12/28/2025
At my husband’s funeral, no one came except me. Our children chose parties and tee times over their father’s final goodbye. The next morning, I woke up with a kind of calm I’d never felt before and thought, If I was the only one there at the end, I’ll be the only one to decide what happens next.
My name is May Holloway. I’m seventy-eight years old. For fifty-two of those years, I was somebody’s wife and somebody’s mother before I was ever myself.
I worked part-time at the library, clipped grocery coupons at the kitchen table, and stretched casseroles so one pan could feed two extra mouths. I paid field trip fees, prom dresses, broken bone deductibles. When there wasn’t enough money, I took extra shifts shelving books and smiled anyway.
When Peter wanted a “small” wedding that somehow needed lobster and a string quartet, I wrote a check for fifteen thousand dollars and told George we’d cut back on vacations for a few years. When Celia’s roof “leaked over the crib,” I wired nearly eight thousand within an hour. I paid for braces, summer camps, used cars, and one “sure thing” start-up that fizzled out in six months.
Every time, the response was the same.
“You always save us, Mom.”
“We don’t know what we’d do without you.”
I believed them.
Three weeks ago, I watched my husband lowered into the ground alone. The chapel was nearly empty: a pastor murmuring his verses, a funeral director checking his watch, and five chairs in the front row with one old woman sitting straight-backed in the center.
Me.
No son. No daughter. Not a single grandchild.
Peter sent a text that morning, no punctuation, no warmth.
Sorry mom something came up can’t make it.
Something came up.
Celia never called at all. Two days earlier, she’d left a breezy voicemail:
“Mom, I really can’t cancel my nail appointment, you know how anxious I get rescheduling. Tell Dad I’ll visit him next week.”
Dead men don’t wait for next week.
After the service, I walked alone behind the pallbearers. At the graveside, the wind tugged at my coat while they lowered the coffin. Somewhere, a groundskeeper watched from a respectful distance. There were no flowers with our children’s names on the cards, no whispered apologies, no hands to hold.
That night, the house felt louder than any storm. His slippers sat neatly by the recliner. The TV remote lay exactly where he’d left it. I opened a bottle of good wine I’d been “saving for guests” and poured a glass just for me.
Then I made the mistake of opening Instagram.
Celia, two hours before the funeral: smiling over bottomless mimosas, captioned, Girls’ brunch. Living our best lives.
Peter, sun-drenched on the ninth hole: Killer swing. Perfect weather. Deals made.
I stared at those photos until my vision blurred. Then I set the phone down, walked to the file cabinet in the hallway, and pulled out the folder labeled ESTATE. Inside were copies of the will George and I had so carefully drawn up two years ago, full of love and optimism.
The house I was sitting in? To be split evenly between Peter and Celia.
The lake cabin they never visited but always called “an asset”? Left to them as well.
The investment account we’d built with decades of saying no to ourselves? Nearly three hundred thousand dollars… divided right down the middle between two people who couldn’t spare two hours to say goodbye to their father.
My hands trembled—not from age, but from something sharper.
I thought of every check, every “just this once,” every time I’d told George, “They’re busy, dear, that’s all,” when the phone stayed silent.
Busy.
Too busy to stand by a grave.
The next morning, I sat across from our lawyer in his book-lined office, the October light slanting through the blinds. He looked at me over his glasses when I spoke.
“Thomas,” I said quietly, placing the will on his desk, “I came to bury my husband alone yesterday. Our children chose parties over their father’s funeral. I’d like to talk about… adjustments.”
His pen hovered over the legal pad.
“How big of an adjustment, May?” he asked.
I folded my hands, feeling the weight of fifty-two years settle into my spine.
“Start with this,” I said. “Peter and Celia… remove their names from everything.”
The complete story appears in the first c0mment.