Loving Without Boundaries

Loving Without Boundaries Consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and sex positivity http://lovingwithoutboundaries.com/kittys-professional-journey/ At Loving Without Boundaries we believe that loving WHO you want HOW you want is a fundamental human right.

Mission: Welcome to Loving Without Boundaries! I’m Kitty Chambliss, Founder and Chief Hostess around here. But let’s be clear on one thing – while I may have started this community, you are the ones who make it what it is. It is not mine, it’s OURS. I see my mission as pretty simple: To Love and to Educate. Given all the individuals in the world, there simply is not only one type of relationship structure that works for everyone. A romantic relationship is collaboration – a joint creative project to build something as unique and individual as the people creating it. Yet we live in a society where monogamous, heterosexual pairing is the overwhelming majority of how relationships are structured. We are taught to desire and seek one other person – the one person who will make us whole and happy. Then supposedly we will no longer desire others. Some call this the “romance myth” – the heterosexual, monogamous romance. Because we are socialized in a culture that teaches us that monogamy is right and natural, monogamy is often not a conscious choice for people, but is more of a default for how to be in relationships. Yet monogamy does not seem to be working well enough for all as evidenced by the high divorce rates, with roughly one third citing infidelity as the cause. Cheating is rampant in society, with some believing “they have no choice.” My mission is to help change the way we as society view relationships and connect with each other as well as ourselves. I am teaching people that we have more choices, how to love better, and to understand that we are ALL valuable, even if one is part of a sexual minority. Everyone has the right as well as an innate desire to be loved, to have a sense of belonging, and to conduct their lives as they wish. I want people to feel that they are FREE to CHOOSE who to love and how to love, free from discrimination and ridicule. And I want to help create a world where there is more tolerance, understanding, and acceptance for unconventional relationships and sexual minorities. Ethical non-monogamy and polyamory are an option that is available to you and to all of us that choose this path.

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Reminder: The LIVE Masterclass is this Wednesday at 3PM EST. I know with all my heart that you may feel so 𝐀𝐋𝐎𝐍𝐄 with wh...
09/22/2020

Reminder: The LIVE Masterclass is this Wednesday at 3PM EST.

I know with all my heart that you may feel so 𝐀𝐋𝐎𝐍𝐄 with what you are going through, with the world “shutting down”, missing loved ones, loneliness, and concern and fear about how long this will last.

But… while many things are challenging about this time, some things are great about this moment!

Now is an excellent time for online education! We can make our minds smarter while we are staying safe at home, passing the time. In my effort to serve this community that I love so dang much, I have created a new and improved version of my FREE masterclass.

𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐅𝐑𝐄𝐄 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐌𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐬 called: 𝑇ℎ𝑒 5-𝑆𝑡𝑒𝑝 𝐹𝑜𝑟𝑚𝑢𝑙𝑎 𝑀𝑦 𝐶𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑠 𝑈𝑠𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝐶𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑡ℎ𝑦, 𝐿𝑜𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔, 𝑂𝑝𝑒𝑛 𝑅𝑒𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠ℎ𝑖𝑝𝑠 (even if nothing has worked before) in our Private LWB Facebook group. Click the link below to RSVP for the event:
𝐡𝐭𝐭𝐩𝐬://𝐰𝐰𝐰.𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤.𝐜𝐨𝐦/𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐩𝐬/𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬

You'll need to answer 3 questions to get approved to join our community. Do it before you miss the LIVE Masterclass! It is going to show you how to live your most authentic life free from shame and guilt with tools to liberate you from challenging emotions like jealousy once and for all.

𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐨𝐧𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐨 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐲𝐨𝐮:
— The simple game plan our clients use to effectively manage their emotions of jealousy, fear, and insecurity while creating more loving, transparent multiple relationships.
— Why denying or repressing jealousy or fear about your multiple relationships is the exact WRONG strategy to follow... and the fastest way to build confidence in healthy, open relationships while gaining more joy and freedom.
— How our clients let go of self-doubt and fear, maintain control of jealous and angry feelings so that they feel loved and supported in a safe, non-judgmental environment.
— The #1 reliable tool to gain more peace of mind and stay off the roller coaster of emotions even if obsessive thoughts, resentment, and worry have been part of the struggle previously.
— The little-known method my clients use to confidently communicate with their loved ones WITHOUT discussions until two in the morning, long drawn out fights, and feelings of not being heard.
— AND... how to do all this while being 100% completely authentic and living in integrity... even if you have felt judged in the past.
And, please know that it is USUAL for participants to VERY quickly experience relief and BIG shifts during these events…

So 𝐉𝐎𝐈𝐍 the Facebook group and then reserve your seat for this life-changing event!
𝐡𝐭𝐭𝐩𝐬://𝐰𝐰𝐰.𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤.𝐜𝐨𝐦/𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐩𝐬/𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬

I can’t wait to see you there!
Much love and hope,
Kitty

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09/21/2020

It’s a new week! What challenges are you taking on?

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Living in the non-monogamous and swinging lifestyle is often about establishing community, and folks you can rely on. Ho...
09/18/2020

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I am giving a LIVE MASTERCLASS next week on Wednesday, the 19th! I want to remind you that even during difficult times l...
09/16/2020

I am giving a LIVE MASTERCLASS next week on Wednesday, the 19th!

I want to remind you that even during difficult times like our world is experiencing now, there are great things to appreciate in this moment!

For example, now is an excellent time for online education! In my effort to serve this community that I love so dang much, I have created a new and improved version of my FREE masterclass. Let’s stay home and grow together! (Because those efforts are NOT mutually exclusive.)

𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐅𝐑𝐄𝐄 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐌𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐬 called: 𝑇ℎ𝑒 5-𝑆𝑡𝑒𝑝 𝐹𝑜𝑟𝑚𝑢𝑙𝑎 𝑀𝑦 𝐶𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑠 𝑈𝑠𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝐶𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑡ℎ𝑦, 𝐿𝑜𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔, 𝑂𝑝𝑒𝑛 𝑅𝑒𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠ℎ𝑖𝑝𝑠 (even if nothing has worked before) in our Private LWB Facebook group. Just go to the events tab to join!

𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐨𝐧𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐨 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐲𝐨𝐮:
— The simple game plan our clients use to effectively manage their emotions of jealousy, fear, and insecurity while creating more loving, transparent multiple relationships.
— Why denying or repressing jealousy or fear about your multiple relationships is the exact WRONG strategy to follow... and the fastest way to build confidence in healthy, open relationships while gaining more joy and freedom.
— How our clients let go of self-doubt and fear, maintain control of jealous and angry feelings so that they feel loved and supported in a safe, non-judgmental environment.
— The #1 reliable tool to gain more peace of mind and stay off the roller coaster of emotions even if obsessive thoughts, resentment, and worry have been part of the struggle previously.
— The little-known method my clients use to confidently communicate with their loved ones WITHOUT discussions until two in the morning, long drawn out fights, and feelings of not being heard.
— AND... how to do all this while being 100% completely authentic and living in integrity... even if you have felt judged in the past.
And, please know that it is USUAL for participants to VERY quickly experience relief and BIG shifts during these events…

So go join the group and reserve your seat now: https://buff.ly/3i5Ic33

You'll need to answer 3 questions to get approved to join our community. Do it before you miss the LIVE Masterclass! It is going to show you how to live your most authentic life free from shame and guilt with tools to liberate you from challenging emotions like jealousy once and for all.

I can’t wait to see you there!
Much love and hope,
Kitty

Wow! Wait until you hear this amazing transformation story…When Clive first came to me, he was in a tailspin and feeling...
09/15/2020

Wow! Wait until you hear this amazing transformation story…

When Clive first came to me, he was in a tailspin and feeling hopeless. He was struggling with feelings of guilt, shame, and inadequacy. Worse, self-loathing and sadness had started to set in. There was this sense of feeling unsettled, vulnerable, and just deeply guilty about being himself — owning his polyamorous nature that he had been denying, stuffing down, all while worrying he was hurting others just by “being” who he was.

Wow, that’s a lot of misery!

On top of that, he found it very hard to prioritize his own needs. This caused him to do anything “just for himself” either in secrecy or pretend that his needs/desires were not what he wanted afterall (denying his own truth). I bet many of you can relate.

Clive revealed that he had a strong internal conflict of not being capable of finding satisfaction with monogamy for literally his entire adult life. In his 40s now, Clive was desperate to find strategies to finally live a much happier and more fulfilling life. But how?

Luckily, Clive has a supportive long-term partner who pointed him to my work and the online masterclass that I offer. She was doing her best to accept and understand Clive’s polyamorous nature. Clive reached out because he was looking for signs of hope, and learn where he could do better in dealing with his emotions, thought processes, and communication.

The first week we worked together, Clive thought “WTF am I doing?” because he was not used to investing in himself. Often we will invest time, energy, and money on other people. But in the UK where Clive is based, you can be called a “wanker for disappearing up your own ass.” So prioritizing his own needs was really pushing Clive out of his comfort zone of his misery. He later admitted you can get used to feeling a certain way, even when it’s lousy – we numb out and normalize our own suffering. It’s just familiar to us.

Well that’s no way to live! There is another way…

Today Clive feels “quite good” (definitely NOT like a “wanker”). Why? Because he got exactly the outcome that he wanted! Total self-acceptance, balance, a deep sense of inner security, confidence, and strength. He showed up super powerfully to do this work! He was diligent, worked hard, showed up to every call, and is reaping the benefits today.

Within the first few weeks, Clive had massively mind-blowing epiphanies! This continued to happen week after week. Even though not all of the concepts he was learning were new to him, he was seeing how to actually use these tools in his every day life and relationships.

By the end of our work together, Clive is now exactly where he wanted to be. Total self-love and deep self-acceptance – the holy grail of what we all aspire to. All with an inner sense of stability.

In terms of his accomplishments, Clive shared:

“[This program and work] leaves you with the knowledge that you can navigate these troubled waters that is life, and still hold yourself true to your values and integrity. The storms don’t stop. But you have the ability to hold yourself, the knowledge that you can provide your own support system. An awful lot of the benefit I’ve gotten from this work is my inner communication. I know alot more about my inner workings than I had before. The feelings we are all subjected to are a veneer sitting on the top. The ability to ‘interrogate’ our feelings and dive into it and unpack it. Understand what is underneath the feeling, then change their inner landscape to be a better human, versus outsource the responsibility (to others). Know that emotion is MY emotion. That is REALLY POWERFUL. If you use it, it’s life changing. If you don’t, it isn’t.”

He went on to say:

“There are a few things in my life where I am glad I spent money on himself. This is one of them. We buy tools to help us do our jobs professionally. We rarely buy tools to interact with people or navigate life. This is very much a tool for the navigation of life. This all helps me communicate with myself, and achieve balance.”

YES!

Clive now has inner strength, a support system, and confidence because he now knows what he is truly capable of. He has truly owned the greatness that was inside of him, that I helped draw out to the light so he can shine. Heck yes! Wow!

That’s what happens when you really know your truth and your value. That’s what happens when you have a mentor, a system that works, and the Loving Without Boundaries team in your corner.

And if Clive could achieve all this, is there any reason why YOU can’t do it too?

The truth: I’m not sure. I don’t know you personally, yet.

But there’s one way to find out:

Book a call with my team at lovingwithoutboundaries.com/apply

We’ll put our heads together for about 45 minutes. Together, we’ll talk about what you’re struggling with, what you REALLY want in your relationships (with multiple amazing people you cherish), as well as discuss giving you the tools you need to change your relationships for the better, and stay that way!

Clive went on to share:

“The Jealousy Survival Guide Program undersells itself – it's not just about Jealousy. It's about relationships, in all their infinite variety. This Program is essential for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of their relationship with their partner, themselves, and all the people around them. I did not take the enrollment of this lightly but I am so, so glad I did it. It's the best investment I've ever made in myself.”

…You know, there is hardly anyone or any resources offered that can create these types of transformations for courageous folks living life on their terms just like you, in open or alternative relationships. Most don’t share effective tools that actually provide immediate results.

Clive went on to say:

“I definitely would recommend this Program. You get out what you put in! You have to put in the work to change yourself within it. If you are prepared to show up, and you want real results for yourself and the people around you, go for it!”

Very few teachers and coaches can create the kind of transformation and beauty in their personal growth and relationships that Clive did.

Yet Loving Without Boundaries coaching can do that.
Book a call at lovingwithoutboundaries.com/apply. Let’s see what we can do for you.

The call is totally free, and will last about 45 minutes and in it, I invite you to book a call now! You may look back on this day with a huge smile months from now as being the start of a transformational journey for you! I’m so excited to speak with you!

With love and gratitude,
Kitty Chambliss, PCC, CPC, ELI-MP
Founder, Loving Without Boundaries

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09/14/2020

Just a reminder to listen to your inner rockstar and rock your authentic self! Does this quote resonate with you?

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How are you connecting with other non-monogamous folks? Are you desiring to explore, build connections, and play? @altpl...
09/11/2020

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Hi rockstars! I to share something very near and dear to my heart. I am very proud to be a part of @Div44CNM. The task f...
09/10/2020

Hi rockstars! I to share something very near and dear to my heart. I am very proud to be a part of @Div44CNM. The task force promotes awareness and inclusivity about consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and diverse expressions of intimate relationships.

I stand strong with APA Division 44 CNM Task Force because they seek to address the needs of people who practice consensual non-monogamy, including their intersecting marginalized identities. Let’s support the task force to generate research, create resources, and advocate for the inclusion of CNM relationships for those of us who engage!

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09/09/2020

We jokingly are calling this episode “Everything You Wanted to Know About Polyamory (but were afraid to ask)”. We both realized that between us we have over 50+ years of polyamorous experience behind us. What have we learned? How can we help other’s with this profound and vast knowledge from some poly “kids” who have been around the block? Tune in to find out!

https://lovingwithoutboundaries.com/2020/09/09/podcast-interview-pour-votreplaisir-veteran-polyamorist-since-1988/

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09/07/2020

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Looking for opinions on our situation I'm 34 bisexual and married. She is 34 mostly straight. We decided to open our marriage recently after years of talking about it. Where I'm conflicted is I'm more of a cuck or swinger while she wants to mainly have hers on her own. I'm completely ok with it as long as its fair. The problem is when it comes to finding someone my wife had no problems as she is attractive and let's just face it guys dont care much if she's married. I on the other hand am a solid 5.5 compared to her. So while she's getting successful very attractive men I'm not so lucky. Although I'm not shallow, I just dont have anything in common with supposed matches. When it comes to me finding men however i have no problem. Apparently im a 8 in the lgbtq Community. But i dont desire to be with men that often or in a relationship. The men my wife talks to want to take her out on dates and trips. So although this was initially my idea im just not sure anymore. This will never be fair. Another thing is she is a very busy woman who dosnt have much time for me or our kids to begin with. If i go out its after the kids bedtime for the most part. I dont like that she would sacrifice her busy time from work school to go out on dates. If she cant do it for us i dont want her doing it for others. Is this fair to ask? Or am i setting this all up for failure
My husband has a girlfriend, and is talking with another woman that he's interested in. I have not gotten out there yet looking for another partner. My biggest concerns involve balancing our schedule with caring for our 3 young children (3, 2, and 8 months). I'm deeply in love with my husband and I'm worried that he's seeing to spread himself too thin, or that either our children or our marriage is going to get the short end of the stick now that he's courting another new relationship. I work Monday through Friday, office hours. He works second shift or doubles Friday through Sunday. His girlfriend is long distance, and he leaves every other week on Tuesday evening and doesn't come home until Thursday morning, and she comes here the opposite Wednesdays. I feel like we've been really getting our groove back as a couple and now he's purposely planning on being around less and less because he has always struggled with self esteem and now he's getting lots if attention from more than just me. I also feel like his pursuing a third relationship at this time is taking away the possibilities for me to explore and meet another partner. And finally I feel like he's eliminating time together as a whole family by working all weekend every weekend, which are my only days off. I started trying to talk to him about my concerns this morning but he seemed to brush them off and just said that it'd work out and be ok. I guess I just needed to vent, but any advice is appreciated.
Id do a open relationship if I could get one partner let alone 3.
I have never read a romance novel. However, I just read this article, and watched the TED talk it describes. The TED talk mentions a couple of very interesting...and VERY inclusive romance novels. Next up...as the article mentions...let's hope for more poly/non-monogamous storylines in romance novels!
So. I keep finding myself crushing on people who are either not poly or I just don’t know their preference. Or worse! I have seemed to develop a mutual crush with a local bartender. Neither of us know relationship statuses. How do you put that out there. Especially with the poly. I feel like it just scares them away. If it does, then it would have never worked, but....aaaaahhh help! How do you begin that convo with someone that doesn’t know you’re poly??? And probably isn’t themselves. I’ll be honest, when I crossed over it was not a well communicated experience. And we’re still working through issues from it. Help my hive. 💙
"What is the difference between solopoly and RA (Relationship Anarchy)?" Solopoly people are uncoupled in various ways, for example, it's how I self define and to me it specifically describes how I live alone and always will, unmarried and never will, no kids and never will, no mixing of bank accounts or leases or shared property. I'm solo in that sense. But I'm not single. Definitely not single. I'm in multiple relationships. Other people see solopoly as: single and personally defining as polyamorous, unattached, and not benefiting from Couple's Privilege. Since I am part of multiple couples... I don't fit that definition at all. Also, sometimes solopoly is defined as not having a primary partner and ideally uninterested/refusing to have one, which is really similar to non-hierarchical polyamory. So, first we have to pick one of the many definitions of solopoly. It's a term that keeps shifting and being redefined, as all these terms seem to do. Pretty certain Tristan Taormino first coined it in Opening Up, but the internet has run wild with it. So many different people have become attached to the word to describe whatever it is that they're doing that doesn't look like traditional couples, stepping off the relationship escalator at various stops along the way. As for Relationship Anarchy, it's more about eliminating the mainstream distinctions between sexual partners, romantic partnerships, platonic partnerships, family, friends. In a sense, all people on earth could self-define as RA, because maybe they value their best friendship just as much as their monogamous spouse. It's a flexible concept that's largely philosophical and socio-political as much as it is personal, based in principles that society should not dictate that our sexual/romantic partners inherently hold any more value or priority in our lives than our non-sexual/non-romantic partners. We get to decide that prioritization for ourselves. It's spelled out pretty clearly in the Relationship Anarchy Manifesto published in 2011 by Swedish folks, quite popular there, and growing in popularity here. It's a great set of values, but it just doesn't feel right to me. My romantic/sexual partners are in their own separate and special category in my heart and my head, a weekly and daily prioritization of time and communication that differs from my platonic friendships. It feels disingenuous for me to claim RA, while looking exactly like the thing that RA isn't. So... you could easily be both solopoly and RA... or be only one of those.
Spent the night with this cuddly fella at Hacienda Villa. Definitely more than a 1 night stand... This was my second time hosting my Polytalks.com panels at Hacienda and I've had such good experiences with everyone involved. http://gothamist.com/2015/12/18/polyamory_party.php