12/06/2025
When my husband, Tyler and I met, he was a taxi driver for our Amish community. The first time I ever knew that Tyler even existed I was around 16 years old and my older brother called Tyler to take him somewhere. My brother was already in Rumspringa. Then when I started Rumspringa, my friends and I would sometimes call him to take us to places as well, he was known to be a safe and cheap weekend driver. When I first met Tyler, he was just another taxi driver and I didn't think anything different about him and he also had a girlfriend at the time. Throughout the next couple years, it would be the same thing, sometimes when we needed to go somewhere then he would be the taxi driver. Then when I was around 20 years old, me and a few of my friends did not like the parties on the weekends (Rumspringa) anymore, but we didn't want to be at home if our parents were at home, so we would end up calling Tyler to allow us to ride with him in the vehicle, and he would drive us around the backroads. We would talk and laugh and listen to loud & explicit music. We did that for a little while, only on the weekends and in that time, we got to know him better. Tyler was always the quiet taxi driver, he didn't usually talk much. But he would talk more as time went on. Then when he dropped us off at home, he started always dropping me off last and in that time, we would talk so much, when it was just him and I, on the way to my house. We felt a connection between each other, but he was not Amish and I was Amish. I was taught that it is a sin to date someone who is not Amish, so I wouldn't even think about dating him and I wouldn't allow myself to like him. Months later, we ended up dating, but that was not until after some very personal things happened in each of our lives. We kept our dating a secret for a whole year, (Tyler knew that was a good idea) and I'm so happy that we did. For this post, I want to mention some of the conversations that happened between Tyler and I, as we were driving on the back roads, when the other girls had already been at home and it was just him and I in the vehicle. Most times he took the long way home. ☺️
First, I want to mention the thing that Tyler remembers the most from our conversations. He remembers me asking him questions that the Amish had no answers for, and he told me to read the Bible and not to tell anyone, because they will tell me that the Bible will deceive me. Tyler was very well aware of the negative side of the Amish and I was completely oblivious at that point.
The conversations that I remember the most, was when we were discussing the universe, the stars, the moon, the sun and the planets. All my life I had been so curious about basic questions about the stars, the moon and the universe and I remember many nights when we would sit out by the campfire with my family and I would ask my dad questions about it and he never had answers, he would always say that it is not for us humans to understand. Basically, that there's no way that we as humans can understand anything about the moon, or the stars, or the planets, or the universe. But that really did not seem right to me, so even as a teenager, I was still curious, because I was always fascinated and amazed with the night sky. I remember many nights growing up, when I would be very sad and I would open my bedroom window and I would just stare at the sky, wondering about God.
So as Tyler and I were driving, it was always night time, because Rumspringa happens in the evenings, on the weekends, and so we could see the night sky all around us and that's obviously what prompted my questions. And I was so amazed that Tyler knew these answers. He explained that this is basic things that people learn in public school and I told him that we are taught that there's no way that anyone can know about this. He told me about black holes and about a supernova, he told me about how the sun is just another star, and each sun has its own solar system and he told me about Earth's rotation, taking 24 hours to complete one full rotation and 365 days to complete one full circle around the sun. He taught me that there are lots of moons, not just one. Then he taught me things about the other planets. I was so interested and apparently, this is basic knowledge for non-Amish people, even children, which is so different from my life in the Amish. And then it hit me, that the non-Amish children, that I used to babysit, sometimes said things that I had no idea what it was and I realized that even them, as a 3 and 4 year old, knew things that I've never learned in my entire life. These things were not even typically a conversation in the Amish, it would have been foolish to have a conversation like this. So then I wondered how many more things that I've had questions about all my life, that there actually was answers for, that the Amish are just completely unaware of.
Another conversation that I remember between Tyler and I, was him teaching me about photosynthesis. There was so many new words that I've never heard before, as he was explaining photosynthesis, that I just vaguely followed along. So I don't really think I got much out of that conversation at the time, but it just absolutely amazed me so much, that someone knew these answers.
I remember thinking that now I have a tiny glimpse of why I always feel so uneducated, next to any non-Amish person, even very young children. At the age of 20, it was still hard for me to have regular conversations in the English language, with non-Amish people, I basically only knew how to have a basic conversation that we (Amish people) always had with the taxi drivers or in the Amish businesses I worked at. Such as: "Hi, how are you" and talking about the weather or "can I help you with something" and "have a nice day".
Another conversation we had, was Tyler asking me if I would want to do a few videos with him, he would say something in English and I would say it in the Amish language. Tyler already had started a few channels, teaching about the Amish. I said that yes, that would be fun, but that I was too scared of what would happen if anyone in the Amish found out, not necessarily about teaching the Amish language, but about doing anything with a non-Amish person, that was supposed to be only a taxi driver for us. I couldn't imagine how angry and upset my parents were if they found out that I did something like this with a non-Amish person and because of that, I told him that I cannot do that with him.
We would also talk a lot about food. I would mention how I love to try new foods, which is considered 'weird' in the Amish and he told me he loves to try new foods as well, so we would have many conversations talking about food. 😋
So those are the conversations we remember the most. We basically got to know each other over talking about these types of things. And of course, as you know, eventually we ended up getting married, years later. 😉 (It sounds romantic, how we met and got to know each other, but it was extremely complicated).