07/13/2026
18 years. 18 lessons. Countless reasons to keep choosing each other. ❤️
1. Pick your battles carefully. — Chris
2. Do your best to be supportive, even if you’re unsure or skeptical of what you’re supporting, because you never know what it can bring. — Chris
3. Never stop getting to know one another, because who you are today is not who you’ll be a decade from now. — Jen
4. Always give in to spontaneous mini dates. — Chris
5. Life will throw your world upside down without warning, but getting through it can pull you so much closer together. — Jen
6. In time, you can return to the things that you loved before becoming parents, and it’s so nostalgic (for us, it’s going to see bands we loved in our 20s). — Jen
7. Go on adventures together! Even quick road trips. — Chris
8. Open communication is foundational for a strong relationship, even if you sometimes can’t look eye-to-eye while saying hard things (convos while one person showers behind a curtain can be so helpful). — Jen
9. You must stay united against the enemy, or they will turn you against each other… (This is when Jen told Chris we have to rephrase a parenting essential, and he said, “No, this is perfect.”) — Chris
10. Bodies change. Not just around intimacy, but health needs. And you’ve got to be okay with things getting awkward. — Jen
11. Try to find hobbies or interests you can share. — Chris
12. Turning away from one another during hard times is incredibly destructive. We learned that lesson early on in our marriage when we had a miscarriage. — Jen
13. A random sweet compliment can often ground your partner when they’re spiraling. — Chris
14. Make an effort to make milestones feel special. — Chris
15. Be interested in one another’s interests. — Jen
16. Don’t let difficult conversations fester before you have them, because it either ends up making things worse, or you wasted a lot of time and energy worrying for nothing. — Chris
17. Don’t be too proud to lean on the support of family and friends. — Chris
18. Never forget to laugh together, ’cause laughter heals the soul. — Chris