07/20/2026
Patriarchy has F*cked everyone.
Trigger warning ⚠️
• This is terribly long I know 😅🤣 and contains sensitive topics - but its worth the read - and I don't bash all the men - like the post reads -
• PATRIARCHY has F*cked EVERYONE
If you are a single mother - because the man who helped create your child decides he doesn't want the responsibility.
Especially if he has nothing to do with his child because he no longer can stand the woman he chose to pursue.
And the most devastating - the woman who did not consent and has to bring a child into this world.
Carrying the knowledge of what happened to her every day.
Even though your child is not to blame. And this child suffers so much too.
The women who lost their spouses and have to do everything alone 🩷
We live pay check to pay check because its too expensive for groceries, basic necessities, rent, bills.
And yes - we need things that bring us just a bit of joy to survive this dumpster fire 🔥
We don't get paid enough to survive.
We can't afford our own homes.
You need 2 parents to have a family but then you both need to work and you need to trust strangers to raise your children.
Worrying that some a-hole could abuse your child while in their care.
And child care?? Most places cost $500 per child per week!! Sometimes more!
Like wtf?? Who is actually able to afford this?
Or you have to leave your child with a neighbor or a relative that might not be the person you would choose to even be around your child.
But left with no other choice.
If a parent - 99% of them the mother - stays home with their children -
We have 2 or 3 full time jobs with no pay, no breaks -
Being a mom and a maid and a cook and everything else.
And no respect from most of society and most times our partners as well.
Being a stay at home mom is most definitely not for the weak 😅🤣
Then most of us were raised by authoritarian or even abusive parents -
• that "did their best" - because their own parents were even worse.
Some of us - the brave and the ones who decided they want better for their own children...
Are choosing a different way.
And facing obstacles in every direction.
Because raising children - with love, kindness, and actual respect as human beings - is seen as a weakness.
And society thinks we are raising young adults with no accountability or any sense.
Being gentle when we want to yell and scream or just run.. its not easy at all - definitely isn't gentle for us.
We don't know how to regulate our own emotions.
How do we teach our children something no one taught us?
So we read the books and watch the videos and try to figure this sh*t out.
Because it matters.
And its worth it.
Sometimes we do let them do too much.
Try too hard to be kind when we need to actually set a boundary.
There is a difference - a large difference -
between gentle parenting and permissive parenting.
I won't explain this. Research it yourself 😂
Maybe try to learn different ways to live and behave in a world constantly evolving ✨️
And discovering that some of the old ways of doing things were traumatic for all of us.
That need to be erased entirely.
I haven't spoken on any LGBTQ 🩷
We are here too.
And we suffer just the same.
Having rights given and then taken far too easily.
Everyone's rights are being threatened right now.
And POC 🩵 - damn - I respect and admire you.
Especially our black women 💜
Beautiful and so strong in a world that tries to crush your fingers..
When you try to climb up from the fire the world placed you in.
I am a white woman.
I will never know the lived experience of anyone with darker skin than my own.
But I am an ally and I am here to fight for all of us 🩷
Racism - thats another post entirely.
And we have a motherf*cker in power right now trying to destroy the world 🤬
The world is burning as we speak and we need EVERYONES help to put out these flames 🔥
They say one person can't make a difference.
But Harriet Tubman was one person 💚
Rosa Parks was one person 🩷
All the feminists and freedom fighters all started with just one person 💜
OK - back to the children 😅🤣🥰
(And this world is still a dumpster fire to those without children. - I didn't forget about all of you bada*ses ) 😎
We need to re-parent ourselves and go to therapy so that we can actually handle our child's emotions - emotions that we were punished for having.
(Don't talk back. Be quiet. Do as your told. Don't tell me no. Stop crying before I give you something to cry about.)
Many of us don't have any support. "You need a village to raise a child" - now we are expected to do everything alone and be happy and grateful.
Sh*t is hard.
If you need any assistance from the government -
You need to jump through so many hoops to even get food stamps.
And then the food stamps don't cover all the groceries you need for the month.
And people think its easier for us.
Section 8 has been closed for years. At least where I live.
I'm disabled with 2 young autistic children. And we have to live in my parents basement.
Though I am incredibly grateful we have their help 💚
Because my ex husband decided it was too difficult to be a father and husband.
The government won't help with anything else unless you file for child support.
Sometimes that makes it harder.
If I made him pay child support he'd say - and he admits this - that he wouldn't help in any other way.
He might even just dip out and leave.
He is not the minority in this.
Mother's are expected to be full time moms and work and clean and handle all of the mental load of everything for our children and for ourselves.
Doctor appointments. School. All the documents we need to stay on top of.
And for those who need assistance -
Proof that we are still poor enough to keep our foodstamps.
There's a loneliness epidemic for men and they wonder why 🫠
When we do have a man - most men -
• But there are some amazing men out there 💙
• if you are lucky enough to find one 💫
Most of us have a man child that we need to take care of too 😅
And its unfair to these men also 💯
Patriarchy f*cked up everyone.
Men were conditioned since birth that feelings are bad.
Weak.
Don't cry.
Don't talk about your feelings.
The system that this world carries has hurt us all.
We need to fix how we treat our children.
Teach your boys to be loving to each other.
And to be kind. To respect women and children in their lives.
To be proud to have emotions 🫶
How to actually express their emotions and needs.
That its OK to cry.
That emotions are healthy and not a weakness
But a strength and a gift 💫
Teach your daughters to never let anyone cross their boundaries.
To be strong and kind - but with the knowledge that no one has the right to our bodies.
Girls are taught to be patient.
To smile even when we want to cry or scream.
To always be polite even if that causes us harm.
We are taught to fear men - and rightfully -
But teach our young men to respect us.
To respect themselves.
It starts with our children 🩵
It begins with realizing we are all in this together 💫
