My Gem of Thougths

31/08/2025

What she’s needed her entire life.

She needs someone who will accept her for who she is, without conditions or pretense.

She needs them to see her flaws, her imperfections, and her rough edges, yet choose to love her anyway.

She craves a deeper understanding that goes beyond words and explanations.

She needs someone who can feel her emotions, her thoughts, and her desires, even when she struggles to express them.

She needs them to listen with empathy, with compassion, and with an open heart.

She need someone who can offer security, a sense of safety, and a reminder that our love is stronger than any disagreement ever will be.

She needs them to be her rock, her shelter, and most importantly her refuge.

She longs for someone who knows her intimately, without masks or filters.

She wants someone who sees the real her in all her complexity, and still chooses to love her, to accept her, and to cherish her.

That's what she wants in a partner.

Someone who loves her for who she is, without conditions, without excuses, and without expectations of change.

Someone who sees the real her and says, 'I love you, just as you are.

29/08/2025

Dumating man tayo pareho sa punto na pakiramdam natin hindi na natin mahal ang isa't isa, lalo na kapag mas dumadalas pa ang sama ng loob kaysa sa saya, sana palagi nating maalala na hangga't kaya, piliin natin ang isa't isa. Piliin natin sindihan ulit ang mitsa kung sakali mang nauubos na ang liyab ng pag-ibig nating dalawa. Di man natin palaging naiintindihan ang isa't isa at abutan man tayo ng pagod, lagi lang tayong magpahinga hanggang magkaroon tayo ng lakas ulit para lumaban. Para kung talagang hindi na kayang isalba, at least binuhos nating pareho ang lahat ng tsansa at pagpapatawad sa isa't isa.

28/08/2025

NARCISSISTS LOVE TO END RELATIONSHIPS EXACTLY LIKE THIS

A narcissist rarely breaks up like a normal person. They don’t believe in honesty, respect, or closure. Instead, they rely on a cruel strategy known as reverse discard. This is where they slowly, deliberately, and systematically make the relationship unbearable, until you’re the one who finally ends things. To outsiders, it looks like you “gave up,” but in reality, they pushed you into that position.

Why do they do this? Because it allows them to protect their image. Narcissists are obsessed with control, power, and appearances. They don’t want to be seen as the “bad guy.” So instead of taking responsibility for ending the relationship, they engineer situations that force you to leave first. That way, they get to play innocent—or even portray themselves as the victim—while you walk away carrying the weight of the decision.

Here’s how it usually unfolds:

Emotional Coldness: The affection you once felt from them begins to vanish. They become distant, sarcastic, and dismissive. Suddenly, you feel invisible in your own relationship.

Conflict and Chaos: They manufacture drama. Small disagreements turn into full-blown arguments. Criticism becomes constant. They gaslight you, twist your words, and make you question your own memory and judgment.

Blame Shifting: They subtly (or not so subtly) make you believe you are the problem. Their words and actions leave you feeling guilty for issues you didn’t create.

Silent Treatment: Instead of addressing problems, they retreat into silence. Their lack of communication becomes suffocating, their absence louder than words.

Emotional Withdrawal: They pull back their love, their affection, and even physical intimacy. You begin to feel unwanted, undesired, and completely disconnected.

Provoking You to Leave: They push your boundaries so far that leaving feels like your only option. And when you finally walk away, they get exactly what they wanted.

The cycle is brutal because it leaves you second-guessing yourself. You wonder, “Was it me? Did I not try hard enough? Was I too much or not enough?” But the truth is, this was their plan from the start. They wanted you to take the blame, so they carefully orchestrated the situation until you reached the breaking point.

And once you do leave, the narcissist often does one of two things:

1. Plays the victim – telling others how you “abandoned” them, twisting the story so they look like the one who was wronged.

2. Hoovers back – suddenly reappearing, trying to suck you back into the cycle with false promises, fake apologies, or a flood of affection, only to repeat the same cycle again.

Narcissists don’t end relationships with honesty. They end them with manipulation. They thrive on leaving you confused, broken, and questioning your worth—because that gives them power.

The truth is: none of this is your fault. Their behavior isn’t about love—it’s about control. The moment you recognize this pattern, you reclaim your strength. The best thing you can do is walk away with clarity, knowing you were never the problem.

CCTO

21/08/2025

Sometimes, people are so quick to judge others without really knowing their story. A single mistake, a rumor, or even just the way someone looks can already make them targets of harsh words or wrong assumptions.

But the truth is, we never really know what someone has been through. Behind every face is a struggle we cannot see, a pain they choose to hide, or a journey that shaped who they are today.

Misjudging others doesn’t just hurt the person we judge—it also blinds us from discovering the goodness in them. If we choose to pause, listen, and understand before we assume, we might realize that the people we once misjudged are far more kind, resilient, and genuine than we ever thought.

The world needs more compassion, not judgment. 🌸

18/08/2025

Maghihilom din ang puso ko sa tamang panahon.
Hindi man sa ngayon pero balang araw, isa ka na lang kwento sa aking kahapon.

Masakit man ang ating paghihiwalay.
Nagkasamaan man tayo ng loob at nagsiraan.
Balang araw may mga tao rin na mauunawaan din nila kung bakit ako sumuko...

Na kahit pangit man ang kwento mo sa akin sayong mga kaibigan, pamilya o mga barkada.
Ayos lang sa akin na ako'y masama sa paningin nila.
Hahayaan ko silang mag isip at isipin kung paano mo ako sinira sa mata at isip nila.

Dahil tiyak sa pananahimik ko,ang DIYOS lamang ang tanging nakakaalam sa buong kwento.
Kung paano mo ako niloloko at sinasaktan...
maski binabaliktad mo ang kwento para ikaw ang magmukhang biktima at ako ang akusado.

Naisip mo bang hindi nagwawagi ang mga taong sinungaling.
Lalo na kung minamahal ka ng totoo ang hangad ng taong nagmamahal sayo.
Ngunit sa kabila ng lahat na pinakita at pinaparamdam mo ay nagawa mo siyang yurakan ang kanyang dangal.

Kaya....
hindi ko kailangan ipaliwanag ang sarili ko sa ibang tao dahil mas higit na kilala ko ang sarili ko, pangalan at buo kong pagkatao na ginulo mo.

29/07/2025

I think it's easier to say “I'm okay” than to tell people why I'm hurting. It's hard to explain what I feel because even I don't understand my feelings. I just know that somewhere inside my heart is aching, feeling lonely, and breaking slowly. Sometimes, when people ask me what makes me sad, I only stay silent because I don't know if they will understand. I'm afraid that they would only invalidate it and tell me that I am just being too emotional or dramatic. So I just choose to keep all my pain in me.

Sometimes, when my feelings get too heavy, I just cry alone and pretend that everything is alright whenever I step outside. But I admit it's hard when I can't tell all my problems to anyone. I make myself alone, even if there are some people out there who want to reach out. I don't trust anyone. I'd rather keep all my pain to myself than ask for somebody to listen to me. I just feel like nothing will ever change if I ever tell them how unhappy I am. I will still remain hurting. I will still be sad even after I confess how miserable I am for the past relationship that I had to the person whom I trust and loved...
So I just sit with my pain alone and deal with it. At the end of the day, I just tell myself that everything will be alright.

And then I'm keeping my self moving...

24/07/2025

𝗡𝗔𝗞𝗔𝗞𝗔𝗣𝗔𝗚𝗢𝗗 ‘𝗧𝗢 𝗣𝗘𝗥𝗢 𝗕𝗔𝗞𝗜𝗧 𝗔𝗬𝗢𝗞𝗢𝗡𝗚 𝗦𝗨𝗠𝗨𝗞𝗢?
𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙩𝙝 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙢𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙞𝙖𝙜𝙚 𝙣𝙖 𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙞 𝙣𝙖𝙥𝙖𝙜-𝙪𝙪𝙨𝙖𝙥𝙖𝙣 𝙪𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙡 𝙣𝙤𝙬.

𝐏𝐚𝐠𝐨𝐝 𝐊𝐚 𝐍𝐚 𝐁𝐚 𝐎 𝐍𝐚𝐠𝐩𝐚𝐩𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐠𝐚𝐩 𝐊𝐚 𝐋𝐚𝐧𝐠?

Picture this. Gabi na. Pareho kayong nakahiga pero magkatalikod. Tahimik. Walang hawakan. Walang usapan. Pero ang bigat sa pagitan ninyo. Parang may nakabara sa hangin.

Then bigla mong natanong, “Namimiss mo pa ba ako?”
Tapos ang sagot niya, hindi “ikaw,” kundi, “Namimiss ko tayo. Di ko lang alam paano babalik.”

Walang drama. Walang third party. Walang sigawan.
Pero ramdam mong hindi na kayo kayo.

𝐁𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐭 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐠 𝐀𝐤𝐨 𝐋𝐚𝐠𝐢 𝐀𝐧𝐠 𝐊𝐮𝐦𝐢𝐤𝐢𝐥𝐨𝐬?

Nakakapagod, diba? Lalo na kapag feeling mo ikaw na lang yung kumakapit.
Ikaw na yung nag-iintindi.
Ikaw na yung nagpe-pray.
Ikaw na lahat.

Pero real talk.
Baka hindi naman talaga ikaw ang dapat laging mauna.

Baka hindi ikaw ang solusyon sa bawat problema.
Hindi mo responsibilidad na ayusin siya, ilapit siya kay God, buuin siya.
Kasi kahit gaano ka pa ka-committed, si God pa rin ang gumagawa ng tunay na pagbabago sa tao.

Sabi nga sa 𝟭 𝗣𝗲𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝟯:𝟲,
“𝗦𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗹𝘆 𝗮 𝗱𝗮𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝗦𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗵… 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗯𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝘆 𝗳𝗲𝗮𝗿.”

𝐇𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐢 𝐌𝐨 𝐊𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐚𝐧𝐠 𝐁𝐮𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧 𝐋𝐚𝐡𝐚𝐭, 𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐨 𝐖𝐚𝐠 𝐌𝐨 𝐑𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐁𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐧 𝐋𝐚𝐡𝐚𝐭

Oo, may mga parts sa relationship na hindi mo kailangang akuin.
Hindi mo trabaho ang gawing spiritual leader ang asawa mo.
Hindi mo kailangang mag-initiate palagi.
Hindi mo kailangang gumanap ng role na hindi naman para sa’yo.

Pero meron pa ring parts na sa’yo talaga.
Yung to walk in wisdom (Proverbs 14:1)
Yung to respond with gentleness (1 Peter 3:4)
Yung to obey even when your partner doesn’t (Romans 12:18)

Alam mo ‘yung feeling na parang ikaw na lang ang may pake? Yung nagpe-pray ka, nag-e-effort ka, pero siya parang chill lang? Yeah, I’ve been there. Pero ito ‘yung totoo: kahit may kulang sa kanya, hindi excuse ‘yon para itigil mo na rin ‘yung calling mo bilang asawa.

Sabi sa 𝗞𝗮𝘄𝗶𝗸𝗮𝗮𝗻 𝟭𝟰:𝟭, “𝗔𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗼𝗻𝗴 𝗯𝗮𝗯𝗮𝗲 𝗮𝘆 𝗻𝗮𝗴𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗮𝗴 𝗻𝗴 𝗸𝗮𝗻𝘆𝗮𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗮𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗮𝗻, 𝗻𝗴𝘂𝗻𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘀𝗮𝗸 𝗶𝘁𝗼 𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗮 𝗽𝗮𝗺𝗮𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗶𝘁𝗮𝗻 𝗻𝗴 𝗸𝗮𝗻𝘆𝗮𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗴𝗮 𝗸𝗮𝗺𝗮𝘆.” Kung ikaw ang may wisdom ngayon, ikaw din ang tinawag ni Lord to build. Hindi to enable, pero to hold the line habang inaayos Niya ‘yung puso ni mister.

Sabi rin sa 𝟭 𝗣𝗲𝗱𝗿𝗼 𝟯:𝟰, “𝗞𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗶 𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗮𝗮𝗺𝗼 𝗮𝗻𝗴 𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗶𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘂 𝗻𝗮 𝘁𝗮𝗵𝗶𝗺𝗶𝗸 𝗮𝘁 𝗯𝗮𝗻𝗮𝘆𝗮𝗱, 𝗻𝗮 𝘀𝗶𝘆𝗮𝗻𝗴 𝗻𝗮𝗽𝗮𝗸𝗮𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗮𝗴𝗮 𝘀𝗮 𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻 𝗻𝗴 𝗗𝗶𝘆𝗼𝘀.” Hindi ito about being submissive para lang matahimik ang bahay. It’s about choosing gentleness over pride, softness over sarcasm kasi minsan, ‘yun na lang ang paraan para hindi tuluyang masira ang connection ninyong dalawa.

At sa 𝗥𝗼𝗺𝗮 𝟭𝟮:𝟭𝟴, “𝗞𝘂𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗮𝗮𝗮𝗿𝗶, 𝘀𝗮 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘁 𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗮𝗸𝗮𝘆𝗮, 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗽𝗮𝗴𝗸𝗮𝘀𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗼 𝗸𝗮𝘆𝗼 𝘀𝗮 𝗹𝗮𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗮𝗼.” Hindi mo kontrolado ‘yung response niya. Pero sa abot ng makakaya mo, you choose peace. Not because he deserves it, but because God asked it from you.

Real talk? Ang hirap nito. Pero hindi ka nag-iisa. Hindi ka tinawag ni Lord para ikaw lang ang magbuhat, tinawag ka Niya para maniwalang grace will carry the parts na hindi mo kayang buuin mag-isa.

Hindi mo kailangan dalhin ang buong relationship.
Pero kailangan mong dalhin yung parte mo…
with grace, not pressure.
With love, not resentment.

𝐊𝐚𝐩𝐚𝐠 𝐓𝐚𝐦𝐚 𝐊𝐚 𝐍𝐠𝐚, 𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐨 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐠 𝐈𝐤𝐚𝐰 𝐏𝐚 𝐑𝐢𝐧 𝐀𝐧𝐠 𝐌𝐚𝐥𝐢

Let’s be honest.
Minsan alam mong may mali siya.
May pruweba ka. May kwento ka. May resibo ka.
Pero bakit parang ikaw pa rin yung lumalabas na masama?

It’s because truth without mercy doesn’t heal.
Nakakasakit siya kahit totoo siya.
Nakakahiwalay siya kahit may point ka.
Hindi mo napapansin, weapon na pala ‘yung hawak mo.

Tignan mo yung kwento ng babaeng nahuli sa adultery.
They weren’t wrong about her sin. Pero kulang ng awa.
Si Job, si Peter, even the older brother ng prodigal son,
lahat sila tama… pero hindi mahinahon, hindi maawain, hindi mapagpatawad.

Ganon din tayo minsan.
Sobrang focus sa katotohanan, nakakalimutan na natin maging tao.
Nakakalimutan nating pareho lang tayong may sablay.

𝐏𝐰𝐞𝐝𝐞 𝐊𝐚 𝐏𝐚𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐠 𝐌𝐚𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐓𝐚𝐦𝐚 𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐨 𝐇𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐢 𝐓𝐚𝐦𝐚 𝐘𝐮𝐧𝐠 𝐀𝐩𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐌𝐨

Just because totoo ang kasalanan ng partner mo, doesn’t make your reaction holy.
Pwede ka kasing maging accurate pero mayabang.
Pwede kang mag-call out ng kasalanan nila, pero nakakalimutang i-own ang sarili mong pagkukulang.

Both of you fall short.
Both of you need grace.
Kaya hindi dapat “ako ang tama, ikaw ang mali.”
Dapat, “Pano natin aayusin ‘to nang magkasama?”

Hindi mo siya pwedeng hilain paakyat habang minamaliit mo siya.

𝐇𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐢 𝐓𝐨 𝐐𝐮𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐅𝐢𝐱, 𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐨 𝐏𝐰𝐞𝐝𝐞 𝐏𝐚 𝐑𝐢𝐧 𝐌𝐚𝐚𝐲𝐨𝐬

Walang magic sa pag-ayos ng relasyon.
Pero may miracles sa pagtyatyaga.

Yung simpleng hawak-kamay ulit after months na parang strangers kayo.
Yung bigla kayong nagtawanan sa simpleng bagay.
Yung maramdaman mong unti-unti, bumabalik yung tayo.

Hindi siya biglaan.
Hindi siya madali.
Pero posible siya kapag pareho kayong nag-decide na subukan ulit.

𝐈𝐬𝐢𝐩𝐢𝐧 𝐌𝐨 ‘𝐓𝐨 𝐁𝐚𝐠𝐨 𝐊𝐚 𝐌𝐚𝐠𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐬𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐮𝐦𝐮𝐤𝐨

Baka hindi ka tinawag ni God para ayusin siya.
Baka tinawag ka Niya para ipakita kung paano magmahal sa gitna ng hindi pagkakaintindihan.
Para piliin ang grace kahit may issue.
Para maging reflection ng pagmamahal Niya, hindi ng pride mo.

“𝗕𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗲𝘁𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝗵𝘂𝗺𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗴𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗹𝗲; 𝗯𝗲 𝗽𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗲𝗻𝘁, 𝗯𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗶𝗻 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲.” — 𝗘𝗽𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗶𝗮𝗻𝘀 𝟰:𝟮

𝐑𝐞𝐟𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐞 𝐇𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐢 ‘𝐓𝐨 𝐏𝐚-𝐒𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐭

Kung natahimik ka habang binabasa mo ‘to, baka hindi aksidente.
Baka ito na ‘yung subtle way ni God para sabihing,
“Anak, wag ka munang bibitaw. May ginagawa pa Ako.”

So take a moment.
Huminga ka.
Pag-isipan mo:
Am I reacting out of pain? Or responding out of love?

Words inspired me from
📸Shei Speaks

25/01/2024