06/23/2026
What started as a boundary with one person eventually led to estrangement with forty.
That’s not the story we expected to live.
One of the most surprising parts?
The person we originally established the boundary with is no longer even part of the family system today.
Yet many of the fractured relationships remain.
That forced me to wrestle with a difficult question:
If the original conflict is gone, what is still keeping everyone apart?
Over the years, I’ve come to realize that family estrangement is often more complicated than a single disagreement between two people.
Stories get told.
Sides get chosen.
Loyalties get formed.
Narratives get inherited.
And before long, the family may be fighting over something much bigger than the original conflict.
People often ask where we stand on estrangement.
The answer is simple:
We are not pro-estrangement.
Never have been.
We’ve lived enough of this story to know how painful it is from every angle.
We are, and always will be, Team Healthy Boundaries.
Because healthy boundaries don’t destroy relationships.
They give relationships their best chance of survival.
I’d love to hear your thoughts:
Have you ever seen a family continue fighting long after the original conflict disappeared?
👇 Let me know in the comments.
P.S. If you’d like to learn the framework that has guided our family through some of life’s most difficult relationships, comment MASTERCLASS and I’ll send you information about our upcoming Christlike Boundaries Masterclass. Part 9
