10/03/2025
Let this hit: Nothing good happens to you because YOU are the good that happens to others.
For the longest time, I was always looking for that goodness to be bestowed upon me—that big blessing, that validation from the universe. I was so narrow-sighted, always searching for the gift instead of realizing I already held the power to be one.
It took me a lonnnng time to learn how to stop deflecting a kind word. I used to laugh it off, joking that my friends "needed glasses or a better circle to improve their judgment." 🤦♀️
Then one day in my late 30s, a friend shot it to me straight: "Lynn, why is it that you can’t accept a kind compliment without dismissal? Why do you make it an awkward moment instead of just simply saying 'thank you'?"
BAM. Talk about a reality check.
Once I sat with their observation, I realized the root of it: as a child, I felt like compliments were conditional. They were based upon performance or presentation, which meant there was a downside (often expressed) when I couldn't maintain the ever-changing bar of expectations that someone else set upon me. Dayyyum. That hit.
And let's be honest, I was only 5'2" of course that bar was always taller than me. 😂
That was the moment I started to understand the power in knowing I can truly make a difference just by being me, without having to perform. I am the gift. And you are, too. Stop deflecting the light you cast on the world. Take the compliment. Own your impact. Say thank you.
The goodness is within you. Now, let it flow. ❤️
Hashtags:
