26/11/2024
"Respect is a Right, Not a Prize to Be Won"
The idea that "respect must be earned" often conflates two distinct forms of respect: inherent respect, which is rooted in human dignity, and earned respect, which is based on actions, achievements, or character. By treating respect as something solely earned, we risk eroding the basic decency that underpins a functional and empathetic society.
Inherent Respect: The Foundation of Humanity
Every individual, regardless of their station in life or their choices, deserves a baseline of respect simply by virtue of being human. As the saying goes, “We do not respect people because they are perfect; we respect them because they are people.” This foundational respect affirms the intrinsic worth of individuals and is crucial for building bridges across differences.
The Flaws in Conditional Respect
The mindset of “respect is to be earned” often becomes a weapon, used to withhold decency until a person meets subjective or arbitrary standards. It creates an environment where disrespect thrives unchecked, justified under the guise of waiting for someone to "prove" themselves. As philosopher Simone Weil observed, “Respect is due to man as man, and not because he deserves it or for any other reason.” Respect is not transactional; it is transformational.
Differentiating Basic and Earned Respect
While admiration or esteem (earned respect) rightly depends on behavior, accomplishments, or virtues, inherent respect—the kind that acknowledges someone's dignity and humanity—must remain unconditional. Failing to differentiate these can lead to societal divisions, as withholding respect diminishes trust and mutual understanding.
The Role of Respect in Society
Civilizations are built not on agreement, but on the recognition of shared humanity. Respect serves as the foundation for dialogue, empathy, and the resolution of conflict. As the Dalai Lama said, “When we show our respect for other living things, they respond with respect for us.” Extending respect universally is not just a moral imperative—it’s a social necessity.
Respect Transcends Agreement
Respect does not require agreement, approval, or alignment. It is possible—and vital—to respect someone with whom we fundamentally disagree. In the words of the ancient philosopher Confucius, “Without feelings of respect, what is there to distinguish men from beasts?”
My opinion:
Respect should not be viewed as a prize to be earned but as a fundamental right owed to every individual. Let us reserve the idea of "earning" for admiration and excellence while treating respect as the baseline that sustains our shared humanity. After all, “Respect for ourselves guides our morals; respect for others guides our manners” (Laurence Sterne).
