Carmen Nicole Jones

Carmen Nicole Jones Founder & CEO of The Black Girl Social Club, Curator, Friendship Whisperer & Thought Leader

02/02/2026

It’s not them, it’s YOU. With, love. 🫶🏾

This is self sabotaging behavior and a willful lack of self awareness. This can look like:

• Pulling away when someone gets close
• Assuming people are mad at you without asking
• Testing friends instead of trusting them
• Canceling plans last-minute out of anxiety, not lack of care
• Cutting people off before they can “leave first”
• Expecting friends to read your mind
• Reading neutral texts as rejection

The list goes on…but it’s really important to identify your own patterns in friendships and seek guidance and/or therapy on how to work through these issues so that you can have the happy, healthy friendships you desire. 💕

01/30/2026

Unpopular opinion: I do keep score in friendships. ✨

Not in a petty way. In an accountability way. Not to punish people, but to understand patterns. If the effort is one-sided, that’s information. And I listen to it. Because mutual care and consistency matters. And if effort isn’t mutual, it’s not wrong for someone to notice and question where they stand with you as a friend.

Don’t “keep score” to win. Keep score to know when you’re playing alone. 🫶🏾

PICTURE THIS 📸 : IT’S THE YEAR 2026, AND PEOPLE SUCK AT SOCIALIZING 😬Hot take: People can’t be social because they’ve st...
01/29/2026

PICTURE THIS 📸 : IT’S THE YEAR 2026, AND PEOPLE SUCK AT SOCIALIZING 😬

Hot take: People can’t be social because they’ve stopped being social. Simple as that. And the truth is, people don’t suck at socializing, as much as they just stopped practicing.
�If you can send 47 voice notes but can’t hold eye contact for 30 seconds, that’s not introversion… that’s social atrophy.
�Ever notice that everyone seems to have social anxiety now? We replaced curiosity with scrolling and wonder why conversations feel empty. People say ‘I hate small talk’ but can’t handle big talk either. This isn’t social anxiety, it’s social avoidance dressed up as a personality trait. 🫣

Social skills didn’t disappear. We just outsourced them to screens, emojis, and algorithms. Real connection requires effort, discomfort, and attention-things we’ve been training ourselves to avoid.

Feeling dragged a little? Good. We’re getting somewhere.

As a certified yapper, social butterfly and dance floor Queen…

Here are a few ways to take the edge off and get your social BACK:
✨ Get curious instead of impressive
✨ Put your phone away like it matters (because it does)
✨ Say the slightly uncomfortable thing-surface level convos won’t do the trick
✨ Practice being present, not perfect
✨ Treat social skills like a muscle, not a personality trait
✨ STOP TRYING TO ACT SO COOL

This is how we fix the loneliness epidemic-one tough conversation at a time. 🫶🏾

01/26/2026

Some people don’t leave because you changed.

They leave because you stopped making things easy for them.
Friendship with you requires accountability, self-awareness, and honesty. For them? Eh.

If what you require feels like “too much,” that should tell you everything you need to know.

💬 What do you think real friendship actually requires?

01/22/2026

Here’s the thing: you don’t need one friend to be everything. Different friends, different roles, same love.💕

1. The Tell You the Truth Friend
This is the friend who loves you and tells you when you’re doing too much. No sugarcoating. No fake yeses.They check you, but they also check on you. 🤏🏾

2. The Outside/Connector Friend
The one who gets you out the house. Brunch. Walks. Trips. Random invites. She knows everybody at the door. She knows people in high places. Next week we’re on a plane to Miami. ✈️

3. The Soft Place to Land Friend
This is the friend you can cry with. Be quiet with. Be messy with. She prays for you and speaks life into you. No fixing. No rushing. Just presence.

4. The Growth Friend
They’re reading books, going to therapy, setting boundaries, running businesses and somehow they inspire you to level up without judging you. She’s on her sh*t. 🙌🏾

5. The Keeps It Cute in Public Friend
The one who never embarrasses you, never shares your business, and always protects the friendship. You can take her anywhere and she can always be your +1

6. The Joy Friend
The one you laugh with until your stomach hurts. Inside jokes. Voice notes. Pure silliness.Because joy is not extra, it’s essential. ☺️

What did I miss? Do you agree with my list? Which friend are you? 👀

01/17/2026

Reminder: You can love people deeply and still need new friendships. ✨

01/14/2026

Real Community isn’t built on vibes. It’s built on consistency, boundaries, and hard conversations people like to avoid. 👀

Remember-Community isn’t just there for your benefit. You have to give to receive, and most importantly, you have to be honest with yourself!

01/13/2026

Black women are often taught how to be strong, dependable, and resilient, but rarely taught how to be supported. Friendship is one of the spaces where we get to unlearn that strength doesn’t mean doing everything alone. 🤞🏾

When your friend groups finally meet and you’re like 👀🍿🫣This may come as a surprise to some, but I don’t have a GROUP of...
01/13/2026

When your friend groups finally meet and you’re like 👀🍿🫣

This may come as a surprise to some, but I don’t have a GROUP of friends like some girls. I have individual friends that exist in their own spaces, and often have their own separate friend groups.

So, I’ve always been known to put ALL of my people together on occasion. For some people, that can be scary. BUT, it doesn’t have to be.

Mixing friend groups can be really rewarding, but it does come with a few things to be mindful of. 👇🏾

💕Not everyone has to click – It’s okay if friendships don’t blend perfectly.
💕Different social norms – Humor, boundaries, and communication styles can vary.
💕Avoid playing “host” too hard – You don’t need to manage everyone’s comfort at all times.
💕Respect individual relationships – What works in one group may not in another.
💕Let it happen naturally – Forced bonding can feel awkward or draining.Not everyone has to click – It’s okay if friendships don’t blend perfectly.

I DO think there are some benefits though:

✅ New energy & perspectives – Different personalities bring fresh conversations, humor, and ideas.
✅Stronger sense of community – It can feel amazing when people you love connect with each other.
✅More inclusive experiences – Birthdays, trips, and celebrations become richer and more fun.
✅Personal growth – Seeing yourself in different dynamics can help you grow and learn.
✅Shared memories multiply – Inside jokes and moments cross over into something bigger. New connections are made.

Some of the best settings I’ve found to bring people together? Day parties, happy hours, concerts/festivals, birthdays, brunch, and activity based outings like paint and sips.

You can love your friends individually and collectively, and it’s okay to keep some spaces separate. Mixing groups is an option, not an obligation.

What do you think? Yay or Nay? 👀

Before the title. Before the platform. Before the “founder.” 12 years ago, a 26 year old Howard grad uprooted her whole ...
01/08/2026

Before the title. Before the platform. Before the “founder.” 12 years ago, a 26 year old Howard grad uprooted her whole life.

She moved to Atlanta with faith, grit, and a voice she refused to silence. She worked different jobs, wore different hats, learned different rooms, but the core of who she is never changed.

She’s always been about community.
Always been about using her voice.
Always been about creating space where Black women feel seen, celebrated, and supported.
Always been about pouring into Black businesses and bringing people together through experiences that feel like home.

Black Girl Social Club didn’t come out of nowhere-it’s the culmination.
Of every season. Every risk. Every conversation. Every event. Every time she chose connection over comfort. It’s a reflection of who I am, and what I want for others.

This isn’t a rebrand.
It’s a becoming.

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