Mumsh Mandz

12/12/2025

Ideally speaking yes. But real talk lang, not everyone has that luxury. Plus all of us have our own baggages that we bring into our relationships, especially as a married couple.

But that being the goal, we owe it to our partners that we work towards our personal healing and recovery so that whatever it is that puts the strain (or stress) in the relationship is dealt with.

It takes work.. pero possible. ☺️

It hits deep when Toni Gonzaga said: “Partner mo dapat ang unang source mo ng healing at peace, hindi ng stress.”

Kasi sa totoo lang, mahirap na ang mundo, tapos sa relasyon mo pa manggagaling ang bigat. Dapat may sense of calm kapag kasama mo ang taong mahal mo. Yung pakiramdam na safe ka sa presence nila.

Kapag tama ang tao, hindi ka matatakot mag-open up. Hindi ka nila ipaparamdam na OA ka o mahina. They listen, they understand, and they stay patient with you.

Masarap sa feeling yung may partner na hindi ka pinapahirapan emotionally. Yung hindi ka kinakabahan tuwing may konting problema. Kasi alam mong kaya niyong ayusin nang hindi nag-aaway nang sobra.

Healthy relationship means may space to grow together. Hindi yung bawat pagkakamali mo ay ipinupukpok sa'yo. Instead, tutulungan ka nilang maging better version ng sarili mo.

At the end of the day, love should feel like home. Hindi perfect, pero peaceful. Hindi laging masaya, pero hindi rin toxic.

27/11/2025

Say it with me..
"Kaya ko maging soft.
Kaya ko maging strong.
Kaya ko maging both — at the same time.
Flexible - parang si Kween Yasmin" 🤸‍♀️💛

27/11/2025

Checking in with Kween Yasmin fonts.

24/11/2025

Personal healing grows gently in your life when you begin embracing your weaknesses, forgiving your shortcomings, understanding your story, and appreciating your strength and beauty - all while learning to protect the God-given identity He crafted uniquely for you.

Share this with someone who needs to hear this today. 🩷

17/11/2025

🌿𝐁𝐎𝐔𝐍𝐃𝐀𝐑𝐈𝐄𝐒: 𝐖𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐘 𝐑𝐄𝐀𝐋𝐋𝐘 𝐀𝐑𝐄 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐖𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐘 𝐀𝐑𝐄 𝐍𝐎𝐓
Sometimes, we say, "𝘐'𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘶𝘪𝘭𝘥 𝘢 𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘺." O di kaya, "𝘛𝘩𝘢𝘵'𝘴 𝘮𝘺 𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘺."

Pero kapag mataas ang emotion, what we may call a "𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘺" is actually as 𝘸𝘢𝘭𝘭.

𝘞𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘴 𝘥𝘰𝘯'𝘵 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘵𝘦𝘤𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴 - 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙞𝙨𝙤𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚.
Recently I observe some people confusing this very thin line between boundaries and wall - to unpleasant results. This made me pause, reflect and really discern what healthy boundaries look like.

🗹 𝗪𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗔 𝗧𝗥𝗨𝗘 𝗕𝗢𝗨𝗡𝗗𝗔𝗥𝗬 𝗜𝗦
1. 𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝗯𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗸 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺.
Kapag yung boundary 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝘀, 𝗽𝘂𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗵𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝗿 𝗽𝘂𝘀𝗵𝗲𝘀 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆- that's not a boundary. 𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁'𝘀 𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗱 𝗮𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗱𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲.

A 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭 𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘺 sounds like this:
➡️𝘓𝘦𝘵'𝘴 𝘭𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘰 𝘸𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘯'𝘵 𝘩𝘶𝘳𝘵 𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳.
➡️𝘐 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘢𝘭𝘮 𝘥𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘣𝘢𝘨𝘰 𝘵𝘢𝘺𝘰 𝘮𝘢𝘨-𝘶𝘴𝘢𝘱 𝘬𝘢𝘴𝘪 𝘮𝘢𝘱𝘶𝘱𝘶𝘯𝘰 𝘯𝘢 𝘢𝘬𝘰.

𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗼𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀.*

2. 𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗰𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘆, 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗿.
Ang totoong boundary is decided 𝘢𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨, hindi in the heat of the moment or ng emotion.

If our intentions are fueled by:
⚫frustration
⚫pride
⚫getting even
⚫emotional withdrawal

This is not a boundary. 𝘛𝘩𝘢𝘵'𝘴 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘢𝘪𝘯, 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨.

3. 𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗪𝗛𝗢𝗟𝗘 𝗽𝗶𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲, 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗮 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗶𝘁.
Boundaries are not mode just out of emotion - they consider relationships, the long-term impact and EVERYONE involved.

"𝘕𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘯𝘢 𝘢𝘬𝘰 𝘱𝘶𝘱𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘢 𝘥𝘺𝘢𝘯."
"𝘏𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪 𝘯𝘢 𝘢𝘬𝘰 𝘴𝘢𝘴𝘢𝘮𝘢 𝘴𝘢 𝘬𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘭𝘢."
"𝘈𝘺𝘰𝘬𝘰 𝘯𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘬𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘢𝘱𝘪𝘯 𝘴𝘪𝘭𝘢."
"𝘛𝘢𝘱𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘯 𝘯𝘢 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘢𝘯."

Statements like there often come from 𝗵𝘂𝗿𝘁, 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗱𝗼𝗺.

4. 𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗮 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗵𝘂𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆.
Healthy boundaries acknowledge our own shortcomings, faults, and weaknesses. They don’t assume na tayo agad ang “𝘷𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘮” or the most “𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵” person in the situation.

Boundaries built in humility sound like:
➡️“𝘏𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪 𝘬𝘰 𝘬𝘢𝘺𝘢 𝘬𝘢𝘱𝘢𝘨 𝘨𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘵𝘰 — 𝘴𝘰 𝘐 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘥𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵.”
➡️“𝘔𝘢𝘺 𝘸𝘦𝘢𝘬𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘢𝘬𝘰 𝘥𝘪𝘵𝘰, 𝘴𝘰 𝘐 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘵𝘦𝘤𝘵 𝘮𝘺 𝘱𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘦.”

Humility in boundaries means we’re honest about:
⚫our triggers
⚫our limitations
⚫our blind spots
⚫our weaknesses

It doesn’t blame others for everything.
It doesn’t paint us as the hero or the hurt one all the time.

Instead, humility allows us to strengthen our weak areas with a healthy and realistic mindset.

𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝘁𝗼𝗼𝗹 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄𝘁𝗵— 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙖 𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙚𝙡𝙙 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙥𝙧𝙞𝙙𝙚.

❌𝗪𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗕𝗢𝗨𝗡𝗗𝗔𝗥𝗜𝗘𝗦 𝗔𝗥𝗘 𝗡𝗢𝗧

1. 𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝗽𝘂𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗵𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀.
Kung ang decision is meant to "𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘢 𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘰𝘯" o di kaya to make them feel guilty, or to make people feel what we felt - THAT'S NOT A BOUNDARY.

We call it 𝙚𝙢𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝙧𝙚𝙩𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣. In simple terms, paghihiganti.

2. 𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝗰𝘂𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗼𝗳𝗳 𝘂𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗹𝘆.
Avoiding every family gathering or withdrawing suddenly is not a boundary. 𝙄𝙏'𝙎 𝘼 𝙒𝘼𝙇𝙇.

Boundaries don't close doors. 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘢𝘥𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘰𝘳 𝘪𝘴 𝘶𝘴𝘦𝘥.

3. 𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗹.
A boundary is about what 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 do - kung ano ang gagawin mo given the situation that you have on hand. It's not about changing or forcing others to yield to the ideal situation that you have on your mind.

When we try to control how someone behaves, speaks or feel - that is not a boundary. 𝙏𝙝𝙖𝙩'𝙨 𝙘𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙚𝙙 𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙪𝙧𝙚.

4. 𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝗮𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗱𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲.
"𝘕𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘨𝘢𝘪𝘯" is a script made out of fear or hurt. It's not a boundary. Tawag dyan "𝘦𝘴𝘤𝘢𝘱𝘦" or pagtakas.*

A true boundary says: "𝘚𝘪𝘨𝘦, 𝘐'𝘭𝘭 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘶𝘱 - 𝙟𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙞𝙣 𝙖 𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙚𝙧 𝙬𝙖𝙮."*

5. 𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳𝗶𝘀𝗵.

Minsan, we say: “𝘐𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘢, 𝘥𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘬𝘰 ’𝘵𝘰 — 𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘺 𝘬𝘰 ’𝘵𝘰.” Pero we’re not willing to listen, consider, or hear from the people involved.

When we shut down conversation and refuse to understand perspective, that’s not a boundary —𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩’𝙨 𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙩𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙢𝙞𝙭𝙚𝙙 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙥𝙧𝙞𝙙𝙚.

A true boundary is firm, 𝘺𝘦𝘴 — but it is also 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲, 𝗰𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵𝘆 𝗱𝗶𝗮𝗹𝗼𝗴𝘂𝗲.

Hindi siya: “𝘉𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘢 𝘪𝘵𝘰 𝘯𝘢 ‘𝘺𝘶𝘯.”

A true boundary says:
“𝘐𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘶𝘯𝘨 𝘬𝘢𝘪𝘭𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘢𝘯 𝘬𝘰 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘺 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩𝘺… 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘐’𝘮 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘴𝘰 𝘸𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘰𝘵𝘩 𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳.”

Boundaries are not selfishness disguised as “𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦”
𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗼𝗿 𝗯𝗼𝘁𝗵 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝘀 𝗔𝗡𝗗 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽.

💮𝗛𝗢𝗪 𝗗𝗢𝗘𝗦 𝗔 𝗛𝗘𝗔𝗟𝗧𝗛𝗬 𝗕𝗢𝗨𝗡𝗗𝗔𝗥𝗬 𝗦𝗢𝗨𝗡𝗗 𝗟𝗜𝗞𝗘?
✅Kailangan ko ng space para hindi na mag-escalate yung sitwasyon or mas lalo pang magkagulo.
✅Let's limit the interaction to keep the peace.
✅I'll still show up, pero hanggang dito lang ako.
✅I'm not cutting time - I'm protecting them.

𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗺, 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗿𝗼𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘁𝗵.
𝘐𝘵'𝘴 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘴𝘩𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵.
𝘐𝘵'𝘴 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘭.
𝘐𝘵'𝘴 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘧𝘦𝘢𝘳.

𝙱𝚘𝚞𝚗𝚍𝚊𝚛𝚒𝚎𝚜 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚠𝚊𝚕𝚕𝚜.
𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗱𝗼𝗺 𝗶𝗻 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻,
𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗰𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘆, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗺𝗮𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘆.

At the end of the day, the ultimate deciding factor between a boundary and a wall is 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙩'𝙨 𝙢𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙨.

𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗼𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀 — because it requires facing ourselves and allowing the Lord to examine our hearts and purify our intentions.

We need to invite Jesus into the process so He can help us discern what we’re truly doing.

Remember: 𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭 — 𝘸𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘦. Both have their purpose, and both carry their own consequences.

𝙎𝙤 𝙥𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚, 𝙥𝙧𝙖𝙮, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙡𝙚𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙃𝙤𝙡𝙮 𝙎𝙥𝙞𝙧𝙞𝙩 𝙧𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙖𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙩𝙝 𝙗𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙝 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙙𝙚𝙘𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨.

Choose the response that leads to 𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙚, 𝙜𝙧𝙤𝙬𝙩𝙝, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙤𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 — not 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦, 𝘱𝘳𝘪𝘥𝘦, 𝘰𝘳 𝘧𝘦𝘢𝘳.
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*𝐃𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐢𝐦𝐞𝐫: This is 𝘯𝘰𝘵 to say that we are not allowed to build walls. Sometimes walls are necessary for safety, healing and recovery - especially after deep hurt or repeated disrespect.

𝘽𝙪𝙩 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙘𝙚𝙧𝙣 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙛𝙪𝙡𝙡𝙮.

Are we building a wall to protect ourselves from harm?
Or are we calling a wall a "𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘺" when it's actually coming from fear, anger or pride?

𝗕𝗼𝘁𝗵 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲. We just need to make sure we know which one we're building and why.

12/11/2025

𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗦𝗧𝗥𝗨𝗚𝗚𝗟𝗘 𝗢𝗙 𝗟𝗜𝗩𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗪𝗜𝗦𝗘𝗟𝗬
Proverbs is one of the books in the Bible that has greatly influenced me. It’s practical, grounding, and constantly reminds us to live with wisdom.

As I was reading it again, I realized something:
𝘈 𝘸𝘪𝘴𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦𝘴 𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦𝘴.
They still stumble and fall — but the difference is 𝘩𝘰𝘸 they respond.

“𝗔𝗻𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝗰𝗼𝗿𝗿𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄𝗹𝗲𝗱𝗴𝗲. 𝗔𝗻𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘁𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗿𝗿𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝘁𝘂𝗽𝗶𝗱.” Proverbs 12:1 (NIRV)

A wise person listens, reflects, and learns from their mistakes.
They are 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦, willing to be corrected, even when it’s uncomfortable.

“𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗻𝘀𝗲𝗹 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗿𝗿𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 — 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹.” Proverbs 19:20 (MSG)

A foolish person, on the other hand, 𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘶𝘴𝘦𝘴 correction and 𝘳𝘦𝘫𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘴 the lesson.

“𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝗳𝗼𝗼𝗹𝘀 𝘀𝗲𝗲𝗺𝘀 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝗱𝘃𝗶𝗰𝗲.” Proverbs 12:15 (NIV)

Wisdom isn’t about perfection, it’s about 𝙝𝙪𝙢𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙜𝙧𝙤𝙬𝙩𝙝🌿
And it’s not easy to be humble. It’s easier to let pride and arrogance get in the way. They give us an illusion that everything is alright when it’s not. And to be honest, during the last few days, I was about to fall into that trap.

Today, I was reminded what it means to live wisely. And that it can be a real struggle, especially in a world where hurt is often mistaken for justice.

I made mistakes. My heart still bears its rough edges.
There are moments I react from emotion when old wounds resurface, a reminder that 𝘐’𝘮 𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘩𝘶𝘮𝘢𝘯.

𝙄 𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙣𝙚𝙚𝙙 𝙅𝙚𝙨𝙪𝙨.

It’s easy to believe I’m right and everyone else is wrong.
It’s easier to hide behind the excuse that I was wronged and therefore justified.

But yesterday, today, and maybe even in the coming days,
the Lord has been sending people who ground me in truth
and gently guide me back to wisdom.

I’m thankful for their lives.
These people reflect God’s love for me.
And sometimes, it’s the least expected people who show that they truly care - ones honest enough to tell you where you’ve fallen and how you can get back up.

They’re the ones who remind you to face the consequences of your actions, but also to look for Jesus right in the middle of it all.

If you have people like these around you, be thankful.
They are living reminders of God’s mercy, voices of love that call us back to truth and growth.

“𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲-𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗿𝗲𝗯𝘂𝗸𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗱𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝗮𝗺𝗼𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗲.” Proverbs 15:31 (NASB)

08/11/2025

TRANSITIONS: I read somewhere about a Korean actor who transitioned from being an actor to becoming a professional boxer.

It made me think — in life, there are seasons where you need to transition to finally arrive at the destination you’ve been working toward.

For me, the challenge isn’t so much about how to transition… but where do I go from here?

Over the past few months, my heart has been tugging me back to the creative world. I find myself writing more, watching more, and feeling inspired again. I think of stories I would’ve loved to act in or write. I think of all those years that passed — the time I could’ve spent building my career in that world.

I’m 38, and the echoes of people saying, “Masyado ka nang matanda,” still ring loudly in my ears. I find myself caught between longing and responsibility — between wanting and being an adult. And I keep asking myself, “Can’t I do both?”

There was even a time I thought about going back to medicine and finishing what I started. Ah, my what-could-have-beens.

That’s my dilemma — I’ve always been someone who wanted to do a lot of things in life. I could’ve been a doctor, a lawyer, a cook, an actress, a writer, a business owner, even a pastor. All of them shared a piece of my heart. All of them were part of who I am.

But after a long while, I’ve decided to take a step of faith and do what my heart has been longing to do all along — to go back to writing.

So here I am, standing in the middle of a transition. Yes, I’ll still be the responsible wife and mom that I need to be. But now, I’ll also work — little by little — to let my small voice be heard in the world, to say: “There’s still hope.”

Some doors I’ve been knocking on still haven’t opened. But I’ve decided not to give up. I’ll keep writing those stories — published or not.

And who knows? Maybe I won’t be in front of the camera telling those stories as a character like I once dreamed… but at least, I can still tell them — with words born from the little world inside my head.

08/11/2025

Had my own crack at cooking the Bon Appetit version of pajeon. Kids loved it. So I think that's a win for today. 😉 FUN FACT: My eldest doesn't like onions, but I got her to eat this. Hahahaha. moment.

Have a good breakfast everyone! I'm off with my green tea. 🍵

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29/10/2025

See the pretty set design and the pretty lights? ☺ Hindi ko tuloy napigilang maglaro. Hehe. Hindi lang talagang swak yung outfit pero keber. Haha

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