06/06/2025
THE REALITY OF LOSING YOUR SPARK AFTER BECOMING A MOM.
Lately, I’ve been seeing a lot of moms talk about losing their spark after giving birth.
Yung feeling na hindi ka na ganon ka “glowing” gaya ng dati.
Yung dati ang ayos mo manamit, ngayon halos wala ka nang time mag-ayos.
Yung dati confident ka sa katawan mo — ngayon, lagi mo na lang tinatago sa mga oversized shirts.
And I get it — kasi I’ve felt it too.
I look at my body now and it’s so different.
And yes, I knew it would change…
Pero ibang usapan pala ‘pag ikaw na mismo ‘yung humaharap sa salamin.
Skin that feels looser.
Weight that’s hard to lose.
Clothes that used to fit — now tucked away.
And no one really prepares you for this part.
Yung tahimik na pagharap mo sa sarili mo,
at sa mga pagbabagong nangyari sa katawan mo.
It’s not about comparing.
It’s not about anyone else.
It’s more of that quiet question inside —
“Where did that version of me go?”
“Kailan ko mararamdaman ulit na ako ‘to?”
Some moms bounce back fast, and that’s great for them.
But for others — like me — it takes time. It takes grace.
It’s a process of accepting this new body,
this new softness,
this new stretch of who I’ve become.
And if you’re like me — still adjusting, still healing — I want to tell you this:
Just because you lost the old version of you,
doesn’t mean you’ve lost YOUR WORTH.
Just because you don’t feel “blooming” now,
doesn’t mean you’re less beautiful.
This body carried life.
It’s still carrying you.
And even if you don’t feel “blooming” right now,
YOU ARE STILL GLOWING IN WAYS THAT MATTER — in the way you love, in the way you show up, in the way you care.
So let’s give ourselves permission to be proud of the skin we’re in. Even if it’s new. Even if it’s unfamiliar.
Even if the spark feels far — it’s not gone..
It’s just quieter. And one day, it will shine again.
But even now… you’re already enough. 💖🌸
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