28/08/2025
NARCISSISTS LOVE TO END RELATIONSHIPS EXACTLY LIKE THIS
A narcissist rarely breaks up like a normal person. They don’t believe in honesty, respect, or closure. Instead, they rely on a cruel strategy known as reverse discard. This is where they slowly, deliberately, and systematically make the relationship unbearable, until you’re the one who finally ends things. To outsiders, it looks like you “gave up,” but in reality, they pushed you into that position.
Why do they do this? Because it allows them to protect their image. Narcissists are obsessed with control, power, and appearances. They don’t want to be seen as the “bad guy.” So instead of taking responsibility for ending the relationship, they engineer situations that force you to leave first. That way, they get to play innocent—or even portray themselves as the victim—while you walk away carrying the weight of the decision.
Here’s how it usually unfolds:
Emotional Coldness: The affection you once felt from them begins to vanish. They become distant, sarcastic, and dismissive. Suddenly, you feel invisible in your own relationship.
Conflict and Chaos: They manufacture drama. Small disagreements turn into full-blown arguments. Criticism becomes constant. They gaslight you, twist your words, and make you question your own memory and judgment.
Blame Shifting: They subtly (or not so subtly) make you believe you are the problem. Their words and actions leave you feeling guilty for issues you didn’t create.
Silent Treatment: Instead of addressing problems, they retreat into silence. Their lack of communication becomes suffocating, their absence louder than words.
Emotional Withdrawal: They pull back their love, their affection, and even physical intimacy. You begin to feel unwanted, undesired, and completely disconnected.
Provoking You to Leave: They push your boundaries so far that leaving feels like your only option. And when you finally walk away, they get exactly what they wanted.
The cycle is brutal because it leaves you second-guessing yourself. You wonder, “Was it me? Did I not try hard enough? Was I too much or not enough?” But the truth is, this was their plan from the start. They wanted you to take the blame, so they carefully orchestrated the situation until you reached the breaking point.
And once you do leave, the narcissist often does one of two things:
1. Plays the victim – telling others how you “abandoned” them, twisting the story so they look like the one who was wronged.
2. Hoovers back – suddenly reappearing, trying to suck you back into the cycle with false promises, fake apologies, or a flood of affection, only to repeat the same cycle again.
Narcissists don’t end relationships with honesty. They end them with manipulation. They thrive on leaving you confused, broken, and questioning your worth—because that gives them power.
The truth is: none of this is your fault. Their behavior isn’t about love—it’s about control. The moment you recognize this pattern, you reclaim your strength. The best thing you can do is walk away with clarity, knowing you were never the problem.
CCTO
