There Che Goes

12/11/2025

You didn't lose love.. you just stopped accepting pain in it's name.

22/10/2025

22/10/2025

He won’t let you go.. he’ll just drain you until you have no choice but to leave.

01/10/2025

Narcissists will cheat on you with the same type of woman they don’t want you to be.**

This is one of the greatest hypocrisies of narcissistic behavior. They will constantly criticize you, shame you, or pressure you to change so you can fit into the box they’ve created for you. Maybe they told you to dress “classier,” to tone down your confidence, to stop being “too friendly” or “too independent.” They chip away at the parts of you that make you vibrant and alive, convincing you that those qualities are “wrong” or “unattractive.”

But here’s the truth: narcissists don’t destroy those qualities because they don’t like them—they destroy them because they envy them. They suppress them in you because they can’t control them. And the most twisted part? When they cheat, they often do it with someone who openly displays the very traits they told you to hide.

It’s not about attraction—it’s about power. They cheat with women who are bold, carefree, or unapologetic because those traits reflect freedom, something the narcissist secretly craves but cannot stand to see in you. If you showed those same qualities, they would feel threatened because it means you wouldn’t be as easy to manipulate.

So they shame you into silence while chasing after someone who embodies the very things they condemned in you. It’s a cycle designed to confuse you, make you doubt yourself, and keep you questioning your worth.

The truth is, their betrayal is never about you. It’s about their emptiness, their insecurity, and their desperate need to control what they cannot truly possess.

Remember this: the woman you were told not to be is probably the woman you were always meant to be.

-Ccto

29/08/2025

BEING PRETTY WON'T MAKE A MAN STAY.
Being smart won’t make a man stay. The only way to keep a man is if he wants to be kept.

You can be beautiful, kind, and loyal, but if he doesn’t choose to stay, nothing you do will change that. Love isn’t about how much you give or how perfect you try to be. It’s about his willingness to stay.

A man stays because he values you, because he sees a future with you, not just a moment.

So don’t beg for love. Don’t lose yourself trying to hold on to someone who isn’t sure about you. The right man will stay because he wants to, not because you have to convince him.

-Anne Curtis
ctto

10/08/2025

"ANONG GUSTO MO SA LALAKE?"

Dati kapag 'yan ang tanong satin madalas na sagot "matalino, gwapo, mayaman, masunurin, magalang, mabait etc."

Pero as I grew older, I came to realize na a man can be anything. Pwede syang maging mabait, gwapo, masunurin o magalang. Pero ibang usapan na kapag pinasok mo yung “loyal, faithful, God-fearing, consistent and committed.” Kasi let’s be honest, napakarare na nang mga ganyan in this generation. Kahit nga mga pangit, nagloloko na eh. Real talk lang ♥️

Kaya “anong gusto ko sa lalake?" This time alam ko na ang isasagot ko. Gusto ko yung lalaki na nandyan for me through better or worst. Yung tanggap lahat ng imperfections ko. Yung kaya akong samahan sa lahat ng goals namin. Yung may pangarap para sa sarili nya. Yung may plano sa buhay. Yung kaya akong mahalin tulad ng pagmamahal nya sa magulang nya. Yung hindi mapapagod intindihin ugali ko. Yung ilalapit ako kay God. And pinakaimportante sa lahat, yung may respeto sa relationship.

I don’t considered these things as “UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS”. We deserve to be treated right. Wag kayong matakot magset ng standards. Hindi mahirap maging tamang tao sa taong mahal mo ng totoo.

Alam ko kasi na if a man can love you this much, you can love him more than that. And that’s the love you both deserve ✨♥️

02/08/2025

WHEN SARAH LAHBATI SAID IT BEST.

"How can a man expect peace from a woman he's made miserable? He planted pain, so how can he harvest calm? A heart that's been broken won't sing the same song."

To all the men out there: love is not about asking for peace; it's about giving her reasons to feel secure, cherished, and genuinely happy.

Misery has no place in a relationship where love should thrive. Treat her right, or don’t expect her to be okay with being treated wrong.

30/07/2025

We all want a complete family but sometimes, letting go is what leads us to peace, growth, and healing. 🤍

“My biggest dream in life has always been to l build a family I could call mine. A home. And for l all the beautiful five years (and more) that we l were together, I held onto that dream with l everything I had.

I kept that promise..to love, to fight, to stay. That promise was what kept me going. And truthfully, we both tried.

We both held on for as long as we could. But now, we're learning to let go. Letting go of that dream... so we can finally allow a new kind of peace, growth, and healing to enter.” —Elisse

30/07/2025

Tapos kapag may dumaan na sexy sumusunod din ang mata. Wag kami boys! lol

27/07/2025

Kylie Padilla reminds the girls to settle with someone who has a provider mindset.

In her interview with BB, she said:

“Now I want someone with a provider mindset. Dati, yabang ko lang. I thought it didn’t matter because I was privileged. But now, I’ve woken up to reality. I have kids. I’m a single mom. It’s exhausting. I don’t want to be tired forever.”

That line “I don’t want to be tired forever” says it all.

Because love should feel like peace.
It should feel like rest.

Choose someone who takes care of you.
Not just financially, but with effort, presence, and consistency.

A real man won’t let you carry the weight alone.

It’s not just about money.
It’s about how he shows up.
How he makes you feel safe, seen, and supported.

You don’t have to feel bad for wanting that. Settle with someone with provider mindset.

📷 Kylie padilla