Coach Kesh

07/16/2025

When you hit your upper limit, your mind loves to grab the same old reaction off the shelf – the one that feels weirdly comfortable, even if you hate it. Part of this is because these feelings we have living inside of us need to be aired out, and when goodness happens and we can finally RELAX, we start to let these parts of us come out.

🍀Some people pick anger as the part to air out– picking fights, snapping at tiny stuff, blowing up when they’re secretly scared.

🍀Others reach for anxiety – overthinking, spinning out, imagining worst-case scenarios that NEVER happen.

🍀And some? They just shut down – go numb, ghost everyone, or detach so they don’t feel anything at all.

I used to think I was just an anxious person. Nope (well, a little). Turns out my brain just loves a familiar loop when it thinks too much good might be “dangerous.”

TRY THIS:
This week, notice: when something amazing happens – a new client, sweet moment, unexpected compliment… What does your brain do next? Does it let you feel good? Does it worry you might lose the opportunity? Or does it grab for drama?

06/04/2025

Let’s be honest – sometimes life doesn’t go as planned.

You set big intentions, envision how it’s all going to unfold, and then reality does what reality does – throws curveballs, challenges, and unexpected detours. 🛣️

But here’s a mindset shift that changed everything for me:
Who cares what’s happened? Where are you now, and where are you going? ✈️

It’s easy to get caught up in what didn’t work, where you fell short, or how things didn’t go as planned. But spending energy 🔋replaying the past only keeps you stuck in it.

What if you decided, right here and now, to let it all go? To release the stories about how it “should” have been and focus instead on where you’re heading? 🔄

Imagine asking yourself:
Who do I want to be by the end of the year?
What do I want to feel proud of?
How can I look back and say, “Yes, I did that”?
When you decide to focus on where you’re going, something magical 🧙‍♂️ happens.

You reclaim your power. 🔌
You stop dwelling on the missteps.
You start stepping into the next chapter with intention and excitement.

03/03/2025

Kindness is Leadership.

It isn’t a tactic.

It’s the heart of real leadership.

And real leadership isn’t about titles or authority.
It’s about making people feel valued, seen, and inspired.

Kindness in leadership looks like:
- Listening without judgment.
- Recognizing effort, not just results.
- Helping others rise without expecting credit.

Never believe that leadership is about power or control.
It’s not.

True leadership transforms relationships.
- It builds trust and belonging.
- It turns teams into communities.
- It fosters growth, not fear.

Because:
People perform their best when they feel supported.
And yes, kindness creates loyalty and lasting success.

It’s proof that kindness is contagious.

If you lead with ego or strategy alone...
Here’s the truth:
You might get short-term wins...
But you’ll lose hearts along the way.

If you want to lead with impact, start here:
Make kindness your default.

5 Ways to Lead with Kindness:

1. Be Empathetic
- Pause and put yourself in their shoes.
- Every person has a story you don’t know.

2. Be Consistent
- Kindness isn’t occasional.
- It’s a daily practice, even when it’s hard.

3. Celebrate Others
- Shine the light on their contributions.
- A small “thank you” can go a long way.

4. Lead by Example
- Show kindness in your actions.
- What you model, others will follow.

5. Listen, listen, listen.
- There no better act of kindness.
- Listen, interpret the problem, act.

Kindness isn’t weakness.
It’s strength that lifts everyone.

Lead with heart when needed.
It makes the difference.

➡️ What is an act of kindness that you make as a leader?

01/13/2025

I don’t believe in NY Resolutions…
However i’ve been goal setting and strategizing with clients…That One Thing Series

2025 Positive Energy Tasks:
👉Pick One day out of the week to not be on social media… Use your phone to call (not text)people and check in
👉Start with working out (weights, cardio, you choose) 1 day a week and progress bi-weekly
👉Try a high protein diet twice per week no more than 200 carbs per day on those days
👉If you have a bad habit that you deal with daily (smoking, drinking, eating junk food, cursing) Remove that habit 1 day per week, replace it with something positive, drink water, start juicing, take a walk, journal, eat raw veggies or low sugar fruits
👉Career/Business Gosl setting… Create a task list that you’d like to accomplish for the year, to learn more, go to school, start a business, grow your business or work on a promotion or new job. On that task list… work on 1 goal per week… if it’s researching, job hunting, discussing option with a financial planner…
👉Troubleshoot your trauma, your dysfunctional trait, your vices, a thing you could change…buy a journal that’s appealing (pretty smooth lined paper, the cover makes you smile)… 1 day per week… write how your week was, random thoughts, vent and what you’re doing to promote a better YOU… play some music while writing that fits your mood! Just one day
👉In your relationships/friendships… how are you performing? Check in with your friends/mate/kids/family -if numerous pick one per human month… ask them what could I do better? What would you like to see more of? If I do something to upset you, what’s the ONE thing?

I’ll be back with more… of course if you reach out and want a consult! 😉
Coach Kesh!

01/07/2025

01/07/2025

We’re heading into the darkest days of winter - it’s important to self care, even if that’s just getting one thing done in a day.

DEPRESSION TIPS:
Shower. Not a bath, a shower.
Use water as hot or cold as you like. You don’t even need to wash. Just get in under the water and let it run over you for a while. Sit on the floor if you gotta.

Moisturize everything.
Use whatever lotion you like.
Unscented? Dollar store lotion? Fancy 48 hour lotion that makes you smell like a field of wildflowers? Use whatever you want, and use it all over your entire dermis.

Put on clean, comfortable clothes.
Put on your favorite underwear.
Those ridiculous boxers you bought last christmas with candy cane hearts on the butt? Put them on.

Drink cold water.
Use ice. If you want, add some mint or lemon for an extra boost.

Clean something.
Doesn’t have to be anything big. Organize one drawer of a desk. Wash five dirty dishes. Do a load of laundry. Scrub the bathroom sink.

Blast music.
Listen to something upbeat and dancey and loud, something that’s got lots of energy. Sing to it, dance to it, even if you suck at both.

Make food.
Don’t just grab a granola bar to munch. Take the time and make food. Even if it’s ramen. Add something special to it, like a soft boiled egg or some veggies. Prepare food, it tastes way better, and you’ll feel like you accomplished something.

Make something.
Write a short story or a poem, draw a picture, color a picture, fold origami, crochet or knit, sculpt something out of clay, anything artistic. Even if you don’t think you’re good at it. Create.
For me it’s sewing!

Go outside.
Take a walk. Bundle up if you have too. Listen to whatever birds winter where you are, watch the squirrels, admire whatever lights are in the trees. Go to the mailbox, send a letter, a bill, a card.

Call someone.
Call a loved one, a friend, a family member, call a chat service if you have no one else to call. Talk to a stranger on the street. Have a conversation and listen to someone’s voice. If you can’t bring yourself to call, text or email or whatever, just have some social interaction with another person. Even if you don’t say much, listen to them. It helps.

Cuddle your pets if you have them/can cuddle them.
Take pictures of them. Talk to them. Tell them how you feel, about your favorite movie, a new game coming out, anything.

May seem small or silly to some, but this list keeps people alive.

*** At your absolute best you won’t be good enough for the wrong people. But at your worst, you’ll still be worth it to the right ones. Remember that. Keep holding on.

*** In case nobody has told you today I love you and you are worth your weight and then some in gold, so be kind to yourself and most of all keep pushing on!!!!

Find something to be grateful for!

May I please get 2 friends or family members to copy and re-post? I am trying to demonstrate that someone is always listening.







Just two. Any two.
Say done.

12/08/2024

There’s only 1 way…. 🆙

12/08/2024

Hey …: you’re winning!

11/20/2024

Now… a party ain’t a party if…
we ain’t celebrating Coach Kesh! Lift off to 4T8…

DJ Shadow, DJ KoolKicks, Majestic Kev…

Football Sunday Funday it’s my MF birthday! 🥳 See you at Sofie’s on Sunday November 24th from 2PM - until on the patio! We smokin, We drankin, We talk s**t for the games - like we do-

11/03/2024

It’s officially my birthday month! I could spend so much time talking about my reflections on this past year.

But I want to talk about you, and right now, I want to know this:



Do you feel valued?



Cared for, appreciated, understood, loved, given grace. Are these words part of your every day?



And I’m actually not talking about you feeling valued by others…

I mean, do you value yourself?

Because this was my block for many years. I did not recognize my worth.

On the surface, I seemed to like myself just fine… but when I became brave enough to take a deeper look, I discovered that I really wasn’t devoted to myself.

With that realization came so many questions, the loudest being “what might be possible if I truly prioritize my relationship with myself?!”
I’m so proud to be writing to you today as a woman who embodies her worthiness.

Do you know that you can be here, too?

I am going to let you in on everything I learned to get me to this place, so that you can start to love and value yourself in a way that ripples throughout your life.

Stick with me! I’ll be here reminding you how sacred you are ❤️

10/15/2024

Life Coaching vs. Therapy: Key Differences Explained
Life coaching and therapy serve distinct roles, although both aim to improve personal well-being. Life coaching focuses on guiding individuals toward future goals and achievements. It tends to emphasize action, motivation, and practical strategies for success. Coaches often work with clients who feel stuck, helping them gain clarity, set goals, and develop plans to overcome obstacles. Life coaching generally deals with present and future challenges rather than delving into deep emotional issues or past traumas.

In contrast, therapy tends to focus more on emotional healing and addressing mental health concerns. Therapists are trained professionals who diagnose and treat mental health conditions like anxiety, depression, and trauma. Therapy often involves exploring past experiences, feelings, and behaviors to foster emotional growth and healing. While life coaching looks forward to achieving specific outcomes, therapy addresses deeper psychological issues to enhance overall mental well-being.

So call me! Now…