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12/06/2022

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We're told that being emotional or aggressive is unattractive and makes us less desirable.
From a young age, girls are often raised to be polite, demure, and modest.

Women are capable of and should be encouraged to do and be anything they want. A woman's worth should not be based on her looks or her ability to smile and stay in the background - she should be praised for her accomplishments, no matter what they are.

As a woman, you should never feel like you need to stay in the background or "pretty up" for other people. You are the only one who can determine your own worth, and you deserve to be happy and fulfilled in your own life.

11/06/2022

Our bodies are not made for others.

They are made to carry our hearts and our minds, they help us to create the kind of magic we want to in this world.
So can we focus on what our bodies can do for us,
rather than how they look in comparison to someone else’s standards?

“Beautiful” isn’t just one body type.
Wherever you are right now,
just pause and look around you.
Every single body type you see, is simply just a body type.

There is no one perfect way to look,
and you can love your body no matter what it looks like.

You can work on improving your health and becoming stronger,
but don't try to change who you are just because you think that's what society wants.

It’s a journey, to love our body the way it is.
And I hope you never stop learning to love your body the very way it is.

06/06/2022

Dear you,

Which places in your life make you feel happiest?

Which places make you feel instantly lighter,
And a smile comes more easily onto your face and tension eases a lot more from your heart?

Your life should not only revolve around your home, and your workspace.
You are more than your family and your work;
You are your own soul too.

We all have physical spaces that have this unexplainable ability to light us up from within.
And it is so important for us to frequent these places,
To bring ourselves to these places to recharge ourselves and reconnect with ourselves in the absence of other people and work.

You deserve to feel happy, even when on your own.
So,
go!

Where will you take yourself to?

30/05/2022

Dear you who has become a mother;

Where does your mind go to?

Besides focusing on your children, your husband,
Your chores, the house,
Your parents, your siblings…
Where does your mind go?

As a woman enters into motherhood, it can be a flurry of emotions and excitement.
She transcends into this state of
responsibility, love and commitment
to the new parts of her life that have shifted into position.
She suddenly takes on several new roles;
She’s the mom.
She’s the housekeeper.
She’s the teacher for her children’s homework.
She’s the wife.
And she’s also now the daughter-in-law, and a sister-in-law.

The pattern we often see a new mother fall into
is ironically
in how she forgets herself.
In the midst of flying straight into this new version of her life,
With several new roles to take care of,
this woman forgets to leave space for herself.

You need another place for your mind to go to.
Be it a new hobby, the pursuit of a passion,
or even the simple act of taking those walks that help you take some breathing space amidst the madness in the house,
I hope you remember to live a life of your own.
Allow yourself to do something that brings your mind somewhere else besides
Your responsibilities.

You deserve to be your own commitment too.

So…
What’s one thing you haven’t done in a long time,
But it brings you peace and joy? :)

26/05/2022

Being a confinement nanny can bring you around the world!
We find out what it's like to be a confinement nanny. These are the super ladies helping modern mums to be the superwomen we can be, especially when stepping into motherhood.

25/05/2022

To feel good, what matters is what you have around you, (your external environment)
And what you intentionally allow inside you. (your internal environment)

Do you surround yourself with people who light you up,
Who make you feel seen and appreciated as who you are?
Do you bring yourself to spaces and places
That make you feel safe, feel vibrant with energy?

What do you feed yourself with;
Food that nourishes you,
Or food that only temporarily feeds your soul?
What kind of thoughts do you constantly allow to float within your mind;
Positive, light-hearted and encouraging ones,
Or thoughts filled with dread, worry and doubt?

With this post, I want you to begin noticing.
Begin noticing whether your external and internal environments are encouraging or discouraging you
from feeling good.

Feeling confident starts from feeling good.
And I need us to remember that we always have the power to change the way we feel in our lives;
We just need to begin being aware of what we allow around us and inside our minds and body.

So, do you feel good about your current way of life?
What’s ONE thing you can change about your external or internal environment,
that could help you feel even better?

23/05/2022

There’s no need to feel guilt when you do ‘nothing’ or maybe it doesn’t fit what you consider productive. But really, there’s nothing wrong to do what feels like ‘time wasted’.

20/05/2022

Dear you who thinks a lot,

You are not your thoughts.

Most times, women are known to think a lot.
So I thought, why not address our tendencies to overthink in this post :)

Here’s something that has helped me move forward,
whenever I spiral into my own pattern of overthinking.

“I am not my thoughts.”

Whatever thoughts come to your mind,
Remember that they are not you.

Sometimes, your thoughts come about because of what people have said to you.
Or what they have said about you.
It could also be what you think they could say about you.

Whatever they may be,
I don’t care.
What I care more about, is whether you are able to manage how you are with these thoughts that plague your mind.

So, dear women,
here’s one thing that worked for me :)

To remember that, I am not my thoughts.
And you are not your thoughts too.

You are separate
from the voices you hear in your mind.

(and… you also get to decide what thoughts you wish to give power to.)

16/05/2022

We all have something powerful to say to the world. We just need to believe that we already have what it takes to inspire someone else. When we are authentic about our message, we can change lives.
So what's your powerful message? What are you passionate about sharing with the world?

It's time to let your authentic voice be heard.

11/05/2022

When someone else raises their voice,
or makes an unpleasant remark about a choice you made?

Stay.
Stay with yourself,
Stay with what you believe in.

Their truth does not dictate yours.
The way they see you, the way they feel about you
says little about who you are as a person.

So, this is a reminder for you not to allow external factors to determine your internal world.
A reminder for you not to allow the voices of others
have a say about how you should feel about yourself.

Instead of asking “Why do they see me this way?”
Turn it around to be empowering for yourself.

“This is what they see in me.
But how do I want to see myself?”

09/05/2022

Take a look at the people you allow into your space;

are they people who encourage you to be fearless?

Are they people who love you even though you show up to be a very different person from them?

This is a reminder that you do deserve to be loved for your fearlessness and your uniqueness ♡

08/05/2022

You became a mother. You are now a mother.
You are not only a mother.
You bring “mother” into part of your identity, and yet it doesn’t make up all of who you are.

This Mothers’ Day post is to the mothers.
A reminder, that being a parent to your children
isn’t something that should own your entire life.

A reminder to check in with yourself;
Have you been living to the fullest, while being a mother too?
What parts of your life are still fully yours, and not because you’re a mother?

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You are not only a mother.
You’re a woman of your own, with a beautiful soul that thrives only when you give yourself the connection and love you so willingly give to your children.

So, as we wish you a happy Mothers’ Day,
We also wish you the courage and commitment you can gift to yourself,
In living a life that feels like yours,
while being a mother.

07/05/2022

Mother's Day is more than receiving gifts and wishes as a mum. These 3 amazing mum bosses share their thoughts and message for other mothers, their mothers and their children.
We're not crying. You are.

02/05/2022

It sounds simple, but it isn't easy.
When you feel disrespected in a room,
especially one where there's only few woman,
more men?
You deserve to speak.

To speak of your experience, and to use your voice to show people that you will not stand for low standards of respect just because you're a woman.

27/04/2022

We only step into the best versions of our lives, when we allow ourselves to be truthful about what we really want.

"What kind of life will make me happy?"

Turn inwards, towards yourself for that answer.
And pursue that vision, instead of what you often see online.

A calm life is a good life too.
A simple life is a good life too.
A life centred around family is a good life too.
A life where it's just you is a good life too.

There is no correct answer; only the one that will make you happiest.
And that is your own answer.

22/04/2022

What else can help bring out your natural energy and glow other than make up?
Our Co-founder Valerie Poh Yun Ting learns from Lady Confidence Carol Gockel how she can display her inner glow with little or no make up.

20/04/2022

The carousel speaks for itself.

"Eliminating" doesn't mean cutting them out of your life. It could simply mean being wise with who you spend your time with.

I just want you to know that it is okay to fall away from the "good girl" you were taught to be 🫂

(There's a difference between being "good" and "nice",
and being kind.)

People and places that drain your energy, just don't deserve to be present in your space.

Period 🌹

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