There Che Goes

22/10/2025

22/10/2025

He won’t let you go.. he’ll just drain you until you have no choice but to leave.

01/10/2025

Narcissists will cheat on you with the same type of woman they don’t want you to be.**

This is one of the greatest hypocrisies of narcissistic behavior. They will constantly criticize you, shame you, or pressure you to change so you can fit into the box they’ve created for you. Maybe they told you to dress “classier,” to tone down your confidence, to stop being “too friendly” or “too independent.” They chip away at the parts of you that make you vibrant and alive, convincing you that those qualities are “wrong” or “unattractive.”

But here’s the truth: narcissists don’t destroy those qualities because they don’t like them—they destroy them because they envy them. They suppress them in you because they can’t control them. And the most twisted part? When they cheat, they often do it with someone who openly displays the very traits they told you to hide.

It’s not about attraction—it’s about power. They cheat with women who are bold, carefree, or unapologetic because those traits reflect freedom, something the narcissist secretly craves but cannot stand to see in you. If you showed those same qualities, they would feel threatened because it means you wouldn’t be as easy to manipulate.

So they shame you into silence while chasing after someone who embodies the very things they condemned in you. It’s a cycle designed to confuse you, make you doubt yourself, and keep you questioning your worth.

The truth is, their betrayal is never about you. It’s about their emptiness, their insecurity, and their desperate need to control what they cannot truly possess.

Remember this: the woman you were told not to be is probably the woman you were always meant to be.

-Ccto

29/08/2025

BEING PRETTY WON'T MAKE A MAN STAY.
Being smart won’t make a man stay. The only way to keep a man is if he wants to be kept.

You can be beautiful, kind, and loyal, but if he doesn’t choose to stay, nothing you do will change that. Love isn’t about how much you give or how perfect you try to be. It’s about his willingness to stay.

A man stays because he values you, because he sees a future with you, not just a moment.

So don’t beg for love. Don’t lose yourself trying to hold on to someone who isn’t sure about you. The right man will stay because he wants to, not because you have to convince him.

-Anne Curtis
ctto

10/08/2025

"ANONG GUSTO MO SA LALAKE?"

Dati kapag 'yan ang tanong satin madalas na sagot "matalino, gwapo, mayaman, masunurin, magalang, mabait etc."

Pero as I grew older, I came to realize na a man can be anything. Pwede syang maging mabait, gwapo, masunurin o magalang. Pero ibang usapan na kapag pinasok mo yung “loyal, faithful, God-fearing, consistent and committed.” Kasi let’s be honest, napakarare na nang mga ganyan in this generation. Kahit nga mga pangit, nagloloko na eh. Real talk lang ♥️

Kaya “anong gusto ko sa lalake?" This time alam ko na ang isasagot ko. Gusto ko yung lalaki na nandyan for me through better or worst. Yung tanggap lahat ng imperfections ko. Yung kaya akong samahan sa lahat ng goals namin. Yung may pangarap para sa sarili nya. Yung may plano sa buhay. Yung kaya akong mahalin tulad ng pagmamahal nya sa magulang nya. Yung hindi mapapagod intindihin ugali ko. Yung ilalapit ako kay God. And pinakaimportante sa lahat, yung may respeto sa relationship.

I don’t considered these things as “UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS”. We deserve to be treated right. Wag kayong matakot magset ng standards. Hindi mahirap maging tamang tao sa taong mahal mo ng totoo.

Alam ko kasi na if a man can love you this much, you can love him more than that. And that’s the love you both deserve ✨♥️

02/08/2025

WHEN SARAH LAHBATI SAID IT BEST.

"How can a man expect peace from a woman he's made miserable? He planted pain, so how can he harvest calm? A heart that's been broken won't sing the same song."

To all the men out there: love is not about asking for peace; it's about giving her reasons to feel secure, cherished, and genuinely happy.

Misery has no place in a relationship where love should thrive. Treat her right, or don’t expect her to be okay with being treated wrong.

30/07/2025

We all want a complete family but sometimes, letting go is what leads us to peace, growth, and healing. 🤍

“My biggest dream in life has always been to l build a family I could call mine. A home. And for l all the beautiful five years (and more) that we l were together, I held onto that dream with l everything I had.

I kept that promise..to love, to fight, to stay. That promise was what kept me going. And truthfully, we both tried.

We both held on for as long as we could. But now, we're learning to let go. Letting go of that dream... so we can finally allow a new kind of peace, growth, and healing to enter.” —Elisse

30/07/2025

Tapos kapag may dumaan na sexy sumusunod din ang mata. Wag kami boys! lol

27/07/2025

Kylie Padilla reminds the girls to settle with someone who has a provider mindset.

In her interview with BB, she said:

“Now I want someone with a provider mindset. Dati, yabang ko lang. I thought it didn’t matter because I was privileged. But now, I’ve woken up to reality. I have kids. I’m a single mom. It’s exhausting. I don’t want to be tired forever.”

That line “I don’t want to be tired forever” says it all.

Because love should feel like peace.
It should feel like rest.

Choose someone who takes care of you.
Not just financially, but with effort, presence, and consistency.

A real man won’t let you carry the weight alone.

It’s not just about money.
It’s about how he shows up.
How he makes you feel safe, seen, and supported.

You don’t have to feel bad for wanting that. Settle with someone with provider mindset.

📷 Kylie padilla

21/07/2025

After you leave that relationship, little by little you realize all the horrible ways you were abused.
At first, there’s a strange mix of emotions—relief, sadness, guilt, confusion. You might even question yourself, wondering if you made the right decision. But as the days turn into weeks, and the emotional fog starts to clear, you begin to see things for what they really were. You start remembering moments that didn’t sit right. The way they spoke to you with subtle cruelty disguised as “jokes.” The way you were made to feel like everything was your fault, even when it clearly wasn’t. The way your feelings were dismissed, minimized, or twisted back onto you.

It’s like peeling back the layers of an onion. One memory triggers another, and suddenly, patterns start to emerge. What you thought were isolated incidents now form a long, consistent thread of manipulation, control, emotional neglect, and psychological warfare. You realize how your self-worth was slowly eroded, how you were gaslighted into doubting your own reality, and how your love was used as a weapon against you. You remember how you constantly had to explain your emotions, defend your reactions, and apologize for things you didn't even do—just to keep the peace.

More and more things start to unfold. You recognize how much you tolerated just to be loved. You see how deeply you were conditioned to accept the bare minimum, and how hard you fought to hold everything together—while they did nothing but tear you apart. You remember silencing yourself to avoid conflict, walking on eggshells, and pretending things were okay because you didn’t want anyone to see the truth you were too afraid to face.

And the hardest part is this: you realize the abuse was so much worse than you thought. The damage went deeper than you were willing to admit while you were still in survival mode. In retrospect, everything starts to look clearer. The manipulation, the emotional withdrawal, the blame-shifting, the lies—it all becomes undeniable. And you begin to understand just how much of yourself you lost in the process.

You see the depth of the trauma and pain you actually went through, and it hurts. It hurts because you finally recognize that none of it was your fault. That you didn’t deserve any of it. That your love, patience, and loyalty were taken for granted and used against you. But it’s also the beginning of healing—because with every layer you peel back, you reclaim a little more of your voice, your power, and your truth. And that truth is this: you survived something that was meant to destroy you. And now, you get to rebuild—not just your life, but yourself.

16/06/2025

13/06/2025

The wrong man will drain you while calling it love. He’ll watch you carry everything on your shoulders....emotionally, mentally, financially.....and applaud your strength, not realizing he’s the reason you have to be so strong in the first place. He’ll let you struggle, let you handle life alone, and still expect loyalty, softness, and peace from a woman he’s left in survival mode.

But the right man… oh, he’s a different story. The right man sees your strength, but he doesn’t exploit it. He respects it, honors it, and matches it. He knows you can do it all by yourself, but he won’t allow you to....not because he thinks you're incapable, but because he refuses to let you carry it all alone when he's supposed to be your partner.
See, real men know that a relationship isn't a test of how much a woman can endure. It's a union where both people thrive, not just survive. A real man doesn’t sit back and expect a woman to lead, protect, and provide for herself while he reaps the benefits of her loyalty. No… a real man sets the tone, leads with integrity, creates a safe space, and shows up with consistency.
Not just in words, but in actions.
Because no matter how independent she is, how strong she’s become, or how much she’s learned to rely on herself, every woman wants to feel safe. Every woman wants to exhale. And she can’t do that with a man who keeps showing her that she’s better off alone.

So fellas, if you want a woman to be soft with you… give her safety. If you want her to follow your lead… make sure you're actually leading. If you want her to lean on you… be strong enough to hold the weight. Because love isn't proven by how much she can carry....it’s proven by how much you’re willing to carry with her.