Loving Without Boundaries

Loving Without Boundaries Consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and sex positivity http://lovingwithoutboundaries.com/kittys-professional-journey/ At Loving Without Boundaries we believe that loving WHO you want HOW you want is a fundamental human right.

Mission: Welcome to Loving Without Boundaries! I’m Kitty Chambliss, Founder and Chief Hostess around here. But let’s be clear on one thing – while I may have started this community, you are the ones who make it what it is. It is not mine, it’s OURS. I see my mission as pretty simple: To Love and to Educate. Given all the individuals in the world, there simply is not only one type of relationship structure that works for everyone. A romantic relationship is collaboration – a joint creative project to build something as unique and individual as the people creating it. Yet we live in a society where monogamous, heterosexual pairing is the overwhelming majority of how relationships are structured. We are taught to desire and seek one other person – the one person who will make us whole and happy. Then supposedly we will no longer desire others. Some call this the “romance myth” – the heterosexual, monogamous romance. Because we are socialized in a culture that teaches us that monogamy is right and natural, monogamy is often not a conscious choice for people, but is more of a default for how to be in relationships. Yet monogamy does not seem to be working well enough for all as evidenced by the high divorce rates, with roughly one third citing infidelity as the cause. Cheating is rampant in society, with some believing “they have no choice.” My mission is to help change the way we as society view relationships and connect with each other as well as ourselves. I am teaching people that we have more choices, how to love better, and to understand that we are ALL valuable, even if one is part of a sexual minority. Everyone has the right as well as an innate desire to be loved, to have a sense of belonging, and to conduct their lives as they wish. I want people to feel that they are FREE to CHOOSE who to love and how to love, free from discrimination and ridicule. And I want to help create a world where there is more tolerance, understanding, and acceptance for unconventional relationships and sexual minorities. Ethical non-monogamy and polyamory are an option that is available to you and to all of us that choose this path.

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Sweet girl, it wasn’t that you weren’t enough, it’s your energy…it asks others to rise up, and not everyone is willing t...
01/04/2021

Sweet girl, it wasn’t that you weren’t enough, it’s your energy…it asks others to rise up, and not everyone is willing to go where they would grow.
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@altplayground1 is such a great community. I really appreciate its mission to provide a fun and inclusive environment fo...
01/03/2021

@altplayground1 is such a great community. I really appreciate its mission to provide a fun and inclusive environment for all nonmonogamous and sexually open people.

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Hey there, love train! Happy holidays to you and yours! ❤ I have an exciting announcement to kick the new year off! On T...
12/29/2020

Hey there, love train! Happy holidays to you and yours! ❤

I have an exciting announcement to kick the new year off! On Tuesday, January 5th at 4:30pm EST, I will be conducting a live Facebook interview with the founders of the alternative dating app #open, David and Amanda!

HEADS UP!
In order to see the interview, and participate (via the comments), you’ll need to click the link below to join our wonderful, inclusive, and supportive community at Loving Without Boundaries. You’ll just need to answer three quick questions to be approved to become a member alongside other sex positive, alternative relationship structure folks:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovingwithoutboundaries

We can’t wait to meet you, get to know you, and have you join this exciting interview with David and Amanda of #OPEN!

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12/28/2020

Judge less, accept more. – Leo Babauta
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12/25/2020

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With so many gender identities, sexual orientations and relationship dynamics to choose from at sign-up, it has quickly become the go-to site for sex-positive people across the United States
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Jealousy is a big topic (especially for those that practice consensual non-monogamy). It's no surprise we think, talk, a...
12/24/2020

Jealousy is a big topic (especially for those that practice consensual non-monogamy). It's no surprise we think, talk, and write about it a lot because it has a huge impact on our personal happiness and relationship health.

The #1 best selling book “Jealousy Survival Guide” focuses on jealousy in consensually non-monogamous relationships, what it is, how it expresses, and specific ways to manage it. But it also goes much further than jealousy and relationships. In it, I direct you through self-discovery and start you on an optimistic path for growth.

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12/21/2020

Family should be the place where you can be your most complete self.
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12/18/2020

Altplayground is so much more than a swingers site! With resources and users from all walks of nonmonogamy, they are striving to be a true community for all sex positive people!

Whether you’re polyamorous, in an open relationship, or simply wanting to explore your sexuality, you’ll find like-minded people at https://buff.ly/3ghHFtI
And best yet, it’s growing like crazy!

Did you miss our LIVE Masterclass yesterday? We have the recording here for you to catch up on. :-) https://buff.ly/2Rgl...
12/17/2020

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Watch the 5-Step Formula My Clients Use to Create Healthy, Loving, Open Relationships now!

The LIVE Masterclass is today at 3PM EST! In the FREE Masterclass, I will be covering 𝑇ℎ𝑒 5-𝑆𝑡𝑒𝑝 𝐹𝑜𝑟𝑚𝑢𝑙𝑎 𝑀𝑦 𝐶𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑠 𝑈𝑠𝑒 ...
12/16/2020

The LIVE Masterclass is today at 3PM EST!

In the FREE Masterclass, I will be covering 𝑇ℎ𝑒 5-𝑆𝑡𝑒𝑝 𝐹𝑜𝑟𝑚𝑢𝑙𝑎 𝑀𝑦 𝐶𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑠 𝑈𝑠𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝐶𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑡ℎ𝑦, 𝐿𝑜𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔, 𝑂𝑝𝑒𝑛 𝑅𝑒𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠ℎ𝑖𝑝𝑠 (even if nothing has worked before)!

𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐨𝐧𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐨 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐲𝐨𝐮:
— The simple game plan our clients use to effectively manage their emotions of jealousy, fear, and insecurity while creating more loving, transparent multiple relationships.
— Why denying or repressing jealousy or fear about your multiple relationships is the exact WRONG strategy to follow... and the fastest way to build confidence in healthy, open relationships while gaining more joy and freedom.
— How our clients let go of self-doubt and fear, maintain control of jealous and angry feelings so that they feel loved and supported in a safe, non-judgmental environment.
— The #1 reliable tool to gain more peace of mind and stay off the roller coaster of emotions even if obsessive thoughts, resentment, and worry have been part of the struggle previously.
— The little-known method my clients use to confidently communicate with their loved ones WITHOUT discussions until two in the morning, long drawn out fights, and feelings of not being heard.
— AND... how to do all this while being 100% completely authentic and living in integrity... even if you have felt judged in the past.

And, please know that it is USUAL for participants to VERY quickly experience relief and BIG shifts during these events…

So participate in this life-changing event at 3PM EST!

This event is on our events tab in our private Facebook group. So 𝐉𝐎𝐈𝐍 the Facebook group and then go to the events tab to participate in this life-changing event at 3PM EST!
𝐡𝐭𝐭𝐩𝐬://𝐰𝐰𝐰.𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤.𝐜𝐨𝐦/𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐩𝐬/𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬

I can’t wait to see you there!
Much love and hope,
Kitty

Reminder: The LIVE Masterclass is tomorrow at 3PM EST. I know with all my heart that you may feel so 𝐀𝐋𝐎𝐍𝐄 with what you...
12/15/2020

Reminder: The LIVE Masterclass is tomorrow at 3PM EST.

I know with all my heart that you may feel so 𝐀𝐋𝐎𝐍𝐄 with what you are going through, with the world “shutting down”, missing loved ones, loneliness, and concern and fear about how long this will last.

But… while many things are challenging about this time, some things are great about this moment!

Now is an excellent time for online education! We can make our minds smarter while we are staying safe at home, passing the time. In my effort to serve this community that I love so dang much, I have created a new and improved version of my FREE masterclass.

𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐅𝐑𝐄𝐄 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐌𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐬 called: 𝑇ℎ𝑒 5-𝑆𝑡𝑒𝑝 𝐹𝑜𝑟𝑚𝑢𝑙𝑎 𝑀𝑦 𝐶𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑠 𝑈𝑠𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝐶𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑡ℎ𝑦, 𝐿𝑜𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔, 𝑂𝑝𝑒𝑛 𝑅𝑒𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠ℎ𝑖𝑝𝑠 (even if nothing has worked before) in our Private LWB Facebook group. Click this link below to join the group: 𝐡𝐭𝐭𝐩𝐬://𝐰𝐰𝐰.𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤.𝐜𝐨𝐦/𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐩𝐬/𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬

You'll need to answer 3 questions to get approved to join our community. Do it before you miss the LIVE Masterclass! It is going to show you how to live your most authentic life free from shame and guilt with tools to liberate you from challenging emotions like jealousy once and for all.

𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐨𝐧𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐨 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐲𝐨𝐮:
— The simple game plan our clients use to effectively manage their emotions of jealousy, fear, and insecurity while creating more loving, transparent multiple relationships.
— Why denying or repressing jealousy or fear about your multiple relationships is the exact WRONG strategy to follow... and the fastest way to build confidence in healthy, open relationships while gaining more joy and freedom.
— How our clients let go of self-doubt and fear, maintain control of jealous and angry feelings so that they feel loved and supported in a safe, non-judgmental environment.
— The #1 reliable tool to gain more peace of mind and stay off the roller coaster of emotions even if obsessive thoughts, resentment, and worry have been part of the struggle previously.
— The little-known method my clients use to confidently communicate with their loved ones WITHOUT discussions until two in the morning, long drawn out fights, and feelings of not being heard.
— AND... how to do all this while being 100% completely authentic and living in integrity... even if you have felt judged in the past.
And, please know that it is USUAL for participants to VERY quickly experience relief and BIG shifts during these events…

So 𝐉𝐎𝐈𝐍 the Facebook group and then reserve your seat for this life-changing event!
𝐡𝐭𝐭𝐩𝐬://𝐰𝐰𝐰.𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤.𝐜𝐨𝐦/𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐩𝐬/𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬

I can’t wait to see you there!
Much love and hope,
Kitty

The best way to be happy is to know that change means new beginnings.Poster designed with love by Kitty Chambliss. Sign ...
12/14/2020

The best way to be happy is to know that change means new beginnings.
Poster designed with love by Kitty Chambliss.

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#lovecoach
#lovecoaching
#openrelationship
#openrelationships
#openrelationshipcoach
#openrelationshiptips
#openrelationshipgoals
#polyamory
#polyamorymarriedanddating
#polyamorypride
#polyamorylove
#polyamorous
#polyamorousrelationship
#polyamorousrelationships
#polyamorouslove
#lovingwithoutboundaries
#kittychambliss
#nonmonogamous
#polyamorycoach
#polyamorouscoaching
#relationshipcoach
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Tis the season, for naughtiness!If you need a break from the holiday stresses, hop on over to https://buff.ly/3ghHFtI!Be...
12/11/2020

Tis the season, for naughtiness!
If you need a break from the holiday stresses, hop on over to https://buff.ly/3ghHFtI!
Between the Big Wall (full of sexy photos), awesome entertainment from over 20 sex-positive podcasts, and fun features like video chatting, you’ll find a way to decompress and get back into a sensual mindset

Hi rockstars! I to share something very near and dear to my heart. I am very proud to be a part of @Div44CNM. The task f...
12/10/2020

Hi rockstars! I to share something very near and dear to my heart. I am very proud to be a part of @Div44CNM. The task force promotes awareness and inclusivity about consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and diverse expressions of intimate relationships.

I stand strong with APA Division 44 CNM Task Force because they seek to address the needs of people who practice consensual non-monogamy, including their intersecting marginalized identities. Let’s support the task force to generate research, create resources, and advocate for the inclusion of CNM relationships for those of us who engage!

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Did you know that right now, it’s possible for you to have the exact relationships you want, with people who appreciate ...
12/09/2020

Did you know that right now, it’s possible for you to have the exact relationships you want, with people who appreciate you, virtually any time that you desire – even if you’ve struggled for years?
I’ll explain how in just a second. But first, let’s talk about why so many people think this is impossible.

The truth is that you’ve been LET DOWN.

Let down by so many well–meaning friends and family who want you to believe that monogamy is THE key to a healthy, happy, and fulfilling life (not that there is anything wrong with monogamy for those who consciously choose it). They also believe you will be RIDDLED and RUINED by JEALOUSY if you choose a consensually non-monogamous relationship.

And on the surface, I get it. It seems to make sense!

Many of us have drank the Kool–aid of monogamy as the ONLY option that we could even choose from. Then we believe that we just can’t HANDLE jealousy in a constructive way if we try that “crazy-making” non-monogamy fad.

We are afraid that open relationships will generate self–doubt, tweak our insecurities, paralyze us with fear of loss of our partner(s), and that we will lash out and damage our relationships under all of this emotional pressure.

But let me just come right out and say it: Running away from our emotions (such as jealousy/insecurity/fear) is DUMB.

Here’s why:
• When we deny or repress our negative emotions, they just come out sideways when we least expect it, potentially damaging ourselves or our relationships.
• Our emotions can give us valuable information that we may be ignoring – about us as individuals or about where our relationships need attention.
• Left unchecked, negative emotions can wreak havoc on other areas of our life such as: lost sleep, losing focus at work, and can negatively affect our parenting ability with our children who are depending on us.

But the biggest reason of all is the DESTRUCTIVE DRAMA and madness that unchecked jealousy can inflict…and that’s an absolute tragedy because we often feel guilt and shame for how we behave in those challenging moments to those we love, which ruins our sense of self-worth.

So if that’s the old and DUMB way…what’s the new and SMART way?

Simple: Embrace jealousy (as you build the life of your dreams) and build your emotion management muscle.

Here’s why this is BRILLIANT:
• When we choose to live life on our own terms, we up–level our game to match the new challenges, which increases our sense of self-esteem!
• We can decisively commit to learning valuable tools and build emotional muscle to “catch” ourselves before acting out when finding one's self in the throes of jealousy or other strong emotions – which is so empowering!
• As we become more skilled, we can learn to compassionately communicate to partners constructively… building more connection, trust, and intimacy with loved ones. Who doesn’t want more of THAT?

And the best part is you can utilize a proven method that works QUICKLY that has already helped so many others – created by a mentor who has been in the trenches before you… And that’s what’s going to enable you to create loving, transparent, joyful multiple relationships – without months or even years of floundering around in emotional upheaval and chaos.

Do you see how powerful that is?

Here’s the thing though: No one else is teaching this. And the ones that are, don’t really understand these nuances.
I’d love to talk to you about how you can use these strategies and positive mental shifts to start building the foundation for open relationships that feel safe, happy and loving in eight weeks or less – with a sustainable and proven system!

It’s totally possible to truly connect with our loved ones in a powerful way (within open relationships), have greater intimacy, and feel completely fulfilled and cherished. I can tell you that feels so great and rewarding – like a superhero!

That’s why I thought I’d open up a couple slots in my calendar to speak with you personally. Book a call with me and let's see if we are a good fit.

The call is totally free, and will last about 45 minutes and in it, we’ll talk about what is alive for you right now, what you’re struggling with, what you REALLY want in your relationships, as well as discuss giving you the tools you need to learn how to have thriving multiple, joyous, healthy relationships – and stay that way!

I invite you to book a call now at lovingwithoutboundaries.com/apply

You may look back on this day with a big smile months from now as being the start of a transformational journey for you! I’m so excited to speak with you!

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Hi All. New to the community. Just turned 63 and in an open marriage. I hope to get some ideas and make some new friends. This is very new to me. Happy New Year, all!
For the last couple hours this Thanksgiving I've been thinking about the many good things that came my way in 2020. As I began to link the root cause I discovered that Kitty is one of the three women, other two are my partners, that made it a wonderful year. One of my two partners and I were having some issues. This is not a "poly" thing, jealousy thing, this is a LIFE thing tied back to decades of poor communication skills. The skills Kitty helped us learn in March have proven to help in ALL PARTS OF LIFE. It really was the best investment we've made this year and one of the best investments I've made in myself to date. If you are struggling with ANY interpersonal or communication issues I want to assure you that Kitty has skills to teach you new tools to overcome most anything. It was like having your glasses updated, everything is easier to see in all parts of our world. If not today, when?
Looking for opinions on our situation I'm 34 bisexual and married. She is 34 mostly straight. We decided to open our marriage recently after years of talking about it. Where I'm conflicted is I'm more of a cuck or swinger while she wants to mainly have hers on her own. I'm completely ok with it as long as its fair. The problem is when it comes to finding someone my wife had no problems as she is attractive and let's just face it guys dont care much if she's married. I on the other hand am a solid 5.5 compared to her. So while she's getting successful very attractive men I'm not so lucky. Although I'm not shallow, I just dont have anything in common with supposed matches. When it comes to me finding men however i have no problem. Apparently im a 8 in the lgbtq Community. But i dont desire to be with men that often or in a relationship. The men my wife talks to want to take her out on dates and trips. So although this was initially my idea im just not sure anymore. This will never be fair. Another thing is she is a very busy woman who dosnt have much time for me or our kids to begin with. If i go out its after the kids bedtime for the most part. I dont like that she would sacrifice her busy time from work school to go out on dates. If she cant do it for us i dont want her doing it for others. Is this fair to ask? Or am i setting this all up for failure
My husband has a girlfriend, and is talking with another woman that he's interested in. I have not gotten out there yet looking for another partner. My biggest concerns involve balancing our schedule with caring for our 3 young children (3, 2, and 8 months). I'm deeply in love with my husband and I'm worried that he's seeing to spread himself too thin, or that either our children or our marriage is going to get the short end of the stick now that he's courting another new relationship. I work Monday through Friday, office hours. He works second shift or doubles Friday through Sunday. His girlfriend is long distance, and he leaves every other week on Tuesday evening and doesn't come home until Thursday morning, and she comes here the opposite Wednesdays. I feel like we've been really getting our groove back as a couple and now he's purposely planning on being around less and less because he has always struggled with self esteem and now he's getting lots if attention from more than just me. I also feel like his pursuing a third relationship at this time is taking away the possibilities for me to explore and meet another partner. And finally I feel like he's eliminating time together as a whole family by working all weekend every weekend, which are my only days off. I started trying to talk to him about my concerns this morning but he seemed to brush them off and just said that it'd work out and be ok. I guess I just needed to vent, but any advice is appreciated.
Id do a open relationship if I could get one partner let alone 3.
I have never read a romance novel. However, I just read this article, and watched the TED talk it describes. The TED talk mentions a couple of very interesting...and VERY inclusive romance novels. Next up...as the article mentions...let's hope for more poly/non-monogamous storylines in romance novels!
So. I keep finding myself crushing on people who are either not poly or I just don’t know their preference. Or worse! I have seemed to develop a mutual crush with a local bartender. Neither of us know relationship statuses. How do you put that out there. Especially with the poly. I feel like it just scares them away. If it does, then it would have never worked, but....aaaaahhh help! How do you begin that convo with someone that doesn’t know you’re poly??? And probably isn’t themselves. I’ll be honest, when I crossed over it was not a well communicated experience. And we’re still working through issues from it. Help my hive. 💙
"What is the difference between solopoly and RA (Relationship Anarchy)?" Solopoly people are uncoupled in various ways, for example, it's how I self define and to me it specifically describes how I live alone and always will, unmarried and never will, no kids and never will, no mixing of bank accounts or leases or shared property. I'm solo in that sense. But I'm not single. Definitely not single. I'm in multiple relationships. Other people see solopoly as: single and personally defining as polyamorous, unattached, and not benefiting from Couple's Privilege. Since I am part of multiple couples... I don't fit that definition at all. Also, sometimes solopoly is defined as not having a primary partner and ideally uninterested/refusing to have one, which is really similar to non-hierarchical polyamory. So, first we have to pick one of the many definitions of solopoly. It's a term that keeps shifting and being redefined, as all these terms seem to do. Pretty certain Tristan Taormino first coined it in Opening Up, but the internet has run wild with it. So many different people have become attached to the word to describe whatever it is that they're doing that doesn't look like traditional couples, stepping off the relationship escalator at various stops along the way. As for Relationship Anarchy, it's more about eliminating the mainstream distinctions between sexual partners, romantic partnerships, platonic partnerships, family, friends. In a sense, all people on earth could self-define as RA, because maybe they value their best friendship just as much as their monogamous spouse. It's a flexible concept that's largely philosophical and socio-political as much as it is personal, based in principles that society should not dictate that our sexual/romantic partners inherently hold any more value or priority in our lives than our non-sexual/non-romantic partners. We get to decide that prioritization for ourselves. It's spelled out pretty clearly in the Relationship Anarchy Manifesto published in 2011 by Swedish folks, quite popular there, and growing in popularity here. It's a great set of values, but it just doesn't feel right to me. My romantic/sexual partners are in their own separate and special category in my heart and my head, a weekly and daily prioritization of time and communication that differs from my platonic friendships. It feels disingenuous for me to claim RA, while looking exactly like the thing that RA isn't. So... you could easily be both solopoly and RA... or be only one of those.
Spent the night with this cuddly fella at Hacienda Villa. Definitely more than a 1 night stand... This was my second time hosting my Polytalks.com panels at Hacienda and I've had such good experiences with everyone involved. http://gothamist.com/2015/12/18/polyamory_party.php