My Gem of Thougths

15/05/2025

When a woman feels unappreciated, she doesn’t always leave.
Instead, she stays—but she changes.

At first, it’s quiet. Subtle. Almost imperceptible.
She stops repeating herself—not because she has nothing to say, but because she knows no one is really listening.
Her words fall into silence, unanswered and unnoticed.

She stops asking for effort—not because she doesn’t want it, but because begging for the bare minimum is exhausting.
Why plead for what should already be given? Why fight for recognition when invisibility has become her norm?

Her smile fades—not all at once, but gradually, like sunlight slipping behind clouds.
Her laughter softens—quieter now, as if joy itself has grown weary.
The warmth in her eyes dims—not overnight, but slowly, like a flame starved of oxygen.

It’s not dramatic or loud; it’s a silent unraveling. A retreat from the parts of herself that weren’t valued, that weren’t cherished.
What remains is someone quieter, more guarded—a shadow of who she used to be.

Because here’s the truth:
A woman doesn’t have to walk away to disappear.
Sometimes, the absence happens within her before it shows on the outside.

And by the time you notice, it may already be too late.

14/05/2025

Oo masakit talagang makipaghiwalay..
pero ano nga ba talagang nawala sayo? Ano nga ba talagang mamimiss mo? Isang taong kaya kang hindi kausapin ng ilang oras?
Isang taong pinaramdam sayo na last option ka niya at hindi ka priority? Isang taong hindi marunong humingi ng tawad at pasensya. Yung taong hinahayaan ka lang at kaya ka niyang tiisin at matulog sa gabi na hindi kayo ok?
Isang taong lagi ang tingin sau ay napakababa? At tingin sa sarili nya ay sya ang tama lagi...hayaan mo na ba na ganyan lagi...
Yung tipong ikaw ang gustong kumausap pero ayaw kang pakinggan dahil maarte ka lang daw.

Gagaling din ang puso mo.
Titigil din ang pag-iyak mo.
Ang mga hinanakit mo...
Ikaw lang naman ang una best na nakakaramdam at unawa sa damdamin mo.
Kaya kelangan maging matibay ka.
At sumalampataya sa Diyos na sya ang tanging nakakaalam ng mga saloobin mo sa buhay.
Tanging sya lamang ang nakakaalam sayong kaibuturan ng puso.
Wala kang nawalang mahalaga..
kaya ok lang yan....
Sarili mo nman pahalagahan mo at mahalin mo...
Ialay mo ang buhay mo sa Diyos at hindi sa mga taong hindi nagpapahalaga sayo...

Ganyan ang buhay...
Laban lang at matatapos din tayo.

14/05/2025

"SAMPUNG BAGAY NA NATUTUNAN KO NANG MAGING NANAY AKO"

1. May mas masakit pa pala sa masasakit na karanasan mo noon. Masakit manganak! Mapa-normal delivery o CS pa yan, masakit manganak! At kinaya ko ito. Kinaya ko!

2. Impakto ang puyat. Kung akala mo natapos na ang lahat ng paghihirap mo sa panganganak, nagkakamali ka. Wala pa ang eyebags-na-tinubuan ng tao phase mo. Walang panahong matulog para sa bagong panganak, buhat-dede-paligo-buhat on repeat ang buong maghapon mo.

3. Nalulusaw ang ganda, tumatanda ang katawan. Lalaylay ang suso mo. Lalaki ang puson mo. Mababanat ang balat mo hanggang sa wala na itong ibabanat pa. Darating ka sa punto ng buhay mong iniiyakan mo ang katotohanang wala kang maisuot na damit. Parang lahat hindi kasya, lahat masikip, lahat wala sa tamang bagsak o kapit sa katawan mo. Walang brang magkasya sayo. Kailangan mong magpalit ng size ng panty. Walang blusang magkasya dahil laging naninikip sa dibdib. Papangit ang katawan ng isang nanay, gustuhin man niya o hindi. Pero mananatili itong tanda ng katapangan niya at pagpiling magluwal ng buhay sa mundo.

4. Duduwagin ka ng maraming bagay. Ang pagiging nanay ang nagbigay sa akin ng katakut-takot na takot. Takot ako sa a*o (at iba pang hayop), sa mga kanto, bagay na matutulis, hagdan, balkonahe, tiles, electric fan, electric socket, mesa, upuan, lamok, alikabok, at hinaharap. Pag nanay ka na, katatakutan mo lahat ng bagay na nakikita at hindi. Takot kang hindi maprotektahan ang anak mo, sa kahit anong bagay, kahit sa bagay na wala ka naman talagang kontrol.

5. Magiging mas matipid ka sa sarili. Ayaw mong gumastos para sa sarili, luho man o kahit kailangan pero kapag sa anak mo, walang tipid-tipid. Halos kalahati ng laman ng cart mo sa grocery ay pangmiryenda nila, gusto mo bago ang damit nila kapag birthday, pasko at bagong taon, hindi mo mapigilan ang sarili minsan kapag nakakakita ka ng sale ng damit pambata, ayos lang na repeat performance ang mga damit mo basta alam mong maayos at kyut na kyut silang mamumustura.

6. Matututo kang kumain lagi ng gulay. Kumakain naman ako ng gulay pero hindi palagi. Gaya ng lahat ng normal na tao, mas masarap naman talagang kumain ng prito at pagkaing inorder sa labas at mga pagkaing iniluto sa labas (sa may kanto, katabi ng sari-sari store kung saan nakakabili ng coke sakto), pero kapag may anak ka na, dahil kailangan mong mag-set ng good example, dadalasan mo ang kain ng masustansiya at aarteng ito ang pinakamasarap na pagkain sa buong mundo.

7. Mas matinding pagpapahalaga pala ang kailangan ng mga bagay na maliit. Sino bang mag-aakala na ang mga maliliit na kamay at paang ito ang magdudulot sa atin ng pinakamalaking kasiyahan sa buhay? At ang mga maliliit na taong ito rin ang pinakanangangailangan ng ating pagkalinga at pagmamahal para sa kanilang paglaki, alam nating kakayanin rin nilang ingatan ang sarili gaya ng pag-iingat at lubos na pag-aalaga sa kanilang kabuuan noong sila’y sanggol pa lang.

8. Magiging mas maawain ka. Kung dati, di ka tinatablan ng mga teleserye sa primetime, ngayon, iyak-iyakan pa lang at mukhang nagpapaawa ng anak mo, lumalambot na ang puso mo. Mabilis kang dalhin ng maliliit na yakap at mamasa-masang halik sa pisngi ng mga maliliit na taong ito.

9. Mas mahal mo ang mga magulang mo ngayon higit kailanman. Dati mo na naman silang mahal, pero naranasan mo na kung paano maging magulang, ngayon mo naiintindihan ang mga ginawa nila sayo noong bata ka pa. Malalaman mong walang perpektong magulang, pero walang magulang na hindi nagmahal sa anak. Laking pasasalamat mo rin sa kanila na nandyan sila para tulungan kang mag-alaga sa anak mo, kahit matanda na sila, kahit medyo uugod-ugod na sila. Alam mong alam nila ang hirap ng pag-aalaga ng bata, kaya maluwag sa kalooban nilang bantayan ang anak mo kahit sandali para makapunta ka kahit saglit sa parlor para makapagpa-manicure-pedicure-footspa o makapanuod man lang ng sine.

10. Magiging madasalin ka. Dati marunong ka lang magdasal kasi nagtapos ka sa Catholic school ng elementary at high school at nagagalit sa'yo ang nanay mo noong kolehiyo hanggang makapagtapos ka kapag madalas na hindi ka nakapagsisimba. Hindi ka pa rin naman palasimba ngayon (mahirap kasing bitbitin ang mga anak mo sa simbahan dahil bukod sa maingay, napakalikot nila) pero gabi-gabi kang nagdarasal na sana gabayan palagi ang mga anak mo. Na sana maging mababait na tao sila, yung lumaki silang mapagmahal, marunong makipagkapwa tao, maging masunurin, matalino, maging malusog at maging matatag kapag wala ka na para gabayan at alagaan sila.

Sa gabi, tuwing magdarasal ka, dala mo lahat sa puso mo ang saya, lungkot, at takot ng pagiging isang nanay, na walang hangad kundi sana bukas, bigyan ka pa rin ng lakas magpaka-nanay at pawiin lahat ng pagod na nararamdaman ng katawan at puso.

14/05/2025

The way a man treats you when he’s angry says more than all the sweet things he’s ever said. Anyone can be kind when everything’s good… but when emotions run high, that’s when the truth shows up. Real love doesn’t disappear when things get tense...it adapts, it softens, it still protects, even when it’s hurting.
If he truly cares, he’ll be mindful with his words, even if he’s upset. He might need space, but he won’t use his anger to punish you. He won’t insult, ignore, or manipulate. Love doesn’t become cruel just because it’s wounded. It doesn’t lash out to feel powerful. It doesn’t hide behind silence or threats just to stay in control.
So no, “He was just mad” isn’t an excuse. Anger doesn’t justify emotional abuse. Saying reckless things, crossing boundaries, disappearing when it’s inconvenient...none of that is passion. That’s immaturity. A real man protects your heart, even when his own is hurting.
Sometimes red flags are quiet. They show up in the way he reacts after the argument… whether he moves toward resolution or clings to pride. If love turns to venom the second you disagree, that’s not love....it’s control.
You deserve someone who communicates, not someone who breaks you down to feel strong. The way he handles anger is a choice. And those choices reveal who he really is. Pay attention. Your heart already knows.

12/05/2025

When a man is gentle with you... not just in his touch, but in his tone, his presence, his energy — something in you begins to shift. You breathe a little easier. Your body doesn't brace for disappointment. Your heart doesn’t flinch at every word. Because for the first time in a long time, you feel safe.

That’s what emotional safety does. It quiets the anxiety. It softens the walls you built to survive. It teaches your nervous system that it no longer has to be in fight or flight. You’re not walking on eggshells. You’re not constantly questioning where you stand or if you’re asking for too much. You're just... loved, consistently and calmly.
That’s why some women start glowing when they’re loved right. It’s not just the relationship. It’s the healing. It’s the peace. It’s the reassurance that love doesn’t have to hurt, doesn’t have to be chaotic, doesn’t have to break you down to build you up again.
It’s him showing up without you begging. It’s the softness in his voice when he says your name. It’s his ability to make you feel held be motionally, spiritually, mentally not just physically. It’s knowing that you’re not a burden, that your feelings are safe with him, that your past doesn’t scare him, and your vulnerability isn’t a weapon to be used against you.
That’s the kind of love that makes a woman radiant. That makes her blossom. That makes her soul rest. Not because she’s being loved with fireworks, but because she’s finally being loved without fear.

12/05/2025

Yung ipinagkatiwala mo ang buo mong pagkatao sa taong minahal mo...tapos sya rin pala ang sisira at wawasak sayo... For better & worst nga talaga...

12/05/2025

Never play games with a woman who isn’t afraid to be alone.
Because here’s what you don’t realize....she’s already faced nights without a comforting hand. She’s already survived days when no one checked on her, no one texted back, no one offered to lighten her load. She’s already learned how to wipe her own tears, fix her own problems, and build her own peace.
A woman who isn’t afraid to be alone doesn’t tolerate breadcrumbs. She doesn’t settle for inconsistency, mixed signals, or halfhearted love. She’s been through the fire and made it out stronger. She’s learned that her solitude is far better than chaos disguised as companionship.

You can’t manipulate her with silence. You can’t bait her with temporary affection. You can’t pull her back with broken promises. Because she’s learned to enjoy her own company. She’s built a life that doesn’t depend on validation from anyone else. She doesn’t need a man to complete her....she’s already whole.
So when you play games with her, you’re not confusing her. You’re simply showing her that you’re not ready for the kind of love she’s prepared to give. And the moment she senses you’re wasting her time, she won’t argue, she won’t beg, she won’t chase....she’ll simply walk away, quietly and gracefully, back into the peace she created for herself.

A woman who isn’t afraid to be alone is a woman you’ll never control. She loves by choice, not necessity. And if you’re not adding to her life, she has no problem subtracting you from it.
So don’t play games with a woman who’s already learned how to stand alone… because she’ll never hesitate to do it again...

11/05/2025

Mas malala ngayon ang impact ng pangatlong akala mo my dear self.
Be strong...
Kayanin mo yan...
Masakit, sobrang sakit...
Kung noong una ay para kang boteng nabasag ngayon para ka namang mashed potato...
Grabeh...
Kayanin mo yan...
Love hurts so much talaga.

25/01/2024