Loving Without Boundaries

Loving Without Boundaries Consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and sex positivity
http://lovingwithoutboundaries.com/kittys-professional-journey/

At Loving Without Boundaries we believe that loving WHO you want HOW you want is a fundamental human right. Many have a fear of discrimination or exclusion as well as a loss of friendships and relationships, partly because they are “coloring outside of the lines” of what society deems appropriate behavior (basically hetero-normative monogamy as the only choice for healthy relationships). Many also suffer from a lack of support, understanding, and a sense of belonging due to mainstream society telling them they are WRONG for being who they are. Lastly many resort to cheating on their mate – thus creating emotional pain and suffering – because they don’t realize there is another choice. I truly believe that we can improve the quality of our lives by improving the quality of our relationships. I believe that at the end of each of our life journeys, it is love and the quality of our connections that we will cherish and hold dear to our hearts, no matter which path we choose to get there (monogamous, polyamorous, or otherwise). Being vulnerable and truly connecting means knowing who you are and having the courage to share your authentic self with others. The world is taught to believe in the scarcity model based on fear surrounding relationships, and thus many are dysfunctional or fail altogether creating unhappiness, disconnection, and isolation. The Loving Without Boundaries mission helps one see the world in abundance (vs. scarcity) with a sense of happiness that the world (and healthy, loving relationships) are within our control. My mission is also to teach people that they have more choices than they may realize, as well as how to love themselves better replacing self-hatred for being their authentic, genuine selves. I strive to help by offering a supportive community here at Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) as well as actionable advice through writing articles, relationship coaching, public speaking, effective tools and a place we can call home while we all navigate these waters in our unique quest for happiness and joy. The Loving Without Boundaries community is geared towards those practicing ethical non-monogamy of all kinds with an emphasis on polyamory and the poly-curious. The world needs to stop teaching people that hetero-normative monogamy is the only way to have healthy productive relationships. That is simply not true! There are MANY ways to have healthy, loving relationships. On a related note I’m not OK with how sex negativity is so prevalent across the globe and even talking about sex is shunned in some circles. There is nothing wrong with talking about something as natural as sex. Expressions of love through the union of human beings is beautiful. I stand behind the philosophy of Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Alliance. Woodhull envisions a world that recognizes sexual freedom as the fundamental human right of all individuals (both men and women alike) to develop and express their unique sexuality; to be personally autonomous with regard to bodily integrity and expression; and to enjoy sexual dignity, privacy and consensual sexual expression without societal or governmental interference, coercion or stigmatization. With love and gratitude, Kitty Chambliss, ELI-MP Relationship and Transition Coach

Mission: Welcome to Loving Without Boundaries! I’m Kitty Chambliss, Founder and Chief Hostess around here. But let’s be clear on one thing – while I may have started this community, you are the ones who make it what it is. It is not mine, it’s OURS. I see my mission as pretty simple: To Love and to Educate. Given all the individuals in the world, there simply is not only one type of relationship structure that works for everyone. A romantic relationship is collaboration – a joint creative project to build something as unique and individual as the people creating it. Yet we live in a society where monogamous, heterosexual pairing is the overwhelming majority of how relationships are structured. We are taught to desire and seek one other person – the one person who will make us whole and happy. Then supposedly we will no longer desire others. Some call this the “romance myth” – the heterosexual, monogamous romance. Because we are socialized in a culture that teaches us that monogamy is right and natural, monogamy is often not a conscious choice for people, but is more of a default for how to be in relationships. Yet monogamy does not seem to be working well enough for all as evidenced by the high divorce rates, with roughly one third citing infidelity as the cause. Cheating is rampant in society, with some believing “they have no choice.” My mission is to help change the way we as society view relationships and connect with each other as well as ourselves. I am teaching people that we have more choices, how to love better, and to understand that we are ALL valuable, even if one is part of a sexual minority. Everyone has the right as well as an innate desire to be loved, to have a sense of belonging, and to conduct their lives as they wish. I want people to feel that they are FREE to CHOOSE who to love and how to love, free from discrimination and ridicule. And I want to help create a world where there is more tolerance, understanding, and acceptance for unconventional relationships and sexual minorities. Ethical non-monogamy and polyamory are an option that is available to you and to all of us that choose this path.

Happy Thursday! It is with much gratitude that I am able to announce my May "Dear Kitty" column in ENMMagazine is AVAILA...
05/08/2020
ENM Magazine

Happy Thursday! It is with much gratitude that I am able to announce my May "Dear Kitty" column in ENMMagazine is AVAILABLE NOW! I am so honored to be a part of a team providing an honest voice and a raw awareness to our community 🙌🏻

What makes us stronger, is working together for a common goal that brings us together and I believe ENM Magazine does an amazing job of this.

View my May “Dear Kitty" column below!

https://enmmagazine.com/magazine/2020May/index.html

Hey Rockstars! 🎉 IN ONE HOUR at 1:00 pm EST it’s Time to DANCE! The LWB crew is excited to dance our cares away with you...
05/07/2020

Hey Rockstars! 🎉 IN ONE HOUR at 1:00 pm EST it’s Time to DANCE! The LWB crew is excited to dance our cares away with you 🎶

To dance/connect with us, click “JOIN” at the link below and become part of our Loving Without Boundaries community in our closed Facebook group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovingwithoutboundaries/

You'll need to answer 3 questions to get approved to join our community. Do it before you miss the online dance party fun!
🎶 HEADS UP: For the introverts or non-dancers, you can leave your video off and just lurk and create some connection if you want to enjoy the fun!

Hey Rockstars! 🎉 TOMORROW at 1:00 pm EST it’s Time to DANCE!  The LWB crew is excited to dance our cares away with you. ...
05/06/2020

Hey Rockstars! 🎉 TOMORROW at 1:00 pm EST it’s Time to DANCE! The LWB crew is excited to dance our cares away with you. 🎶 In the COMMENTS below share your favorite song celebrating the theme 🎶

To dance/connect with us, click “JOIN” at the link below and become part of our Loving Without Boundaries community in our closed Facebook group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovingwithoutboundaries/

You'll need to answer 3 questions to get approved to join our community. Do it before you miss the online dance party fun!

🎶 HEADS UP: For the introverts or non-dancers, you can leave your video off and just lurk and create some connection if you want to enjoy the fun!

Hey Rockstars! 🎉 Thursday’s at 1:00 pm EST it’s Time to DANCE!  The LWB crew is excited to dance our cares away with you...
05/05/2020

Hey Rockstars! 🎉 Thursday’s at 1:00 pm EST it’s Time to DANCE! The LWB crew is excited to dance our cares away with you. Check back each week to see the Virtual Dance Party theme 🎶 In the COMMENTS below share your favorite song celebrating the theme 🎶

To dance/connect with us, click “JOIN” at the link below and become part of our Loving Without Boundaries community in our closed Facebook group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovingwithoutboundaries/

You'll need to answer 3 questions to get approved to join our community. Do it before you miss the online dance party fun!

🎶 HEADS UP: For the introverts or non-dancers, you can leave your video off and just lurk and create some connection if you want to enjoy the fun!

Have you ever been told that if you want to have a healthy relationship and marriage…you need to be monogamous as your o...
05/05/2020

Have you ever been told that if you want to have a healthy relationship and marriage…you need to be monogamous as your only option?

Let me save you some hard work and aggravation.

About 18 years ago, I tried that exact same strategy.

I attempted to be monogamous thinking that’s what “good girls” do.

I dated guys who also believed monogamy was their only choice.

I went to dating sites like match.com, e-harmony.com, and tried getting set up on dates by my friends.

See, I believed that if I just kept persevering with monogamy, then I would find my own Prince Charming who would fulfill all of my dreams and fantasies and every single need I would ever have. I mean, that’s what they tell you, right?

But what really happened?

Time and time again, I would end up cheating on one partner with another new partner seeking that “Perfect Sole Soulmate” thinking that there was something inherently wrong with me that I could not settle down and just be satisfied already with that perfect exclusive partner.

I even thought I could get away with it, and that maybe I was clever for coming up with this plan to fulfill all my needs.

And for a minute, I was able to even be monogamous for several years in a row – but that didn’t last because deep down this strategy and relationship structure just never really felt right to me and was not sustainable. Like ever.

Looking back, it’s like I was pretending to be monogamous. But that was really a lie. I was lying to myself and others I cared about.

I ended up depressed, disillusioned, hating myself and my lies, and wound up in therapy trying to figure out what the hell was wrong with me! I worried…. would I die alone and confused about why life, relationships, and my sex life sucked so bad?

Then I asked myself ONE question…

What would happen if I stopped believing what society, religion, the media, culture, and all of the traditional hetero-normative, monogamous folks around me were saying…and started living life on my terms in a way that worked for me and my life instead?

I read about twenty relationship books, finally discovering “The Ethical Slut” and the word “polyamory.” Then, I shared this book with my husband and we spent two years researching the subject of consensual non-monogamy. We then went to a nudist resort and discovered a whole new world of happy and thriving folks practicing consensual non-monogamy – some of whom are our close friends to this day.

What an eye opener – as well as an exciting sexual adventure FREE from shame and guilt… finally!

And, within a few years, I was able to create loving, transparent, joyful multiple relationships, thus transforming from a not-good-monogamist to a polyamorist with grace… without losing my mind, my friends (mostly), or my dignity.

So why am I sharing this with you?

Because what I noticed as I work with awesome folks like you is that with some simple (not necessarily easy!) strategies and mindset shifts, it’s totally possible to build relationships with more than one person that feel safe, happy, and loving. All without the lies and deception!

You actually CAN BE your most authentic sexy self, liberating yourself from the pain of living a lie.

It’s more a matter of learning proven communication techniques, taking self-responsibility for both our emotions and boundaries, and thus find more peace of mind and resiliency to handle the ups and downs of openly loving and caressing more than one person (if that is who you truly are inside… a non-monogamous person).

It’s totally possible to truly connect with our loved ones in a powerful way, have great sex, and feel completely fulfilled. I can tell you that feels so great and rewarding – like a superhero!

I can assure you that can be your education, and greatest accomplishment. That's why you do this work. To live your most authentic and best life.

Don’t believe me? Don’t take it from me. Here’s a comment from one of my clients that says it all:

“Ten weeks ago we began our LWB program. This week we finish. It’s not likely we would’ve made it thru COVID without Kitty Chambliss and her priceless gift of real insight and tools to help us find these healthy and helpful communication tools. Every concern we had about doing this type of work remotely over the Internet melted away after our first online meeting with Kitty. This is not a weekly counseling session, it’s much much more. Every week she provided us with hours of content, downloads and tools. It’s not too late to start again. This was single-handedly the best investment we have made in ourselves and each other. It’s much more than you’ll find in her book. It’s also content that you’ll have access to for the rest of your life. Is today the day or is it just another day? Make it the first day of the rest of your life.” — D.E.

Wow! I’m blown away by their success! I so HONOR their journey, and am so proud of them. They invested in their education, and got amazing and swift results. Let’s get that for you too…

That’s why I thought I’d open up a couple slots in my calendar to speak with you personally.

The call is totally free, and will last about 45 minutes and in it, we’ll talk about what is alive for you right now, what you’re struggling with, what you REALLY want in your relationships, as well as discuss giving you the tools you need to learn how to have thriving multiple, joyous, healthy relationships, and stay that way!

I invite you to book a call now at www.lovingwithoutboundaries.com/apply

You may look back on this day with a big smile months from now as being the start of a transformational journey for you! I’m so excited to speak with you!

With love and gratitude,
Kitty Chambliss
Founder, Loving Without Boundaries


P.S. So many of my clients are dancing in the streets, enjoy thriving relationships, even going out and buying commitment rings for their multiple sweeties. And you know what? This journey all started when they booked the same call I’m inviting you to book. If they hadn’t made that appointment, that one decision would have cost them deeply cherished relationships. There’s no pressure – book a call now at www.lovingwithoutboundaries.com/apply and let’s see how far we can take you, your relationships, and your life.

Yay! I have a great podcast to share with you! Come meet Lacey Broussard – a sex coach and Tantra and Jade Egg Specialis...
05/04/2020

Yay! I have a great podcast to share with you! Come meet Lacey Broussard – a sex coach and Tantra and Jade Egg Specialist. What’s a Jade Egg? Well listen to the podcast and find out. Lacey specializes in helping mommas find their sexy and desire again after childbirth, so that they and their partners can have mind-blowing sex! If lack of confidence, low libido, or shame around your sexuality are the cause of your bedroom woes, (the hot, wild sex you do not have any more, or the transition into motherhood that sucked your libido dry), you need Lacey!

https://lovingwithoutboundaries.com/2020/05/03/podcast-interview-lacey-boussard-sex-coach-tantra-jade-egg-teacher-multi-orgasmic-mom/

Listen to your heart! How does this poster resonate with you?Poster created with love by Kitty Chambliss.Live a life tha...
05/04/2020

Listen to your heart! How does this poster resonate with you?
Poster created with love by Kitty Chambliss.
Live a life that inspires you and lets more love into your life.

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05/02/2020
Virtual Dance Party

Hey Rockstars! 🎉 In ONE HOUR Saturday, May 2 at 6:00pm EDT, it’s Time to DANCE! This week’s virtual dance party theme is HAIR BANDS! Grab your black concert t-shirt, your too-tight jeans, throw in a bandana and a wig for fun and get ready to rock.

To dance/connect with us, click “𝐉𝐎𝐈𝐍” at the link below and become part of our Loving Without Boundaries community in our closed Facebook group:

𝐡𝐭𝐭𝐩𝐬://𝐰𝐰𝐰.𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤.𝐜𝐨𝐦/𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐩𝐬/𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬/

You'll need to answer 3 questions to get approved to join our community. Do it before you miss the online dance party fun!

🎶 𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐃𝐒 𝐔𝐏: For the introverts or non-dancers, you can leave your video off and just lurk and create some connection if you want to enjoy the fun!

#danceparty #danceyourheartout

05/02/2020
FB Live Cast Study Interview with Britta

Are you struggling in our open relationships with challenging emotions such as jealousy, resentment, fear, insecurity? Book a free Breakthrough Session to discuss ways to create healthy, loving open relationships full of joy and ninja communication skills with Kitty Chambliss, ACC, CPC, ELI-MP at the following link:

lovingwithoutboundaries.com/apply

05/01/2020
Virtual Dance Party

Hey Rockstars! 🎉 Saturday, May 2 at 6:00pm EDT, it’s Time to DANCE! This week’s virtual dance party theme is HAIR BANDS! Grab your black concert t-shirt, your too-tight jeans, throw in a bandana and a wig for fun and get ready to rock. 🎶In the COMMENTS below share your favorite HAIR BAND Song 🎶
To dance/connect with us, click “𝐉𝐎𝐈𝐍” at the link below and become part of our Loving Without Boundaries community in our closed Facebook group:
𝐡𝐭𝐭𝐩𝐬://𝐰𝐰𝐰.𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤.𝐜𝐨𝐦/𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐩𝐬/𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬/
You'll need to answer 3 questions to get approved to join our community. Do it before you miss the online dance party fun!
🎶 𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐃𝐒 𝐔𝐏: For the introverts or non-dancers, you can leave your video off and just lurk and create some connection if you want to enjoy the fun!
#danceparty #danceyourheartout

Jealousy is not an emotion anybody wants to feel! But sometimes, it just happens. In all different types of relationship...
04/30/2020

Jealousy is not an emotion anybody wants to feel! But sometimes, it just happens. In all different types of relationships!
The #1 bestselling book “Jealousy Survival Guide” focuses on jealousy in the world of consensual non-monogamy. Learn what jealousy REALLY is, how it shows up, and specific ways to manage it!
This book provides tools for self-discovery and paves an optimistic path for growth.
And if you prefer audio...the book is now available as an audiobook, read by Kitty Chambliss herself!
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04/29/2020
Virtual Dance Party

Hey Rockstars! 🎉 Saturday, May 2 at 6:00pm EDT, it’s Time to DANCE! This week’s virtual dance party theme HAIR BANDS! Grab your black concert t-shirt, your too-tight jeans, throw in a bandana for good measure and get ready to rock. 🎶In the COMMENTS below share your favorite HAIR BAND Song 🎶

To dance/connect with us, click “𝐉𝐎𝐈𝐍” at the link below and become part of our Loving Without Boundaries community in our closed Facebook group:

𝐡𝐭𝐭𝐩𝐬://𝐰𝐰𝐰.𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤.𝐜𝐨𝐦/𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐩𝐬/𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬/

You'll need to answer 3 questions to get approved to join our community. Do it before you miss the online dance party fun!

🎶 𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐃𝐒 𝐔𝐏: For the introverts or non-dancers, you can leave your video off and just lurk and create some connection if you want to enjoy the fun!
#danceparty #danceyourheartout

I know this is an unusual time in history. During challenging times, the wobbly bits in the fabric of our lives can brea...
04/28/2020

I know this is an unusual time in history. During challenging times, the wobbly bits in the fabric of our lives can break apart at the seams. Many people are panicking and full of fear of loss. Plus none of us know when this will all be finally over. But the worst part for so many is being cooped up at home for months on end, which is exposing painful cracks in many people’s relationships!

Ask me how I know…

Because I am speaking to people and getting emails from folks every single day. They are describing awful fights well into the wee hours, destructive behavior that is getting worse, feeling like they are going out of their minds trying to figure out their relationships on their own.

Have you started to worry that your nesting relationships are not going to survive this stay-at-home situation that we are in? Have you noticed that feelings of frustration, anger, insecurity, self-doubt, or guilt are getting amplified? Are painful fights and arguments with toxic behavior starting to become your every day?

Have you started to worry that your relationship(s) may be in danger and are deteriorating? Or worse, that you will never truly be happy?

If you have started worrying about that, you are absolutely right!

These problems are very serious. The divorce rates in China have skyrocketed since all of this started. People are reaching out to me now saying they are discussing divorce in their open marriages just weeks into these challenging times in the U.S. while we are all stuck at home. Where will your relationships be months from now?

Plus so many good people are realizing that living a monogamous life is just not working for them as they flock into my community for help.

I get it! No one ever taught us how to have healthy monogamous relationships, let alone healthy non-monogamous ones! No wonder good folks like you are having difficulty!

These pressurized relationships being cooped up in close quarters are creating doubt, fear, stress, tension, debilitating fights, and folks feeling stuck, trapped, and sometimes in a PRISON of their emotions/homes and more.

This also affects people’s health which we all really need right now more than ever! People who are worried about the sustainability of their cherished relationships tell me they are having sleepless nights, endless crying, screaming/yelling, and are not able to properly be present for their children by these distractions. Many also feel so alone with nowhere to turn for help – especially help with open relationships, such as polyamory and consensual non-monogamy that many don’t understand.

I know that as a brave, thoughtful, caring person in an open relationship, you are smart enough to know that this situation is not sustainable or healthy, or what you or your loved ones deserve.

Here’s the bottom line: Many of these open relationships ARE headed for divorce/breakup if people don’t get the tools to seal up the cracks and get back to loving, healthy, affectionate partnering again. You know… the reasons you are in a relationship in the first place! Connection, love, and belonging to a team.

The honest truth is that the odds are against you figuring this out on your own.

But they don’t have to be.

It doesn’t have to be this way. You simply don’t have to live like this – not during this coronavirus pandemic – or EVER!

Ask me how I know?

Because I am working with folks just like you every day who are using ninja communication tools, powerful emotion management tools, and learning not only how to survive in their multiple local AND long-distance relationships, but THRIVE! They are saying to me “Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for helping us! We are so happy and in love again, and hopeful about the future.”

The real tragedy of staying in a toxic pattern is that with our help, so many would be virtually guaranteed to massively improve ALL of their relationships… not just during this pandemic, but for years to come with lifelong powerful tools, all with expert support to implement them right away.

I love this community. I want to help you succeed. I want to see you and your loved ones happy.

If you want to discuss how we can work together to improve your relationships starting right now, click below to book a free call with me:

Lovingwithoutboundaries.com/apply

You were meant for more. You already are courageous living life on your terms. Together we can up-level your precious relationships and your life.

Let’s get you more lovin’ and less fightin’.

If you want to discuss how we can work together to change your odds from very low to a SURE THING, click the link to book a call with me: lovingwithoutboundaries.com/apply

Stay safe. Talk soon.

– Kitty Chambliss, ACC, CPC, ELI-MP

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Id do a open relationship if I could get one partner let alone 3.
I have never read a romance novel. However, I just read this article, and watched the TED talk it describes. The TED talk mentions a couple of very interesting...and VERY inclusive romance novels. Next up...as the article mentions...let's hope for more poly/non-monogamous storylines in romance novels!
So. I keep finding myself crushing on people who are either not poly or I just don’t know their preference. Or worse! I have seemed to develop a mutual crush with a local bartender. Neither of us know relationship statuses. How do you put that out there. Especially with the poly. I feel like it just scares them away. If it does, then it would have never worked, but....aaaaahhh help! How do you begin that convo with someone that doesn’t know you’re poly??? And probably isn’t themselves. I’ll be honest, when I crossed over it was not a well communicated experience. And we’re still working through issues from it. Help my hive. 💙
"What is the difference between solopoly and RA (Relationship Anarchy)?" Solopoly people are uncoupled in various ways, for example, it's how I self define and to me it specifically describes how I live alone and always will, unmarried and never will, no kids and never will, no mixing of bank accounts or leases or shared property. I'm solo in that sense. But I'm not single. Definitely not single. I'm in multiple relationships. Other people see solopoly as: single and personally defining as polyamorous, unattached, and not benefiting from Couple's Privilege. Since I am part of multiple couples... I don't fit that definition at all. Also, sometimes solopoly is defined as not having a primary partner and ideally uninterested/refusing to have one, which is really similar to non-hierarchical polyamory. So, first we have to pick one of the many definitions of solopoly. It's a term that keeps shifting and being redefined, as all these terms seem to do. Pretty certain Tristan Taormino first coined it in Opening Up, but the internet has run wild with it. So many different people have become attached to the word to describe whatever it is that they're doing that doesn't look like traditional couples, stepping off the relationship escalator at various stops along the way. As for Relationship Anarchy, it's more about eliminating the mainstream distinctions between sexual partners, romantic partnerships, platonic partnerships, family, friends. In a sense, all people on earth could self-define as RA, because maybe they value their best friendship just as much as their monogamous spouse. It's a flexible concept that's largely philosophical and socio-political as much as it is personal, based in principles that society should not dictate that our sexual/romantic partners inherently hold any more value or priority in our lives than our non-sexual/non-romantic partners. We get to decide that prioritization for ourselves. It's spelled out pretty clearly in the Relationship Anarchy Manifesto published in 2011 by Swedish folks, quite popular there, and growing in popularity here. It's a great set of values, but it just doesn't feel right to me. My romantic/sexual partners are in their own separate and special category in my heart and my head, a weekly and daily prioritization of time and communication that differs from my platonic friendships. It feels disingenuous for me to claim RA, while looking exactly like the thing that RA isn't. So... you could easily be both solopoly and RA... or be only one of those.
Spent the night with this cuddly fella at Hacienda Villa. Definitely more than a 1 night stand... This was my second time hosting my Polytalks.com panels at Hacienda and I've had such good experiences with everyone involved. http://gothamist.com/2015/12/18/polyamory_party.php