12/24/2025
My (24f) husband (26m) is a high-functional autistic man however he tends to perceive small talks and questions as ''request'', I don't really know how to explain it but you have to be very specific with the things you ask him for/to, for example, if you say that you like his phone and that you plan to get THE SAME ONE, he's going to gift it to you immediately because he truly believes that's how the world works, it's confusing, but that's how his parents used to communicate with him and that's how he learned to respond, we are improving a lot and I know he has the biggest heart, but sadly, this has led to people taking advantage of him and taking his things away because he has a hard time saying no, also, he just doesn't comprehend at first but if you try to explain to him he would, eventually, understand that you just want to talk and not ask him for anything. However, my family thinks that this is perfect, especially my sister and my BIL, since my husband comes from a well-off family, they feel entitled to ask him for any luxury they want to have, an elegant dinner in a fancy restaurant with all paid? ask OP husband, any material thing they want to have? ask OP husband, thanks to that, I had to block them on my husband's phone to make sure they can only talk to him in my presence, meaning that I can control the thinks they ask for and just say no, they think that I'm a b__ch because ''I'm enjoying all his money'' and that I'm selfish because ''we're a family and we should share it all'' I just ignore them because I'm not wasting his money, and I'm always trying to help him, I know that he loves my family and if it were for him, he would give them the world but it's not fair, he isn't an ATM. Yesterday, my sister(31f), BIL(38m), and my nephew(8m) came to ''hang out'' with us which seemed rare but okay, I let it go because my husband was so happy to see them and he really adores our nephew, so while they all were playing my sister expected me to be their maid because the ''deserve a day in my life'', we ended up arguing over this and my husband took out nephew away, they, again, called me a selfish b__ch and I ended up asking them to leave and called my nephew. When he came into the room he had my husband's switch -with everything he had- in his hands, he said that my husband gave it to him, which again, was confusing so I asked him if that was true and he said that my nephew asked him if he could keep it and that he said yes, he looked like a beaten puppy and I told my nephew that he couldn't keep it 'cause that belonged to my husband and reminded him of his uncle's condition, that maybe we could give him one for Christmas. My sister and BIL started to argue that if he gave it to him then he could keep it and tried to leave with it, I was honestly tired at this point and just took the switch back and told them to stop behaving like beggars in front of their kid. EDIT: Omg I didn't expect this to blow up as it did, it's late now but I will try to answer some of you tomorrow, however there's something I want to address. My husband's family is NOT abusive, they are NOT bad people, and his brother loves him with all his heart, please stop acting as if trusting them is the biggest error of my life; guys it's not, they adore him.
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