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I've (19F) started college this year, and my family lives in a pretty low income area. I was lucky enough to receive a s...
02/01/2026

I've (19F) started college this year, and my family lives in a pretty low income area. I was lucky enough to receive a scholarship that covers most of the cost for my education I got a job as soon as I could. My sister (12F) and I are extremely close. She's my baby and I love her to pieces. My senior year of high school, I was very academically focused so I could get that scholarship so we didn't get to hang out too often. Along with me moving away for college, we don't get to talk one on one as much anymore. The month before her birthday, I started picking up extra shifts at my workplace so I could spoil her a little. For. her 12th birthday, with my parent's permission, I got her a PINK duffle bag, an iPod Touch and a necklace from Pandora, and took her out bowling and to a semi-expensive restaurant afterwards. I don't mean to say this to flex, I just wanted to get my sister something nice because I wanted to show my appreciation for her patience with me during senior year. We had a great day together, and I headed off to college again with a good conscience. However, with a recent chat with my parents over the phone, apparently a lady in the neighbourhood (always gossiping about everybody and their mother LMAO) have had words to say about how what I did was inappropriate, and had some choice words about how I was a spoilt b__ch who forgot where I came from, and was trying to act like I was some high-class w***e. She had been telling a bunch of people this in public places, and as a small community, word travels fast. I felt embarrassed. The next time I came back home, there was a neighbourhood gathering or party. Some of my friends from high school were attending so I went too. The lady who had things to say about me, who I have seen sitting on her porch smoking every day I HAVE LIVED HERE, was whispering as soon as I walked in. I tried to ignore her, but she came up to me by the food and started asking questions about what college was like, what job I had, and eventually started prying about the gift I got my sister WEEKS ago, and began to imply I had stolen the money. A few people were also involved in this conversation and they were trying to calm her down but this b__ch would not back down. I told her that I worked hard to afford nice things for people I loved, and if she could get off her ass, stop smoking two packs a day and getting a job instead relying on welfare, she could do the same. I worked hard to get to where I was and I get to spend my money how I want, and how it isn't any of her business what I choose to spend money on. She left me alone after that, shooting me death glares throughout the evening. Was I the a__hole for this? My friends said it was nice to see her finally told off, but my grammy says I could've been nicer. I get that I was harsh, but don't dish it if you can't take it imo Edit: Hey everyone - thank you so much for your nice comments! I feel a bit more certain about what I did but I'll just try to avoid seeing her in the future - I tend to overthink things like this hahah Hope you all have a lovely day!

02/01/2026

Me (32 M) and my wife (32 F) have been trying to have a baby for several years now. Unfortunately, she is probably unable to get pregnant. We’ve run several tests, and it’s only her’s that come back with bad news. Additionally, I accidentally got a girl pregnant a few years before I met my wife (the girl had an a__rtion). Point is: I can produce kids, but my wife probably can’t. I don’t blame this on my wife at all. In fact, I’m excited to talk about our other options (adoption, surrogates, etc.). I love my wife so much and I want to raise kids together, even if it’s not biological. I was on the phone with my wife’s mom the other day, and she started saying some weird stuff. She said it was okay that I couldn’t have kids, but maybe we could find a s***m donor for my wife, and that she knew I’d be a good dad even if the kid wasn’t related to me, etc. I was confused, so I told my MIL that my wife was the one who was having fertility issues. My MIL told me that my wife told her I was the one with fertility issues. I was sure it was a harmless misunderstanding, so I talked about it with my wife, and she got really mad at me. She said I had no right to tell her mom that she was having issues getting pregnant. She said it was something very personal to her and she felt awful just thinking about how her mom now knew it was her “fault” we can’t have kids easily (it’s not her fault. She didn’t choose to have these issues). She said that it was her mom and I should have just gone along with it because she always wants to be seen as good and capable in her mom’s eyes. I feel bad, but I had no idea she had told her mom it was me. Also, I don’t know why she had to say who had issues with fertility when she could just say that we are having issues. My wife said i was an AH for telling her mom. Am I?

Me (31M) and my wife (27F) are going to have our first kid, a baby girl, together in early June. We are both very excite...
02/01/2026

Me (31M) and my wife (27F) are going to have our first kid, a baby girl, together in early June. We are both very excited about it. She doesn't have any other kids, but I do. I have an 8yro and a 6yro from my first marriage, my ex and I share custody and coparent together really well. My ex and my wife get along well, which I thank my lucky stars for. My wife and I were talking about only having the boys here for the weekends in June, unritil the baby is settled in (my wife wanted this). My ex has cancer, and has just started chemo. The issue now occured when my ex came to pick up the boys on Thursday and asked if the boys can stay with me over the summer during the week and she can take weekends (currently we alternate weeks), because she will have to start a more aggressive course of chemo and 1) doesn't want the kids to have to see her like that and 2) isn't sure how much she'll even be capable of taking care of them. I told her I want to help her, and taking the boys is the least we can do. My wife was there and said she doesn't love the idea, but my ex literally begged and my wife rolled her eyes and said "fine, but if they don't behave, we'll give them back". I told my ex not to worry and that I'll (we'll) take great care of the boys. After they left, my wife called me an AH, saying that my ex and I cornered her, that I am making her so very stressed, and she doesn't need two savages in her home right before she gives birth and right after, and how I know she wants a home birth (which can still happen, because they boys can go to either their mom or either of their grandparents). Aita?

02/01/2026

About 3 months ago I gave my wife an ultimatum about our s__ life. Either she starts putting effort in it and start initiating s__ more often or I will reconsider marriage. I gave her till the end of the year. For three months I waited, nothing changed. So yesterday I told her that I talked to a lawyer and she should do the same. She freaked out and will not let me give her general outline of the divorce process. She started making promises about doing better and will not listen to me. I gave up after a while. Yesterday she initiated s__ and I told her it will not change anything. She got mad and tried to pull my shorts off forcibly. I kicked her out of the bedroom and told her we will talk in the morning. I said to her that I love her but I have made my decision to divorce. If she wants to try we can try after divorce and I will marry her again after two-three years if I am convinced that she is capable of giving me the s__ life I need from her. But I do not say the word divorce lightly and unfortunately deadline is over for her. I am willing to work on our relationship and marry her again. But I feel I need divorce not for her, but for myself. AITAH?

I (25M) and my girlfriend (22F) have been dating for about 1.5 years. Since we were 24 and 20, so we grew a decent amoun...
02/01/2026

I (25M) and my girlfriend (22F) have been dating for about 1.5 years. Since we were 24 and 20, so we grew a decent amount together. I love her, I can see her being my wife. So it pains me to have to get to this When we were first getting into the serious phase of our relationship we agreed we don't want kids before our late 20s/early 30s. Furthermore, she's going to med school this fall so she wants to complete that before any consideration. I am completely ok with that. I do want to be a father, just not in my 20s. I don't have anything agains young parents. Whether that's married or single. Good for you. I hope you're happy. I hope you and your kid have a fantastic life. I could not be. I can barely take care of myself sometimes and already know how much life changes when you have kids so the idea of doing that in my MID 20s. I have so many things I want to do as a young person. I cannot do those things with kids So imagine my shock when my girl, who's still in undergrad, comes up to me and tells me she wants a baby. Like, ASAP. I was floored and the reason is her 30 y/o sister welcomed twins and my girl has been really taking a liking to them. Now she wants kids of her own, like now. When I asked about our previous agreement she told me 'I don't want teenagers running around the house when I'm in my 40s' I even asked about med school and she said she'd go back in her 30s when the 'kids are a little older'. I just don't know what the f__k to say. I've expressed my disagreement to this idea so much already. I don't want to be a father before I'm 30. She keeps telling me that it'll be better to raise them now since I'm young and energetic as opposed to my mid 30s which I don't agree with. I'll still be active. She keeps trying to convince me, giving scenarios of me playing catch or tea party makeup with my hypothetical son or daughter. Like again, that sounds like something I'd want to I'm 35. Not now. Bro I was born in 1999. She was born in 2002. That's both practically yesterday. Her friends are also trying to convince her that she's just in a phase right now and will regret going through with it in the next couple of years. After about weeks of this, I basically gave her an ultimatum last night. Either she waits a few more years or we're done. And that pains me because I really love her and don't want to lose her. But we're not on the same page right now. She got really upset at the proposal of an ultimatum and has been a friend's house since. I'm really hoping it's short term baby fever

When I (22f) was 14 I started dating Jace who was 15 at the time. We were together for 3 years. We'd known each other fo...
02/01/2026

When I (22f) was 14 I started dating Jace who was 15 at the time. We were together for 3 years. We'd known each other for years and I always had the biggest crush on him. My sister Lauren (23f now) knew. She was one of my best friends and I thought we'd told each other everything. But Lauren and Jace were cheating behind my back and Lauren got pregnant. I didn't know at first and was the first person she told and I supported her. It was only after she told our parents and they pushed her to say who the father was that she confessed. I broke up with Jace who didn't care. He was done with me and wanted Lauren anyway. While Lauren kept begging me to forgive her for hurting me and begging me to still be close to her. I refused and when Lauren moved in with Jace and his family it was a relief. My parents attempted to force forgiveness on me. They took me to a church therapist and they had a number of talks with me about Lauren being my sister for life and Jace being just a high school boyfriend. All it did was push me away from my parents and when I turned 18 I moved in with my grandma. I had very low contact with my parents and no contact with Lauren and Jace. They got married just before the baby was born and I ignored the invite. I ignored when they had their first and then second kid. Lauren made several attempts to speak to me and apologize more but I ignored them and I told extended family that I wasn't going to change my mind. Some were quick to say I was a silly child and I'd regret throwing my sister away. Others said I was so young and we both were and hurting people's feelings when you're young happens and why couldn't I hate Jace and forgive Lauren. My grandma always said nobody was making it better by pushing. Grandma stood by me through all of this. When Lauren asked her to help pull off a surprise reunion so she could speak to me grandma turned her down. She told Lauren she wasn't coming to the house as long as I lived here. And she told her she would not help her trick me or anything crazy like that. Some of the wider family (my parents included) are mad at grandma but she said if Lauren can have her 'mistakes' forgiven by everyone else and be allowed to feel and do what she wants then I should be given the same grace. But it was argued always that the difference was I was ending a relationship for good while Lauren made 'a single mistake'. Last month Jace died suddenly. I don't know what happened exactly but grandma got the call about it. Then more calls came and asked me to finally move on and speak to Lauren and support her as a sister should. I didn't. I didn't go to the funeral and neither did grandma actually. She said even if she had wanted to she knew the time would be spent trying to browbeat her into forcing me to reconcile with Lauren and a funeral is not the place for that so she was removing herself from that. Grandma has been getting s__t from so many people in the family who think I should have let go of the no contact now that Jace is dead. Since I never answer to any family members who think I need to forgive Lauren, they go through her. I hate that she deals with it. But she doesn't block them because she wants to see just how far they'll go with her. She said they're helping her trim her will. Which I find funny and I love grandma's...

02/01/2026

I (16f) don't usually babysit, I told my neighbours that when they asked. I have zero experience. However, they really wanted to visit family that was sick and didn't have anyone else to ask, so I agreed. So I watched their kids, 4 and 7 (as well as their dog) from 12 pm to about 8ish. I made them lunch, helped with their homework, cooked them dinner, cleaned up, played, helped them get ready for bed, etc. However, when I was helping the 4 y.o. get ready for bed, the 7 y.o. broke a vase in the parents' bedroom (I had asked him to play upstairs so I could keep an eye on him). I cleaned it up, kept the shards (I think it could be glued) and after a few stories I put the older one to bed as well. The neighbours came home and I told them about the vase. The wife didn't mind at all, but the husband told me I was responsible and needed to pay them for it, and that we'd discuss it later. He paid me 25 bucks (Am I spoiled for being disappointed with that? It was a ton of work, so 3 dollars an hour doesn't seem worth it) and send me home. The husband came by the next day and told me he expected me to pay for the vase, and told me it's 90 dollars. I (politely) told him I don't think I should pay, but that he could take it up with my parents. Now, I don't think I should be held responsible. They pushed a teenager with no experience to watch two small kids and a dog, for 8+ hours. They could have gotten a professional, or visited their another day when one of my parents could have watched the kids, but they didn't. But maybe I'm just not seeing the big picture. AITA?

My brother may be one of the dumbest people alive. I watch a lot of reality TV shows and last month I was watching episo...
02/01/2026

My brother may be one of the dumbest people alive. I watch a lot of reality TV shows and last month I was watching episodes on YouTube of a show called Divorce Court and Paternity Court. My brother came into the living room while I was watching the latter and we started watching together. We had a mini competition to see if we could guess if the guy in question is or isn’t the father. He kept saying things like “The baby looks just like him! Look at the ears, nose, that’s his kid” and other things like that and when the results would come back that the guy isn’t the father he would be so shocked. Or if it was between two different men, he would choose the guy that he thought resembled the baby more and when it would be the other guys kid, he was awestruck. I explained to him that you can’t just go off facial features to determine paternity but it is a good indicator. That was like a month ago. My brothers girlfriend called my mom recently crying saying that my brother was having doubts that their five year old daughter is his and that for the past few weeks he’s been distant with the both of them. This was news to all of us. I called my brother and asked him what was up. He said that he just wants 100% proof his daughter is his. I asked him where this was coming from and he said no where. I said that my niece looks just like him and our family and then he said that I’m a h__ocrite because I had told him you can’t go off looks to determine DNA. Then I put two and two together and realized this was stemming from us watching that paternity show! So because he kept guessing wrong, he thinks he was wrong in his daughter being his. I told him did his dumb ass tell that to his girlfriend and he admitted he told her that her ex called and said that he was sleeping with her right before she was meant to conceive so she gives into the test because he knows his reasoning is dumb. I hung up and called my sister in law to tell her to the real reason and my brother called me cussing me out because she refuses to take the test he ordered online and now is taking him to court for a court ordered test along with child support because she’s breaking up with him. He told me I ruined his life because now this DNA test comes with a cost of monthly child support when before she was willing to take the test to prove to him she wasn’t cheating.

I (25F) have been close friends with Jane (25F) since elementary school, and our bond is like that of sisters. Jane is g...
02/01/2026

I (25F) have been close friends with Jane (25F) since elementary school, and our bond is like that of sisters. Jane is getting married in 2024. Myself and another friend, Emily, were both given the honor of being Jane’s Co-Maids of Honor. We all hail from the south, where wedding culture is a BIG deal. I’ve never subscribed to the larger-than-life southern wedding culture, but I eagerly embraced the role of co-MOA for Jane. I was thrilled to support her and do whatever was necessary to make her dream come to life! Jane and Emily’s friendship has had its ups and downs. Jane would say that if she met Emily today they probably would not be close friends. Emily and myself were asked to be Jane’s co-MOAs 2 years ago (Jane wanted a long engagement to wedding plan) and friendship dynamics have changed since then. Anyways, Emily recently got engaged and it has brought Emily and Jane closer with wedding-talk. This made me happy as it felt like finally not all of Jane and my conversations had to revolve around wedding-j__ber. I was wrong. Emily’s engagement has magically made all of the co-MOA duties fall to me since she is so busy planning her wedding too apparently. Earlier this week Jane said she had to cut down her guest list because of venue restrictions. She was actually happy to cut out all of those great aunts, cousins of cousins, and other family members that grandma insisted on being there IYKYK. I told Jane I would help with cutting down her guest list, and would help with any seating arrangements. However, when I saw the list of potential guest to cut I saw my partners name. I didn’t think much of it, of course my bf of 5 years would be attending with me, right? I have been Jane’s go-to with all things wedding planning. I’ve planned all her engagement parties, wedding showers, and her bachelorette weekend. I’ve exhausted hours over the last 2 years to commit to helping her plan her perfect day. I have taken days off work, and spent thousands of dollars on wedding festivities for her. Nonetheless, it was true. Jane told me that she was not allowing anyone in her wedding party to have a plus-one except those who are in “serious committed relationships.” When asked for further clarification on this, Jane stated that it was for “engaged couples only.” Now, this made me upset. I have been with my partner for 5 years, we live together, and Jane has known him since we were kids. Emily is recently engaged (less than a year of dating), and was told it was okay for her to bring her fiancé because it met Jane’s criteria. Emily’s fiancé is a real a-hole. He’s an a-hole who always ruins whatever he attends by getting obnoxiously drunk. I told Jane that this decision upset me and it didn’t seem fair. We had a fight over all this nonsense and now we are not speaking. I’ve felt awful about it all, of course I want to be there for her on her special day, but it does not seem fair to me to get to watch everyone else enjoying their evening together and me there all alone. I also must note that other bridesmaids were shocked with this, and no one in the wedding party was effected but me (most bridesmaids date groomsmen, so they are already going to have their partner there, or they were engaged and labeled “serious enough to be in attendance”). Emily has put zero effort into being her co-MOA, and it feels like I’m being singled out for some reason. Jane’s family is like my family, and will ask why my partner is not with me. I guess I’ll have to respond that it’s because “we aren’t serious enough.” I informed Jane that I didn’t feel comfortable...

I (F28) am a wildlife biologist. I have a master’s degree in Wildlife Conservation and am hoping to go for my doctorate ...
02/01/2026

I (F28) am a wildlife biologist. I have a master’s degree in Wildlife Conservation and am hoping to go for my doctorate soon. I have worked in this field since I was 16, and am very passionate about it. When visiting my family recently for Easter, my mom asked me to tell the family a little bit about work. I was very excited to talk about my current research! Here’s where the issue comes in, though. My father (M60) would respond to almost everything I said with “hmm, I don’t know about that…” At first, I tried to ignore it, but it just. Didn’t. Stop. Eventually, I responded “Well, I do, given the two degrees and all!” I responded in a light, playful tone, but he did not take it well at all. He immediately accused me of being disrespectful. I responded “I’m sorry, but it’s disrespectful of you to insinuate that you know more than I do about my field.” Dinner got pretty quiet after that. I finished the meal, helped with the dishes, and said goodbye before leaving, but on the ride home I got a phone call from my mother asking me why I felt the need to aggravate my father and why I had to “talk back.” I am a 28 year old professional, this feels insane to me. AITA? EDIT: My goodness, wow, that’s a lot of comments. I don’t have it in me to respond to all of them with life being so busy right now, but thank you!

02/01/2026

One of my friends has been on a dry spell recently, let’s call him Mick. Mick has contracted both ge***al and oral herpes from an unfortunate drunk hook up years ago. He was upset afterwards that the girl didn’t warn him beforehand - which I believe is relevant for the story. He’s been wanting to get back into dating and told me that women tend to unmatch him immediately when he mentions his STDs. It’s understandably frustrating, but I felt it’s good on him for being upfront about it. That changed with his last tinder encounter. Mick told me she’s a great girl - pretty, funny, witty. He was really excited about going on a date with her and I assumed he had told her about his herpes situation (as he with other girls before). We arranged a double date, Mick and Tinder Girl, as well as my partner and I. Things went well in the beginning, we were having a great time and I could definitely feel the chemistry between the two. However, here’s where I might have been an a__hole: Mick and my partner went outside for a cigarette, so Tinder Girl and I were the only ones at our table. We ended up talking about Mick, and I mentioned how excited he had been about the date, especially since he hadn’t exactly been lucky on tinder so far. She couldn’t see why, since he was great guy and she enjoyed the date so far. Mind you, we’ve had a few drinks at this point and I told her that he’s had a lot of girls unmatch him due to his ‘situation’. She was confused and asked me what I meant, so I told her that I meant his herpes. She got upset and told me that he hadn’t told her, despite her specifically asking about STDs. Apparently, Mick claimed to be entirely clean. She thanked me and stormed out, sending Mick an angry message and later blocking him. Mick said I ruined his chances of scoring that night and is really upset with me. He said it was not my place to say anything and I should’ve given him the chance to tell her - but honestly I don’t think he would’ve (given that he specifically lied about it on tinder when she asked). I feel bad, at the same time I think she deserved to know beforehand. I genuinely wish for Mick to have successful dates, but not through being deceitful. It wasn’t on purpose, I assumed he had told her prior to this - but maybe I do suck for even bringing it up? So, reddit: AITA?

01/01/2026

Sorry if the title makes no sense, let me explain: My birthday is close and just like last year, my sister asked what I want for dinner, I have avoided answering so far but the date is too close now so she's pressing even more lately and I'm running out of excuses. (telling them that ordering some take out is fine won't work cuz of the covid and also, again, she's super picky) The reason I don't want anything is because I'm still kinda hurt by what happened last year: I told her it would be nice to have lasagne for my birthday, she mockingly said that was too expensive to make and then when I was about to tell her it was fine I can think of something else, she just said "Just kidding, I'll do it is your birthday after all", my birthday came and my sister is in the kitchen and as I look at the ingredients I notice that with exception of cheese and pasta sheets, none of the ingredients matched any lasagne recipe I knew, I asked her if she decided to do something else, and I was left speechless by what she said: "Oh, I found a alternate recipe online for a ham and potato lasagne it's cheaper and you know I hate minced beef" Now, maybe you think I'm overreacting with the speechless part, but here's the thing: I HATE ham, don't ask me why, I don't have a good reason, I just don't like it. The fact that my sister had been the one who approached me about a birthday dinner, that she assured me that she would do it as a "gift" of sorts, went and made a version of the dish that had one of my most hated foods as the primary ingredient without telling me anything until the last moment made me feel like s__t. I ate the lasgane anyway while my sister LOUDLY complained how I was putting aside all the ham pieces and I thought that was it, I was honestly thinking of just letting it slide, it was just a dinner after all, but the next day there was apparently more salt to the injury: she told that she still had not received my part of the money that went into making the lasagne, at that point I swear I felt a h__low in my belly, not even anger, just h__low, I don't think I even complained or made comments I just pulled my wallet and gave her what she was asking. This year, when she asked me, it brought back that h__low feeling and I don't want anything to do with more of her "birthday dinners", but I'm wondering if I should tell her why, or maybe I'm just making a big deal out of a small thing. Why I think I could be an AH if I reveal this? Beside the whole "Don't look at the gift horse in the mouth" stuff, back then we were short on money: the pandemic had just started and because my mom had to close her business for months both me and my sister had been taking care of all the expenses and it could be very insensitive to brought up that she was also short on money back then. So WIBTA? EDIT: This post blew overnight, I really wanted to reply to everyone, but that's kinda impossible right now , but thank you all for your replies and your advice (both the food and the situation) thank you for your kind words too. Also for all the people who asked, yes my sister knows I don't like ham, but on the other side she loves ham, so yeah... EDIT 2: She has not done this before that time... in my birthday, but she has a tendency to cook specifically things she likes without consulting others if they...

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