My Inner Thougths

My Inner Thougths . . .whatever in my thoughts pop up!

13/10/2025

Mga babae, kung ang isang lalaki ay nakaupo lang doon at panoorin kang umiiyak, hindi ka papansinin habang sinusubukan mong makipag-usap, at matulog nang payapa habang ikaw ay nasasaktan, maging totoo tayo...
hindi ka mahal ng lalaking iyon.

Hindi pinahihintulutan ng pag-ibig ang isang taong mahalaga sa iyo na magdusa sa katahimikan. Hindi nito hinahayaang masira ang damdamin ng taong kasama mo habang nananatili kang malamig, walang malasakit, o ganap na hiwalay.

Ang tunay na pag-ibig ay hindi lamang tungkol sa salita, ito ay tungkol sa mga aksyon. Ito ay tungkol sa pagiging nandiyan kapag mahirap ang mga bagay, tungkol sa pag-alok ng balikat na iyakan, at pagtiyak na alam ng taong mahal mo na hindi sila nag-iisa sa kanilang sakit.

Kung kaya niyang panoorin kang nasasaktan at hindi magagalaw para tumulong, mag-comfort, mag-ayos ng mga bagay-bagay...hindi pag-ibig iyon, kapabayaan iyon.

Ang pag-ibig ay nangangailangan ng empatiya, isang pagpayag na unawain at pangalagaan ang isang tao na higit pa sa antas. Kung hindi siya napipilitang i-comfort ka kapag ikaw ay nasa pinakamababa, ito ay isang malinaw na senyales na hindi siya namuhunan sa iyo tulad ng ikaw ay sa kanya.

Kung maaari niyang balewalain ang iyong sakit at magpatuloy sa kanyang buhay na parang walang mali, ipinapakita niya sa iyo, sa pinakamasakit na paraan, na ang iyong damdamin ay hindi mahalaga sa kanya.

Deserve mo yung lalaking mararamdaman mo yung sakit mo, hindi balewalain. Karapat-dapat ka sa isang taong gustong makipag-usap sa mga mahihirap na panahon, isang taong nakikita ang iyong mga luha at gustong maunawaan kung ano ang naging sanhi nito, hindi isang taong pumikit at mahimbing na natutulog habang ikaw ay nalulunod sa mga emosyon.

Ang lalaking tunay na nagmamahal sa iyo ay hinding hindi ka makikitang nahihirapan sa katahimikan. Aabot siya, makikinig siya, susubukan niyang aliwin at pagalingin ang mga sugat, hindi palalain ang mga ito sa pamamagitan ng pagpapanggap na wala sila.

At maging malinaw tayo...hindi ito tungkol sa pagiging perpekto. Hindi ito tungkol sa pag-asa sa isang tao na magkaroon ng lahat ng tamang sagot o laging alam kung ano ang sasabihin. Pero ang lalaking totoong nagmamahal sa'yo ay hinding-hindi ipaparamdam sa'yo kapag nasasaktan ka. Gusto niyang unawain ang iyong sakit, sapat ang kanyang malasakit upang matulungan kang malampasan ito, at ipapakita niya sa iyo na hindi ka nag-iisa, lalo na sa iyong mga pinaka-mahina na sandali.

Kung ang mga aksyon ng isang lalaki ay nagpaparamdam sa iyo na hindi nakikita, hindi naririnig, o hindi mahalaga...iyan ang iyong senyales na oras na para bumitaw. Huwag sayangin ang iyong oras sa isang taong hindi maipakita sa iyo ang pangunahing empatiya o pagmamalasakit. Karapat-dapat ka sa isang lalaki na nandiyan para sa iyo kapag kailangan mo siya, hindi ang isang tao na magmamasid sa iyong pagdurusa at pagkatapos ay matulog nang mapayapa na parang walang nangyari.

Ang iyong sakit ay mahalaga. Ang iyong damdamin ay mahalaga. Huwag magpasya sa anumang bagay na mas mababa kaysa sa isang taong nakakakita nito.

12/09/2025

Now alam ko na yung reason....

What she’s needed her entire life.She needs someone who will accept her for who she is, without conditions or pretense. ...
31/08/2025

What she’s needed her entire life.

She needs someone who will accept her for who she is, without conditions or pretense.

She needs them to see her flaws, her imperfections, and her rough edges, yet choose to love her anyway.

She craves a deeper understanding that goes beyond words and explanations.

She needs someone who can feel her emotions, her thoughts, and her desires, even when she struggles to express them.

She needs them to listen with empathy, with compassion, and with an open heart.

She need someone who can offer security, a sense of safety, and a reminder that our love is stronger than any disagreement ever will be.

She needs them to be her rock, her shelter, and most importantly her refuge.

She longs for someone who knows her intimately, without masks or filters.

She wants someone who sees the real her in all her complexity, and still chooses to love her, to accept her, and to cherish her.

That's what she wants in a partner.

Someone who loves her for who she is, without conditions, without excuses, and without expectations of change.

Someone who sees the real her and says, 'I love you, just as you are.

Dumating man tayo pareho sa punto na pakiramdam natin hindi na natin mahal ang isa't isa, lalo na kapag mas dumadalas pa...
29/08/2025

Dumating man tayo pareho sa punto na pakiramdam natin hindi na natin mahal ang isa't isa, lalo na kapag mas dumadalas pa ang sama ng loob kaysa sa saya, sana palagi nating maalala na hangga't kaya, piliin natin ang isa't isa. Piliin natin sindihan ulit ang mitsa kung sakali mang nauubos na ang liyab ng pag-ibig nating dalawa. Di man natin palaging naiintindihan ang isa't isa at abutan man tayo ng pagod, lagi lang tayong magpahinga hanggang magkaroon tayo ng lakas ulit para lumaban. Para kung talagang hindi na kayang isalba, at least binuhos nating pareho ang lahat ng tsansa at pagpapatawad sa isa't isa.

28/08/2025

NARCISSISTS LOVE TO END RELATIONSHIPS EXACTLY LIKE THIS

A narcissist rarely breaks up like a normal person. They don’t believe in honesty, respect, or closure. Instead, they rely on a cruel strategy known as reverse discard. This is where they slowly, deliberately, and systematically make the relationship unbearable, until you’re the one who finally ends things. To outsiders, it looks like you “gave up,” but in reality, they pushed you into that position.

Why do they do this? Because it allows them to protect their image. Narcissists are obsessed with control, power, and appearances. They don’t want to be seen as the “bad guy.” So instead of taking responsibility for ending the relationship, they engineer situations that force you to leave first. That way, they get to play innocent—or even portray themselves as the victim—while you walk away carrying the weight of the decision.

Here’s how it usually unfolds:

Emotional Coldness: The affection you once felt from them begins to vanish. They become distant, sarcastic, and dismissive. Suddenly, you feel invisible in your own relationship.

Conflict and Chaos: They manufacture drama. Small disagreements turn into full-blown arguments. Criticism becomes constant. They gaslight you, twist your words, and make you question your own memory and judgment.

Blame Shifting: They subtly (or not so subtly) make you believe you are the problem. Their words and actions leave you feeling guilty for issues you didn’t create.

Silent Treatment: Instead of addressing problems, they retreat into silence. Their lack of communication becomes suffocating, their absence louder than words.

Emotional Withdrawal: They pull back their love, their affection, and even physical intimacy. You begin to feel unwanted, undesired, and completely disconnected.

Provoking You to Leave: They push your boundaries so far that leaving feels like your only option. And when you finally walk away, they get exactly what they wanted.

The cycle is brutal because it leaves you second-guessing yourself. You wonder, “Was it me? Did I not try hard enough? Was I too much or not enough?” But the truth is, this was their plan from the start. They wanted you to take the blame, so they carefully orchestrated the situation until you reached the breaking point.

And once you do leave, the narcissist often does one of two things:

1. Plays the victim – telling others how you “abandoned” them, twisting the story so they look like the one who was wronged.

2. Hoovers back – suddenly reappearing, trying to suck you back into the cycle with false promises, fake apologies, or a flood of affection, only to repeat the same cycle again.

Narcissists don’t end relationships with honesty. They end them with manipulation. They thrive on leaving you confused, broken, and questioning your worth—because that gives them power.

The truth is: none of this is your fault. Their behavior isn’t about love—it’s about control. The moment you recognize this pattern, you reclaim your strength. The best thing you can do is walk away with clarity, knowing you were never the problem.

CCTO

21/08/2025

Sometimes, people are so quick to judge others without really knowing their story. A single mistake, a rumor, or even just the way someone looks can already make them targets of harsh words or wrong assumptions.

But the truth is, we never really know what someone has been through. Behind every face is a struggle we cannot see, a pain they choose to hide, or a journey that shaped who they are today.

Misjudging others doesn’t just hurt the person we judge—it also blinds us from discovering the goodness in them. If we choose to pause, listen, and understand before we assume, we might realize that the people we once misjudged are far more kind, resilient, and genuine than we ever thought.

The world needs more compassion, not judgment. 🌸

18/08/2025

Maghihilom din ang puso ko sa tamang panahon.
Hindi man sa ngayon pero balang araw, isa ka na lang kwento sa aking kahapon.

Masakit man ang ating paghihiwalay.
Nagkasamaan man tayo ng loob at nagsiraan.
Balang araw may mga tao rin na mauunawaan din nila kung bakit ako sumuko...

Na kahit pangit man ang kwento mo sa akin sayong mga kaibigan, pamilya o mga barkada.
Ayos lang sa akin na ako'y masama sa paningin nila.
Hahayaan ko silang mag isip at isipin kung paano mo ako sinira sa mata at isip nila.

Dahil tiyak sa pananahimik ko,ang DIYOS lamang ang tanging nakakaalam sa buong kwento.
Kung paano mo ako niloloko at sinasaktan...
maski binabaliktad mo ang kwento para ikaw ang magmukhang biktima at ako ang akusado.

Naisip mo bang hindi nagwawagi ang mga taong sinungaling.
Lalo na kung minamahal ka ng totoo ang hangad ng taong nagmamahal sayo.
Ngunit sa kabila ng lahat na pinakita at pinaparamdam mo ay nagawa mo siyang yurakan ang kanyang dangal.

Kaya....
hindi ko kailangan ipaliwanag ang sarili ko sa ibang tao dahil mas higit na kilala ko ang sarili ko, pangalan at buo kong pagkatao na ginulo mo.

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