Married couples who want to end their dysfunctional marriage should a way to have a simple and inexpensive separation (divorce) process in the Philippines.
Divorce can relieve the negative effects of marital conflict on adolescents and parents themselves.
Staying in marriage with high conflict may produce a familial environment high in aggression and violence. [Study by Maxwell and Maxwell (2003)]
Marital conflict reduces the child’s emotional security about parenting, as well as negatively affecting social competence, adjustment, and academic achievement. [Harold, Shelton, Goeke-Morey, and Cummings (2004)]
Divorce allows mothers to become more physically and mentally healthy, thus being more able to parent effectively.
Families with marital conflict are strained with the current legal situation. The current options available to couples are expensive and laborious, draining already depleted financial and emotional resources.
The Philippines is the only country in the world where divorce is not legal.
More women (76%) than men agreed with making divorce legal.
51% of Filipinos agreed with making absolute divorce law in the Philippines.
Divorce will be cheaper and faster compared to annulments (cost at least PHP 250,000 and takes up to decades to resolve)
Divorce law when enacted will yield an average of 300 divorce cases every day.
Divorce Bill is also both pro-woman and pro-poor.
Many divorce cases involve an abusive relationship where the woman is a victim.
People getting married dropped by 16% in 2006. People opted for non-marital cohabitation which will make their offspring’s legal rights (attributed to the marriage of the parents) unprotected. Some couple will marry at a much later age and risk opportunity to bear children.
Absolute Divorce can:
Provide professional and much-needed support to families in the process of divorce, and would allow parents to be able to cleanly move on with their lives and be in a better position to parent their adolescents.
Divorce Bill is finally implemented in the Philippines, more care and attention should be given to children and adolescents of divorcing couples.
Divorce Bill provides a process for reconciliation There is a 6-month cooling-off period (waived for domestic abuse cases) and a ‘change of heart’ clause, should the couple agree to stay together even after the application has been filed.
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A lot of people under estimate irreconcilable differences between married couple.
It has creeping influence on how you will think and do things with your spouse. Over familiarity will also adversely affect your relationship as it breeds contempt. The end result is psychological and emotional abuse, worst physical abuse.
Our page highlights more reasons why we need #DivorceLawNOW
We post stories of people who are suffering from failed marriages.
We purposely hide their identity due to the sensitivity of their confessions and the fear of social stigma, because Divorce is not yet legal in the Philippines and perhaps the story senders have already moved on with their respective life and found a new partner - that is technically against the law.
Some sharers are still suffering from a very toxic relationship up to now.
#DivorceLawNOW is for the people who needs it yesterday and today. But according to statistics, on the average, 50% of marriages end up with separation. So most likely divorce or failed marriage can happen close to your home, in the near future.
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Ang simpleng alitan ng mag asawa ay katagalan nagdudulot ng frustration. Nagiging irritating, annoying. At kung sino man ang nagpaparaya ay unti unting nababansot. Nawawalan ng self worth dahil one-sided lang palagi.
Ang tawag sa mga lalaki dyan ay under the saya o takusa. Malakas ang boses at mapanglait si misis.
Walang respeto sa lalaking asawa.
May mga lalaki naman na talo pa angbabae sa pang aaway sa babae. Ang bibig matalas na matalas.
Tanga ang turing nya sa asawa at alila.
Kung natatalo naman sa argumento ang isa ay gagamit ng pisikal na pagganti. Pasa at bukol o di kaya bawal ang s*x o tigil ang pag asikaso o sustento. Emotional blackmail ang tawag dyan.
May iba naman, dahil mas kumikita ng malaki si misis..marahil manager sya sa opisina at ang mister ay ondinaryong empleyado o kaya part time lang.
Dito naman. Madali na ma out grow ni.misis si mister.
Kung house wife si misis. Si mister ang exposed sa lahat. Maliit na tingin kay misis.
Kahit edukado at sa mamamahaling eskwela man nag graduate ang tao -- hindi sila ligtas sa mga pangaalipusta ng asawa.
Unfortunately kung may mga anak sila. Unti unting nadamay ito. Minsan natatanong pa ang mga bata kung kanino sila kampi o kaya nag feed ang isang parent ng biased info para sirain ang kabiyak.
Kahit aktibo pa.kayo sa simbahan, lalabas at lalabas pa rin ang natural.ninyong ugali. Pigil lang pero sasabog pa rin.
At sa paglipas ng panahon, makikita.mo na malayo na kayo sa isat isa. You have nothing in common except that you hate each other. Perhaps wala na kayo pakiramdam o pakialam sa isat isa. Kapag magkasama kayo mas magulo.
Huwag na natin idamay ang 3rd party.
Choice na yun kung gagawin pa nila complicated.
Madami sa mga mag asawa wala naman 3rd parry
Kung sana nag live in muna sila bago sila ikasal marahil naiwasan ang ganitong sitwasyon. Pero conservative ang Pinoy. Parang lotto lang ang pagpapakasal. Baka sakali swertehin. Pinagiisipan ang numero na tatayaan pero di pa rin masasabi kung swertw o malas. Kaso minsan ka lamg tataya. Madalas aabutin muna ng ilang taon bago lumabas ang kakaibang ugali. Meron din naman ilang buwan lang, depende kung gaano na sila katagal naging magkasintahan bago ikinasal.
Kapag ang sitwasyon ninyo ay umabot na sa punto na di na maibabalk ang nakaraan. Malalin na ang sugat emotional, psychological at lalo physical.
Bago may mamatay o makapatay di ba dapat freedom na ang kailangan.
Walang sisihan.. Live and let live.
Please share your stories with us. Our legislatures and their staff are reading our stories.
You may support this advocacy by privately posting your stories here. https://m.me/divorcelawph
