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The Normal Bar

Techno Producer Publication date February 2013.

You'll learn what happens to passion as we grow older, what each gender wants when it comes to sex, the factors that spur marital combat, how kids figure in, and the tiny habits that drive partners absolutely batty. The Normal Bar is much more, though, than the ultimate resource for anyone who wants to learn the relationship-tested keys to satisfaction and contentment in areas such as communicatio

n, sex, affection, and financial cooperation. The book provides a range of effective tools to change your "normal" if you desire, bringing your relationship to a level that is healthier, more contented, and more fulfilling.

19/01/2026

Still can’t get over this desert story.

Bri wasn’t feeling great, so when we headed out to Anza-Borrego we told her where we’d be if she ended up coming — never actually expecting it. It’s about a two-hour drive just to get there, and then several miles of hiking into the desert. No cars allowed anymore. Just endless paths, branching canyons, and darkness.

We also accidentally told them the wrong canyon.

Mark and I were miles deep, completely tucked away. Fire going. Techno playing. Fully off-grid. At one point Mark climbed up a hillside for maybe 10 minutes to scan for animals and turned on his headlamp.

That tiny light was visible from miles away.

Bri and Matt saw it and trusted their instincts — hiking in after dark, bushwhacking through the canyon with packs, losing sight of the light, not even knowing for sure where we were.

At one point Bri said to Matt,
“Is that my heartbeat?”
Then paused and laughed — “No… that’s techno.”

“We found them.”

If Mark hadn’t gone up that hill for those 10 minutes, they never would’ve found us.

Still blows my mind what a single headlamp — and a little music — can do in the desert.
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09/12/2025

33 years together… and somehow the desire keeps getting stronger.
This isn’t luck — it’s wiring.

This is what long-term love can look like when two people learn how to truly read each other’s bodies.

Wiring.
Sequencing.
Attunement.
The foundations of a connection that deepens instead of fading.

Years ago, I conducted the largest relationship study in the world, gathering data from over 100,000 people across multiple countries and becoming a NY Times Best Selling Author. What I learned then is exactly what I’m expanding on now: relationships thrive when partners understand how each other’s bodies and nervous systems actually work.

Now I’m taking that research deeper — working with neuroscientists and s*xual-health researchers to build something new for couples:

Wired for Pleasure & Longevity — a physiology-aligned protocol that reveals how women’s bodies are wired for desire, how rhythm and sequence ignite openness, and how attunement creates long-term craving instead of long-term decline.

Women’s pleasure has been understudied for decades.
But when you understand her system — how it opens, entrains, and bonds — everything changes.
Two nervous systems sync, and the craving simply never stops.

Mark and I are living proof of what becomes possible when two people keep choosing intimacy, curiosity, and devotion, year after year.

If you’re interested in testing this protocol as part of my early pilot group, send me a message. I’m excited to share more soon!

07/12/2025

SEEK ME has charted so far at:
#2 Hype • Top 10 Peak Time Techno.
Thank you for connecting with this track — it means more than you know.
More coming soon. 🖤🔥

04/12/2025

SEEK ME → #3 Hype / #15 Peak Time Techno.
Still rising.
Stream it. Save it. Share it.
Let’s go!

21/10/2025

First stop in Berlin was Berghain. We got there around 1:30 am and there was a very long line. We had around 6 friends, but split up into 2s rather than big group. and I were only two to get in and bouncers once again recognized. One commented I saw you and immediately remembered you. It’s incredible how they remember people out of hundreds of thousands of people that come through there.

We immediately go to panorama bar to enjoy the most amazing espresso martini. There we met one of most beautiful woman .li.ta also waiting for a drink. She had so much style and also a techno producer from London. Only djing 2-3 years was invited to DJ at Berghain 2x. We became instant friends and joined her crew, next up was another ball of fire and fun , a gorgeous actress with an incredible smile and hair!

Then a striking man sits down, who is fashion designer with so much style. We all enjoyed talking to him about, life, relationships, s*x/ intimacy, and fashion. A common theme throughout night is how much people were in awe by showing so much love for each other and how well we took care of ourselves. Inspiring each person we met was very gratifying. Mark was approached all night complimenting him on his physique. I had to tell many people no his mine. lol

We stayed until about 5 am then went back to our room to sleep. After a long rest, had an amazing German meal and headed back to Berghain around 7 pm, jumped in re- entry line with our new friends. absolutely lit up the whole floor. Place was jammed pack with incredible energy. We all danced together joining up with who was such one of the most fascinating and engaging people to talk to. Her and her boyfriend had so much confidence and style. We had some of the conversations with them that I will never forget. Seeing Alex dance under the lights for hours on main floor will always put a smile on my face.

Then of course we saw who I met first time in Berghain and showed my secret bathroom. He came to my last show at Kit Kat and coming again. Biggest hug on dance floor!

02/10/2025

There aren’t too many things I’d call myself an expert on… but love and relationships is one of them. I wrote “The Normal Bar” after leading the largest study in the world on what makes relationships thrive, and it became a New York Times bestseller.

Now, I’m weaving everything I’ve learned about love into my music. My next release, “Seek Me”, is about those moments when the person you’re truly searching for has been right in front of you all along.

Over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing surprising insights about relationships — what men and women actually want, the myths that keep us from love, and why we often overlook our soulmate.

And yes… I’ll be dropping “Seek Me” very soon, which is a song made not only about love, but with love, my first ever collab in producing this song alongside my good friend and extremely talented producer and featuring my best friend’s vocals - a song about love made with love ❤️

👉 So let me start with a question: What do you think men find most s*xy in a woman? Comment below your answer and poll in my story.

I will be sharing lots juicy content, considering I surveyed over 100k people worldwide, I have it and I want to hear from you!

23/08/2025

2018 first Burn and haven’t missed one since. You can find me and at 8:30 and H. We will have .love.bus with us so you can’t miss us 😈 I can’t wait to see everyone on the playa and create memories!

I couldn’t be more excited to play alongside side .noir.dj and on Tuesday night - I’m on after them at 3:45 am (Wednesday am) for a night of high octane Techno! I will be playing my most recent release “Like it Messy” that made it to top 5 on the charts packed with hard techno with a lot of groove and bounce, hard dance, and MainStage Trance - the next slide is photo of Art Car- which I have wanted to play on since first time I saw and heard it! it’s incredible! Let’s play 😈❤️💋 download the app dust. for tracking - plan is by Sphinx in Playa. Safe travels see you in the dust! ❤️

13/08/2025

LIKE IT MESSY 💋
Day one → Beatport Best Hard Dance Songs in August.
First week → Top 5 for days!
Still holding strong in the Top 10.
To be in the mix with top producers in the world is so incredible!!

Huge thanks to & to once again supporting my creativity and to ZLATA for those cheeky, sassy, commanding playful vocals. You made this track explode!

Next stop: Burningman playing in massive art cars and my sound will ring across the playa! Let’s get Messy and HOT!

Huge shout out to and creating tons of content for the release and beyond. is in full effect. Use the audio and get messy! Have some fun! More videos to come and after burn plan to create a montage of playful chaos to the track, thanks to . Along with hot video the track audio has well over 250k views! Let’s keep it going!

And… exciting news—just had a call with a producer (with well over 20M+ Spotify streams) who I moved and inspired for possible remix. To connect with another producer half way around the world who I fully aligned with was magical. The energy is only getting started. 🖤

14/07/2025

Last night I went full Jungle Queen 🐅 for my girl Amelia’s birthday - and unleashed a set that took the room from 125 to 150 BPM like a tiger ready to pounce!

Hard dance. Techno. Lingerie. Sweat. Laughter. Bodies moving.
I commanded the room—and they gave it right back. There must of been 150 -200 people in her well decorated apartment!

Wild. Playful. Magnetic.

Jungle beats, leopard print, and that deep, messy RAW LOVE energy 💋
More of this, always.

The set is on my SoundCloud in my linktree and bio. Guaranteed fun!

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