19/09/2025
๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ก๐ฎ๐ฌ๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ญ๐ญ๐ฅ๐๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎโ๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ง๐๐ฏ๐๐ซ ๐ก๐๐๐ซ ๐๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ. ๐๐ ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐๐๐ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ซ ๐ฐ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐.
He laughs, he provides, he stays strongโฆ yet inside, he may be fighting wars youโll never see.
The truth isโthis world is cruel for all of us. But men experience a different version of that cruelty.
As women, we also have our fair share of struggles, and maybe Iโll share more about that another time here. But one thing we often forget is this: amidst our challenges, we women usually have an outlet. We cry, we vent, we share our emotions openlyโand society accepts it.
We can easily find comfort in a friendโs listening ear or open arms. That in itself brings relief and healing.
But for most men, itโs not the same. Iโm not saying all, because some men have found their tribeโbut many donโt have that outlet.
They carry battles they never talk about. The pressure to provide is just one of the many burdens weighing on their hearts.
And what makes it even harder? This world shames them when they show weakness. ๐๐ก๐๐ฒ ๐๐๐งโ๐ญ ๐๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ ๐ซ๐ข๐๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐๐๐๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐๐๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐๐ ๐๐. Often, they feel alone in their battles.
Thatโs why as wives, we are called to be our husbandโs safe placeโof course second only to God.
Itโs our duty to believe in the vision that God has placed in him, not belittle him.
We canโt carry 100% of his burdens (we are still different people, after all), but we can intentionally give the best support so he becomes the man God has designed him to be.
My husband is a man of few words. He told me they rarely had heart-to-heart talks at home. So I made a conscious effort to ask better questions, Instead of just saying "Kamusta ka?'
These are the questions I ask:
๐ฌ โWhat made you sad/happy/frustrated today?โ
๐ฌ โWhat challenges did you face today?โ
๐ฌ โWhat wins did you achieve today?โ
โฆand more pa (hahaha!).
These questions are intentional. They make him pause and reflect, instead of him just saying โOk lang, ikaw?โ I get more.
Now, when he comes home, he often says, โLove, may sasabihin ako sayo.โ He opens upโsharing stories, reflections, and even little victories from his day.
I want him to know that with me, he can be vulnerable. I know his weaknesses, but Iโll never use them against him nor tell them to anyone. I want to be his safest placeโalways, right next to God. ๐
Let's help each other!
๐ โWhat questions do you usually ask your husband to make him open up?โ
๐ โDo you agree that wives should be their husbandโs safe place?โ
All love,
Nice
