii admin please hide my identity po 🥰
🌸 From Boken to Strong 🌸
Hi, gusto lang ko mo-share sa akong experience. Basi naay pareho nako og gi-agian nga makabasa ani.
Way back 2018, nakaila ko ug sundalo. Even though we were in a long-distance relationship, nag-last mi for years. Through chats and call ra among communication pero happy gihapon kaayo mi.
Gi-accept ko sa iyang family, gi-accept pud siya sa akong family, and my family liked him because buotan siya. (Di ta sure) 🥴
Pero pag-abot sa 2020, everything started to change. Naging cold na siya, dili na permi mo-chat. One time ana siya nga naa sila sa operation and dili pwede magsaba, pero nadungog nako sa background ang motor ug iro. When I asked him, nag-katawa ra siya, ana siya “joke ra” daw. Pero deep inside kabalo ko nga naay something wrong.
Later, nadiscover nako iyang second account, maskin pag dummy account na makabalo gyud ko kay mao may tawag sa iyaha sa iyang senior 🥴Nakahuna-huna ko e check ang block list (woman’s instinct ba), and didto nako nakita ang usa ka babae — single mom. Gi-chat nako siya pero instead nga mag-storya mi tarong, gi-away hinuon ko niya maski kabalo siya nga naay uyab ang laki. She admitted nga aware siya nga naay uyab ang laki pero nagpadayun siya kay na-inlove daw kuno siya . Weak pa kaayo ko at that time; di ko kabalo mangaway hilak ra jud taman
I even made a group chat with the three of us and asked him to choose between me and the girl (single mom) 🤣pero wa ko nag expect nga Ako iyang gipili kay ana siya “ikaw una nako nakaila.” kasakit ba haha,pero lage kay marupok pud ta usahay gipasaylo nako.
But one day that woman messaged me, ana siya engnon daw nako akong ex nga mag stop nag visit sa iyahang apartment stop na pud daw dala og foods para iya og sa iyang anak, grabe akong pagpangurog habang gabasa sa chat hilak napud. I asked myself, “Do I deserve this? What did I do wrong? I only loved him.”
We fought again (toxic na kaayo among relationship ). He told me he loved us both. I told him, “How can you love two people? You only have one heart.”haha putek But still, I stayed (sorry naman marupok ako ee). I cried every night, drank alcohol, neglected my studies, and drowned myself in Wattpad just to forget. I lost so much weight from stress. I almost gave up on life. But thank God, I realized na mali ang maghikog. I didn’t want to waste myself over a man 🙄
Until one day, nakamata ko sa kamatuoran. I know it’s wrong to use someone just to forget, but that’s what I did — and it worked. In my present relationship, I feel the comfort and love I had been searching for. 🥰
Time passed, my ex started reaching out, begging me to choose him again. But I told him, “I love my partner now. There’s no reason to leave him and replace him with you" (remember: once a cheater always a cheater 🤣 tama na ang 9 times nga gipasaylo nako siya) ana ko kabuang niya before maskin gibinuangan go gihapon laban haha
Last year, he tries to contact my relatives asking for help nga balikan daw nako siya. But never again. I’m happy now with my partner who treats me right and is truly kind.
✨ My message to anyone reading this:
No matter how much you love someone, ayaw tugoti nga mawala imong self. Don’t let anyone destroy your worth. You deserve honesty, loyalty and respect. Walk away from anyone who can’t give that to you. Healing is possible. Love yourself first. 💕
