11/21/2024
Understanding who you were and who you are becoming is the greatest gift you can give yourself.
I've realized over the years that in order to create the future I envision for myself,
It's imperative that I recognize where I've been.
This is where all of your beliefs about yourself are formed, and in turn, dictate the patterning and mechanisms you currently use.
And until self-awareness about the thoughts you think, and the actions you take become habitual,
You are still living in the past.
At times, that's been a hard pill to swallow. To realize that my thoughts and actions were controlling the results I was seeing in my life...
And that my awareness about those thoughts and actions was actually being stifled by my inability to acknowledge them,
OOF 😒
But the good news is, these thoughts and patterns get to shift.
Not by ignoring them or avoiding them,
But by being more honest with myself about their existence.
To take a deep dive into where they came from, why they exist, and where I've seen the consequences of them.
Lots of times, we want to avoid our own role in our suffering, or our inability to live the life we think we should be living.
To look outside of ourselves and shift the blame.
And that's super easy to do if you can find instances of abuse, being surrounded by wounded and unsafe people, and not having control over our own lives.
But as an adult, you get to honor that people may not have done the right thing,
While also honoring that you are free from that now (hopefully... if not, might be time to make some changes)
So to effectively stop living in the past and focus on the present and where you are going,
You'll have to visit the past at times, intentionally, in order to shift from a victim,
To empowered.
Take back control of your life by having the courage to see things for what they were, and how they might still be controlling you even though the hurt has stopped.
Otherwise, YOU perpetuate it.
The dust has settled and you get to finally feel the things you weren't able to so that you can actually break free.
Without this crucial step, the past is dictating your future.
And you deserve better ❤️