12/10/2025
A partner who hides their phone, deletes messages, history and moves in secret isn't being private, they’re being unfaithful. Let's be real, you only feel the need to hide and delete because deep down you know what you're doing is wrong.
If you are being sneaky and secretive behind your partner's back, yes, that's cheating.. A real relationship is built on trust, full honesty and full transparency. Expecting transparency isn’t being controlling. So if you have to hide it, lie about it or sneak around to do it, she doesn't want it and she shouldn't have to settle for it.
It's time to stop sugarcoating and making excuses for this kind of behavior. If you're engaging in secretive behavior, you're not respecting your partner, and you're not respecting yourself. You're putting your own selfish desires above your partner’s feelings, and that's not love. That's selfishness. That’s disrespect. That’s unethical. That’s disgusting. And if you're truly confident in your actions, you'd have no need to hide them. You'd be open, honest, and transparent, because you'd know that your partner trusts you. But the fact that you're sneaking around says it all. You're not trustworthy, and you're not worthy of the trust that's been placed on you. Own up to your actions, and stop playing the victim when you're called out. A person who can’t understand this, is simply a person who avoids acknowledgement of their behavior and accountability and will play the victim once they’re caught.
You see, cheating is not always the physical act. It’s what you choose to do behind your partner’s back that you know would truly hurt them. And you’re not stupid, you know what would hurt them so why continue to make choices that affect another’s feelings and trust in you?
And attempting to delete it makes it worse because that says YOU KNEW FULL WELL what you were doing was wrong. Or you wouldn’t have felt the need to try to delete or hide it.
