28/11/2021
𝙊𝙁 𝙌𝙐𝘼𝙍𝘼𝙉𝙁𝙇𝙄𝙉𝙂𝙎 𝘼𝙉𝘿 𝙈𝙄𝙎𝙈𝘼𝙏𝘾𝙃𝙀𝙎
𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵’𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘲𝘶𝘢𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘧𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺?
Online dating apps are harmless for the most part. But have you ever wondered why there was a spike in dating app users in the past year (other than being bored and down bad of course)? Well, as social animals, we crave for human relationships, especially when we’ve been long deprived of it due to the event-that-shall-not-be-named.
This deprivation has led people to re-evaluate their dating choices and some being open to a wider range of choices. It can sometimes cause impulsive oversharing which can escalate things to get emotionally intimate ✨ REAL FAST ✨ leaving some feeling less connected with their matches. How true?
A few individuals have shared their experiences in the online dating world. Wendy disclosed her experience of meeting several people on Bumble, “𝗣𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝗹𝘆 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝗿𝘁-𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗺 𝗽𝗹𝗲𝗮𝘀𝘂𝗿𝗲𝘀. 𝗜𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗮 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻’𝘁 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝘁 𝗼𝗻𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲.”
Blake recounted his story of meeting someone on Grindr, “I had a fling where he kept insisting that I should hurry back to Cebu so we could have a ‘real’ hangout in the flesh. but I’m a very clingy person so I committed the cheating first. He saw my alter and got disappointed.” See? Sometimes, it’s not even the app; online dating has proved to be just as challenging. Blake adds, “The world of dating apps can be controlling if you let it.” 𝗦𝗼 𝘄𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱𝗻'𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗿𝘆 𝘀𝗼 𝗺𝘂𝗰𝗵 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗱, 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗶𝘁.
When asked about what to expect, May says “If you talk to someone there (on Tinder), you must expect nothing beyond s*x, or else alkansi ka.” And for Alex, she says “honestly, straight to the point kaayo mga people didto, mo sulti sila ug unsay gusto nila”.
𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗺𝗮𝘆 𝘀𝗲𝗲𝗺 𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻𝗲𝘁 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿. Wendy advises to guard and guide yourself because you never know what you’ll lose. It could be a potential lifetime partner or even yourself, “It actually makes people addicted or cling onto that feeling of having someone physically or even emotionally,” she says, “Online dating is not for everyone, pa swerteay rana.” And finally, Blake also advices to “always remember to practice safe s*x during encounters.”
Well, people use these dating apps for other reasons, right? So better safe than sorry, guard your feelings, yourself, and don’t be quick to dive in.
Happy dating, folks! 💋
