17/04/2024
Quiet people are often misunderstood and underestimated by others. They may seem shy, aloof, or boring, but they have many hidden strengths and qualities that make them unique and valuable. Here are 10 psychology facts about quiet people that you may not know:
They speak only when spoken to. Quiet people rarely initiate conversations, unless they have something important or relevant to say. They are not necessarily shy; they just don’t feel the need to fill the silence with unnecessary words. They only share when things need to be shared.
2. They are economical with their words. Quiet people think carefully before they speak, and choose their words wisely. They don’t want to say the wrong thing and backtrack, or be misunderstood. They are concise and clear in their communication, and avoid small talk and fluff. They know how to get to the point of things right away.
3. They get intimidated by fast talkers. Quiet people can feel overwhelmed and exhausted when confronted by someone who is the complete opposite of them. When someone chatty meets a quiet person, they may expect quick and enthusiastic responses, but quiet people need time to process and respond. Quiet people are not uninterested in the conversation; they just have a different pace and style of communication.
4. They try to avoid crowded situations. Quiet people are usually introverted, which means they feel drained by social interactions and need alone time to recharge. Crowded places or events can be too stimulating and stressful for them, so they prefer quieter and more intimate settings. They do what they can to avoid scenarios that can sap their energy.
5. They catch everything around them. Quiet people are excellent observers and listeners. They pay attention to details and nuances that others may miss. They are aware of their surroundings and the people in them, and can pick up on subtle cues and signals. They can also empathize with others and understand their perspectives.
6. They can be super productive. Quiet people are not lazy or passive; they are focused and diligent. They can work independently and efficiently, without needing constant supervision or feedback. They can also concentrate deeply on their tasks and block out distractions. They are self-motivated and driven by their own goals.
7. They can be calm in tough situations. Quiet people are not easily rattled or panicked; they are composed and resilient. They can handle stress and pressure better than most people, because they don’t let their emotions get the best of them. They can think rationally and logically, and find solutions to problems.
8. They tend to be minimalists. Quiet people are not materialistic or greedy; they are content and grateful. They don’t need a lot of things to be happy or fulfilled; they value quality over quantity. They prefer simplicity and elegance over complexity and extravagance. They are not wasteful or careless; they are mindful and responsible.
9. They may have quiet BPD. Quiet BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) is a subtype of BPD that is not officially recognized by the DSM, but is widely acknowledged by mental health professionals. People with quiet BPD suffer from the same emotional pain as those with classic BPD, but they internalize it rather than externalize it. They implode rather than explode; they hurt themselves rather than lash out at others². Some signs and symptoms of quiet BPD are:
Feeling empty and numb most of the time
Having extreme mood swings that seem to come from nowhere
Hiding anger, sometimes to the point of not knowing it when angry
Blaming oneself for things even when they are not at fault
Having a deep fear of abandonment, toxic shame, and severe anxiety of conflicts
Appearing calm, successful, or even happy on the outside, but suffering from extreme pain on the inside
Mentally retreating and becoming dissociated when stressed
Withdrawing and ending relationships without speaking to the person when upset
Feeling defective and unworthy of love
Idealizing other people one moment, but losing trust in them soon
10. They speak in their thoughts and hearts. Quiet people are not cold or distant; they are warm and sincere. They don’t express themselves verbally as much as others do, but they communicate in other ways that are more meaningful and authentic to them. They speak in thoughts and heart; they share their ideas and feelings through writing, art, music, gestures, actions, or simply being there for someone.
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