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Lopably is a content and community platform that offers research-based content, real-life video testimonies, and relationship-focused workshops and retreats.

Wedding Rwanda Ibagezaho Ubuhamya bw'abantu bakoreye ubukwe mu Rwanda, ibarangira aho mwabona ababafasha mubukwe mu Rwanda bakora Photography, Videography, MCing, Amazina Y'inka, Decoration, Protocol n'ibindi bikenerwa mu bukwe bwo mu Rwanda. It is designed for mature singles (ideally ages 30–40) and newly married couples who believe in God, feel a sense of accountability for the life they've been given, and are brave enough to be the partners they wish to find.

03/08/2025

🤔 Should you move in together before marriage?

It's a big question with a lot to consider! 🤔

Living together can feel like the smart move : splitting bills, sharing chores, and getting a "test run" of married life. But is the water as calm as it seems on the surface? 🌊

This article dives into the real differences between cohabitation and marriage, looking at everything from feelings of security to the legal and financial realities. Did you know that married individuals report significantly higher levels of trust and honesty in their relationships? 🤔

Relationship expert Dr. Galena Rhoades highlights how couples can "slide" into cohabitation out of convenience, potentially postponing crucial conversations about the future. And legally? Without the framework of marriage, things can get complicated when it comes to healthcare decisions, finances, and shared assets. 😬

This isn't about judgment, t's about understanding the full picture of the choices we make in our relationships. ❤️

Let's talk about it in the comments! 👇

Are you (cohabitation first) or (marriage first)? What shaped your view? Share your stories and insights – your experience could really help someone else! Let's keep the conversation open and supportive. 😊

31/07/2025

💍 Before You Say “Yes”… Ask These 6 Questions

That moment you realize you’ve found a true partner, it’s magic.
You start dreaming about the future.
The thought of saying “yes” to forever feels exciting, even sacred.

But here’s where things get tricky…

We plan the one-day wedding to perfection.
But many of us forget to prepare for a lifetime of marriage.
We post the highlights but avoid the real conversations.
Why?
Because we’re afraid the answers might ruin the dream.

But silence doesn’t protect love.
It weakens it.

🛑 A strong relationship isn’t problem-free.
It’s honest. Resilient. Rooted in clarity.

💬 As Gary Thomas wisely put it:
“Asking and settling the ‘why’ question first will set you up to make a wise choice about the ‘who.’”

If you want to build a relationship that lasts past the honeymoon,
Ask the real questions now.

📌 That’s why I created 6 key questions to ask before you say “yes.”
These are heart-level questions that strengthen trust before you build a future.

👉 Swipe through the images to start the conversation.

And let me know in the comments:
Which question hit you hardest?
Or what question would you add?

28/07/2025

This isn’t about why you’re still single. ❤️

And this definitely isn't one of those posts that tells you to “just love yourself first” or that “it’ll happen when you stop looking.”

I just wanted to share a thought about the whole idea of "waiting" and why it might be one of the most powerful and active things you can do.

The truth is, you’re not the only one in this season. Somewhere out there, someone is growing into the person you’ll one day love, just as you’re growing into the person they’ll instantly recognize. ✨

I know that can feel distant sometimes. The word ‘wait’ can sound so passive, right? Especially when it feels like everyone around you is in a relationship. If you’ve ever felt that little pang of impatience or that ache of longing for a connection… you’re not alone. That feeling is 100% human.

And modern dating doesn't always help! Have you ever tried to force a connection, only to feel like your energy wasn't being matched? It can feel like you're navigating a field of people who just see it as a game, leaving you wondering why it's not working out.

In those moments of frustration, we have to remember this: The number of dates you go on will NEVER be an indicator of your worth.

Here’s what I truly believe: Growth isn’t always visible, but it's mutual.

This time isn't a punishment for something you did wrong. Think of it as sacred preparation. As the old saying goes, “What is meant for you will not pass you by.”

This season isn't empty. It’s for learning, for healing, for building a life filled with purpose. And the best part? They’re doing it too.

So when you feel that impatience creep in, let it be a reminder to pour that energy back into yourself. Enjoy the quiet moments. Be ridiculously kind to yourself. Please, don’t ever shrink yourself just for the sake of not being alone.

Stay rooted in the incredible person you are becoming, not in the relationship you haven’t found yet. The right kind of love is being prepared for you, too. Trust the process. 🙏

Now, I'd love to hear from you! 👇
What’s one way you’re growing or enjoying this season of your life?

Let's celebrate the amazing people we are right now, in the comments!

25/07/2025

Team Marriage 💍 or Team Partnership 🤝? It's a huge debate right now!

Love and relationships look so different today, and we're all finding what works for us. It's amazing! 🙌

BUT... what happens when life gets really, really hard? 😥

Imagine your partner is in the hospital, and you're not allowed in to see them. You have no legal rights, no say in their care. It's a terrifying thought, but it's a reality for many unmarried partners. Without that piece of paper, things like health insurance, inheritance, and being recognized as next-of-kin can become a nightmare.

The numbers show a difference in security, too. A Pew study found 84% of married people trust their partner won't cheat, compared to only 71% of live-in partners.

Marriage isn't perfect, but that legal safety net can be priceless when everything feels like it's falling apart.

So, we have to ask: What do you think is best for long-term security? Are you Team Marriage or Team Partnership?

Tell us your thoughts and experiences in the comments below! 👇

24/07/2025

🧠💞 Would you rather just “stay calm”… or actually learn how to fix your relationship?

Truth is, strong couples don’t avoid conflict. They navigate it.

Every relationship faces challenges. But the couples who thrive?
They share one quiet superpower: Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

Think of EQ as your relationship’s operating system
It helps you manage your emotions while tuning into your partner’s experience.

When you can name what you’re feeling: frustration, insecurity, disappointment, Etc
You can respond with care instead of reacting in chaos
This kind of self-awareness is how trust is built and how drama is defused.

💡 Here’s a powerful truth from The Gottman Institute:
69% of relationship problems are perpetual
They don’t have a “fix” but with high EQ, you can manage them gracefully

Ready to grow together?
👇 Swipe through these 6 actionable tips to start building Emotional Intelligence in your relationship

21/07/2025

If you think love is a finish line, you’re running the wrong race. 🏁

Mahatma Gandhi’s words, "Where there is love, there is life," remind us that love is the bedrock of our well-being. It fuels our purpose and whispers hope for a brighter tomorrow. ❤️

Choosing yourself and refusing to settle isn't defeat. It's a quiet celebration of self-respect. It's understanding that your timeline is unique.

But then... there's the scroll. The swipe. The endless highlight reels of "perfect" couples. 📱 Suddenly, your own journey feels judged by expectations that aren't even yours.

Even well-meaning friends can add to the pressure, right? That little voice asking, "What are you waiting for?" gets louder, turning the joy of connection into a race against a clock that isn't real.

But that ache? It’s an invitation to learn, not a life sentence. And here’s some hope for you: a recent survey showed that a whopping 72% of singles still believe in finding a soulmate. We're not alone in wanting something real. ✨

So what if that fear of being "the last one" is actually your secret strength? 💪

By holding to your values, you declare a belief in a love that's truly worth waiting for. That hope isn't naive; it's powerful.

If you’ve ever felt pressured by someone else’s timeline, you are not alone. Share your story in one sentence below. Let’s normalize going at our own speed. 👇

19/07/2025

Let's get real for a second... a question I've been thinking about.

Is a wedding a trophy you win 🏆, or is it the starting line of a marathon 🏃‍♀️?

We grow up with fairy tales where the wedding is the big "happily ever after" finale. It's so easy to see that day as the ultimate finish line.

But what happens on Monday, after the party is over?

That's when the real journey, the marriage, truly begins. It's less like a victory lap and more like a marathon, one that needs training, patience, and endurance. It’s about communication on tough days, teamwork with chores, and a commitment to keep running together.

There's a great quote that says a wedding isn't the finish line; it's the starting block. I love that!

A beautiful wedding is a gift, something to cherish deeply. But the strength and partnership you build over the years? That’s the real prize.

So I'm curious to hear from you all! 👇

Do you see the wedding day as the trophy or the starting line? What's one piece of "marathon training" advice you'd give a couple starting their journey?

Tell me your thoughts in the comments!

16/07/2025

If You Think “There Are No Good Partners Left,” You’re Not Alone 💔

At first, dating feels like a treasure hunt.
But if every map leads to heartbreak,
you have to ask:
is it the treasure that’s flawed,
or the one holding the map?

Maybe you’re choosing wrong.
Or maybe… you’re not yet who you think you are.

Here’s the shift:
💡 Become the partner you’re looking for.

Start with these 5 steps and watch everything change. 👇

14/07/2025

🧠 Would you let a robot write your love story… or flirt for you? 🤖💬

We’re living in a time where AI can help you do anything, even charm someone on a dating app.

Imagine this:
An AI crafts your perfect opener.
It edits your awkwardness.
It makes you sound smooth, confident, desirable.
It’s like having a wingman in your pocket.
But is it really you they’re falling for?

Nearly 1 in 4 daters now use AI tools to help them connect, with Gen Z leading the trend.
For many, it feels like a confidence boost. A way to break the ice when life is overwhelming.

But here’s the deeper question:
If a chatbot crafts your desires… who’s actually connecting?
You?
Or your digital double?

⚠️ Over 70% of young people say they don’t trust it.
Why? Because the spark doesn’t feel real. It’s borrowed magic.
And that borrowed charm?
It fades fast on real dates.
Suddenly the chemistry disappears, and all that’s left is awkward silence where authenticity should’ve been.

Look, AI isn’t the villain here.
When used with intention, it can guide. Polish. Coach.
But it should never replace your voice.
Think of it like training wheels for vulnerability, not your permanent substitute.

As connection expert Kasley Killam says:

“The real danger isn’t the tech itself... it’s losing ourselves to it.”

Because intimacy isn’t clean or calculated.
It’s messy. It stumbles. It surprises.
It’s the unplanned laugh. The vulnerable pause.
It’s showing up fully, not outsourcing your emotions.

So here’s the big question:
👉 Are we building real relationships… or just trading performances?

Let’s talk about it 👇
What's the impact of AI iin dating experience?

12/07/2025

Chemistry is common. A shared calling is rare.
How do you learn to discern the difference? 🤔

For a person of faith, dating isn't just a game.
It's SACRED ground. 🙏

Every conversation, every choice, every shared prayer is like laying a precious stone in a cathedral you are building together. When God is the architect, your love story becomes an act of worship.

But there’s a storm that shipwrecks so many hopeful hearts. ⛈️

The world tells us to chase the fleeting winds of chemistry, to prioritize what feels good right now. A relationship built on that shifting sand might feel thrilling for a season... but it's a ship with no anchor.

It inevitably leaves you feeling empty, confused, and broken. 💔

This is where accountability to God becomes your True North. 🧭⭐

It’s the moment you stop navigating by the unpredictable weather of feelings and start steering by the fixed star of divine purpose.

It changes the very question you ask.
It’s no longer, "Do they make me happy?"
It's, "Does this partnership help me honor God?"

Suddenly, you’re not just looking for a romance; you’re searching for a co-pilot in your divine calling. A teammate who challenges you to pray deeper and serve wider.

And this choice has eternal weight. I have seen the quiet devastation when a believer settles for a spark that fizzles, only to find themselves spiritually yoked to a person who drains their faith. Once you say "I do," that covenant stands. You cannot afford to get this wrong.

This is why dating God’s way is a beautiful, countercultural act of rebellion. It’s choosing "Let’s pray about this" over "Let’s ignore that."

So before your next date, ask the question that echoes into eternity:
"Is this person my teammate in God’s mission… or just a placeholder for my loneliness?"

Let's talk in the comments. What's the biggest challenge in dating as a person of faith today? 👇

09/07/2025

One moment you’re holding hands on a beach 🏖️ The next, you’re arguing about rent and baby timelines.

Early marriage is a blend of excitement and overwhelm.

One day, you’re imagining Sunday mornings in your future kitchen. 🏠
The next, you’re staring at mortgage rates wondering, “Can we even afford this dream?” 🤯

Or maybe it’s the career shifts: her promotion means relocation for him. Family planning hopes colliding with financial realities.

Sound familiar? Yes, it’s both thrilling and terrifying.

You’re building a life together, yet sometimes it feels like you’re reading from different blueprints.

According to Dr. John Gottman, arguments about budgets or timelines are rarely about the numbers. They’re about the FUTURES those numbers represent.

Your silent question isn’t “Can we buy this house?”
It’s “Are we even building toward the same vision?” 🤔

What if you could transform that tension into trust?

Imagine replacing those reactive fights with intentional connection. A space where fears about job changes aren’t landmines, but launchpads for a better conversation.

That’s where the Vision Check comes in. And yes, it’s a skill you can learn together.

Think of it like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger your shared clarity becomes. It’s not therapy; it’s a practical habit of asking better questions:

✅ Ask discovery questions: “What does ‘home’ truly mean to you?”
✅ Map overlapping dreams: “Where do our 5-year visions collide?”
✅ Spot hidden values: “When you say ‘security,’ what do you really mean?”

This skill changes everything.

When the next big decision hits, you won’t just see a disagreement. You’ll see two hearts navigating toward the same horizon. 🧭

Early marriage isn’t about avoiding storms.
It’s about learning to sail together.

Which moment are you in right now? The holding hands moment or the arguing moment? (No judgment here!)

07/07/2025

Why is it so hard for SMART people to find LOVE? 🧠

It feels like a paradox, right? The clearer your vision for life and the higher your standards, the more challenging the search for a partner becomes.

You’re not imagining it. There's a real psychological reason for this struggle.

It’s called decision fatigue. 😩

Think about it: we make about 35,000 decisions a day. Dating apps add hundreds more (swipe left? swipe right? like?). The result? Nearly 80% of millennials feel completely burnt out by it all.

For intelligent people with a clear vision, it's even tougher, because your high standards automatically disqualify connections that lack true potential.

While this makes the search more challenging, remember: this clarity isn't a flaw; it's a powerful sign of self-awareness.

Then you have well-meaning friends telling you to "just give them a chance!"

The problem is, they aren't living your life. They don't share your vision.

The noise of endless apps, dating coaches, and influencer opinions makes trusting your own compass feel like climbing Everest... in flip-flops. 🧭

Having non-negotiables and a clear vision for your partnership isn't being "picky", it's being intentional. It's about having Conviction.

Our founder's wife faced this directly. Early on, over half of her friends urged her to walk away. But she ignored the consensus. She took the time to see his core vision and values. She trusted her conviction, and they built a life together aligned on what mattered most.

If you want to make a smart choice, the path forward is about focused action:

✨ Silence the Noise: Stop chasing external approval or lowering your standards to fit what others want.

✨ Sharpen Your Compass: Get crystal clear on YOUR non-negotiable vision for life and partnership.

✨ Signal Your Conviction: Share your vision authentically in your profile and early chats.

✨ Seek the Echo: Actively look for someone whose core values and vision resonate deeply with yours.

Your LOVE story isn't found in the crowd trying to please everyone. Your person is found when you have the courage to stand firmly in what's true for you.

Let's talk in the comments 👇

What's ONE non-negotiable value you look for in a partner?

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