Adult Children Of Toxic Families

Adult Children Of Toxic Families -Parenting page- Overcoming generational trauma and cycles

07/29/2025

The way your parents treated you wasn't a reflection of your behavior, it was a reflection of themselves.

07/29/2025

I am envious of those who have strong bonds with their in-laws.

You step out of the room, and your father-in-law starts whispering about you:
“That girl right there… I haven’t seen my son this happy in years.”

To be talked about with love.
To be supported in rooms you’re not even in.
That kind of loyalty is rare.

Your baby runs out of formula, and your mother-in-law drops everything—drives 30 minutes to get it, no questions asked.
No guilt trip.
No strings attached.
No, “Remember what I did for you?” later on.

Just love.
Just support.
Just family.

No family gossip.
No division.
No competition.
No gossip.

If you have in-laws like that, hold onto them.
Some of us are still healing from the ones we never got. 💔

07/28/2025

People think I forgot how badly they treated me, I remember.
I just choose not to waste my vocal cords on people who crave reactions and stay delusional🥱

07/28/2025

Before school starts, please remember this:
You can’t expect your child to have a great day if you wake them up to a bad morning.

We are ALL human--especially our children. Even as adults, we forget things. Our wallets. Our phones. Important papers. We make mistakes every single day.

So why do we expect our kids to wake up at 6 AM and be perfect… when we, as adults, lack perfection?

❌ Stop cursing them out because they forgot to set an alarm.
❌ Stop criticizing them because their outfit doesn’t meet your standard.
❌ Stop humiliating them with phrases like:
“Did you even shower?”
“You’re so slow.”
“You look sloppy.”

Your child deserves to feel supported, not shamed. Motivated, not humiliated.

They forgot their homework?
Instead of blowing up, say:
“Let’s grab it, and we’ll find a spot to keep it so you remember next time.”

It’s really not that hard to be kind, even when you’re impatient. Your words set the tone for their entire day.

Choose love over anger. Every morning.

07/26/2025

Overstepping grandparents who act entitled enough to believe they have authority over someone else’s child - when they couldn’t even raise their own - will always be ironic to me.

But here’s the truth:
They don’t overstep because they think they can do better.
They overstep because they know you’re better.

They know you have the patience they wished they had.
They know you show up in ways they never did.
They know you give more love than they ever could.
They know you have more to offer than they could dream of.

They see you breaking the cycles they created -- because you don’t parent like them.
And that’s what drives them crazy.

They feel the need to overstep because they feel in competition.
Even though it’s not their child.

And the real question is:
Why?
Why do they feel in competition with their own child over a child that isn’t theirs?

Because they view their grandkids a certain way:
Not as a blessing.
Not as a grandbaby.

But as a do-over.
A reset.
A chance to rewrite their mistakes -- without ever taking accountability for them.

It’s why they hate when you do things differently.
Why your boundaries offend them.
Why your confidence triggers them.
Why your parenting makes them uncomfortable.

It’s not about love.
It’s about control.

And when they see you becoming the parent they weren’t?

It doesn’t make them feel bad.
It makes them feel threatened.

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07/26/2025

I will never discipline my child with food.
Not for not finishing it.
Not for refusing to eat at all.
Not as punishment.
Not as a reward.

I don't care how much they are misbehaving.
Food isn't something to withhold.
I don't care how expensive the food costs.
You don't force it down your child's throat.
Saran wrap it. Get a to-go box. Toss it in the fridge for later. Done.

Food is nourishment and it is the bare minimum, not a weapon to use against your child.

My child will never be forced to sit at a table all night until they eat or throw up.

My child will never be ignored and be told to eat later when their body is saying they're hungry now.

As an adult, don't you go downstairs to get yourself a midnight snack?

So why can't your child?

Don't be the reason your child suffers with eating disorders.
Whether it's from eating too much, or not at all.

07/25/2025

How do you set boundaries with your toxic family members? Share your methods 👇🏻

07/25/2025

Idk who needs to hear this but stop opening your 18+ year olds mail😒

07/25/2025

I will never tell my children, "that's just how they are, so we have to stay quiet and deal with it."
I refuse to teach them that silence means peace, or that hiding away is the answer.
I will never be the role model that pretends to be a safe space, while keeping their true fears and feelings hidden by never addressing them.
My kids will know their voice matters, and speaking up is how we create change.

07/25/2025

Old people be like, "respect your elders" then gossip about the whole family and choose which grandkid they like more 😂

07/25/2025

Threatening to withhold food from your child is child abuse.

IDC what they did. Eating is a necessity and a basic human right. Not something you get to strip away and disguise it as discipline.

07/23/2025

Toxic family will gossip about you while you are struggling then go help out a stranger

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