28/09/2023
💟 *Heart and Mind Disconnect*
When you experience the loss of a loved one, whether it be a sudden accident or sustained illness, there can be a disconnect between what the mind “knows” and what the heart “feels.” Death is so stunningly final and deeply personal that nothing can emotionally prepare you for its arrival. The truth is that even the most saintly Christian, when faced with losing a child, spouse, parent, or someone they dearly love can feel anger in their heart toward God. The gut-wrenching pain of losing your loved one can cause you to doubt everything you believe in. As your heart wrestles with your mind, questions begin to emerge such as, *“Why me?” “Haven’t I served the Lord faithfully?” “I prayed and prayed, why didn’t God spare their life?” and “God, how can You truly love me and allow this to happen?*” Faced with a tragic death, your emotions are all over the place from absolute devastation to downright anger. Coming to terms with the finality of it all takes time. *Knowing you will never see their smile again, hear the sound of their voice, or feel their gentle hug leaves an emptiness no one else can fill nor can it be explained or adequately described with words.* Only those who have gone over the cliff and experienced the free-fall of grief can truly understand the heart-wrenching alarm, dismay, and complete and utter despair. Grief comes and goes like waves of an ocean crashing upon the beach. Just when you think it’s safe to breathe again, another wave comes crashing over you, forcing you to revisit the memories, and feel the pain that will never truly go away. It’s okay to cry, feel sad, and be angry, because it’s all part of the grieving process and God looks upon you with compassion, not judgment. God is not “thin-skinned.” *He doesn’t hold your battle between heart and mind against you. He knows you better than you know yourself and He understands the dichotomy of heart and soul.* Praise God for His parachute of grace. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself time and space, and be honest with your emotions. Most of all, never give up hope. Cling to God’s promise in John 16:22: “Now is your time of grief, but I will see you again and you will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy.” Text: Psalm 34:18, Psalm 31:9, 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, Matthew 5:4