Thriving After Divorce by Terrie Vanover

05/30/2024

You don’t have to justify your choices or what you do to strangers on social media…

05/21/2024

Have you watched the Ashley Madison series?

05/20/2024

⚜Forgiveness is NOT what you think.⚜
You’ll find out the five myths of forgiveness and how forgiveness can help you move past your divorce faster.

You will learn what to do when you’ve been betrayed, and still feel stuck…

You can unburden yourself from the pain so that you make the best decisions in your relationships…

You can let go of the pain, the bitterness, and the anger that your ex left you with…

Brooke and I have both experienced divorce and trauma and have come out the other side better. We share our insights into healing from abuse, trauma, and betrayal.

Listen to this killer Goddess Rising podcast with Brooke Kekos, RTT therapist, Trauma Recovery Coach, and Lifecoaching Goddess!

You don’t want to miss this unbelievably powerful recording! Link in the bio👇🏼

05/20/2024

⚜Forgiveness is NOT what you think.⚜
You’ll find out the five myths of forgiveness and how forgiveness can help you move past your divorce faster.

You will learn what to do when you’ve been betrayed, and still feel stuck…

You can unburden yourself from the pain so that you make the best decisions in your relationships…

You can let go of the pain, the bitterness, and the anger that your ex left you with…

Brooke and I have both experienced divorce and trauma and have come out the other side better. We share our insights into healing from abuse, trauma, and betrayal.

Listen to this killer Goddess Rising podcast with Brooke Kekos, RTT therapist, Trauma Recovery Coach, and Lifecoaching Goddess!

You don’t want to miss this unbelievably powerful recording! Link in the comments👇

05/19/2024

Happy Stepmother’s Day!🌻

05/15/2024

🚩 Are YOU the Red Flag in Your Relationship?🚩

Perhaps you think that you learned from your mistakes after your divorce...
But the truth is, there may be deep-rooted abandonment wounds and traumas that are starting to show up after divorce now that relationships are growing more intimate and close.

Here are 3 signs that you’re on your way to sabotaging your relationship…
📌Being defensive (Defensiveness is a trauma response that you have not recognized or learned how to disarm)
📌Shutting down when there’s conflict and miscommunication
📌You’re more concerned with what you’re getting out of the relationship than how you can contribute to a balanced relationship

You’ll continue to subconsciously sabotage any relationship until you heal those underlying abandonment wounds. (And spend years fighting and feeling unfulfilled in your relationship.)

YOU have to be the one to fill those emotional wounds and then be able to meet your partner’s needs. And you can do that by implementing specific healing exercises and actionable tools that heal those deep wounds.

If you’re the red flag and you’re ready to become a secure person so you create healthy relationships, comment ✅GREENFLAGS ✅or DM me and you’ll be sent the deets for your free resource.

05/02/2024

05/02/2024

💔The disconnection from yourself keeps you feeling lonely and unlovable 💔

Learning how to unconditionally love and accept YOURSELF is key to releasing loneliness forever. You must heal the underlying traumas and abandonment wounds to fully embrace love.

Get your free resource with the exact roadmap to feel worthy and confident by commenting “WORTHY” 🔑below and I’ll DM you a direct link.✌🏻

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05/01/2024

😱 Are you STILL repeating toxic relationships??

Many of my high-achieving clients join my program after they’ve been devastated by a relationship post-divorce. This post-divorce relationship that ends disastrously leaves them even more heartbroken, lonely, and abandoned.

A really great guy, a veteran, recently reached out to me because his newest relationship had left him absolutely lost.

I showed him how his ex-girlfriend was subconsciously filling the void of loneliness he desperately wanted to escape. This codependency created an unhealthy dynamic. And… I gave him the 5 step roadmap to heal using actionable exercises so he could finally break those unhealthy relationship patterns so he could stop second-guessing and feeling so damn needy.

If you’re in a bad relationship pattern, you’ll end up worse off because these relationships continue to do mental health damage AND you’ll waste YEARS being unhappy and insecure.

I’ve helped 100’s of high-achieving professionals heal their toxic relationship patterns so they can attract a healthy partner! I teach them how to be self-assured and confident.

So if you’re READY for a relationship where you are:
✔Respected,
✔Valued,
✔Appreciated,

But especially….

✔Authentically loved for being YOU -not for what you can give to that person!

I have a free resource where you will learn EXACTLY HOW:

⚜To trust again so you can feel confident in your next relationship
⚜Feel confident again so can feel at peace,
⚜Stop attracting the same losers so you can find a healthy, happy relationship,
⚜Stop people pleasing so you can have healthy boundaries,

👇Ready for something that will CHANGE YOUR LIFE?!!
Comment ⭐READY⭐ or send me a DM and I’ll send you the deets!

04/29/2024

What is something you’ve finally accepted?

04/23/2024

🛑Your Betrayal Pain Didn’t Just Start With Your Ex...

It’s Linked To Your PRIOR Abandonment Issues.

⚔Believe it or not, the reason betrayal from marriage can be even more painful and difficult to overcome is because it triggers your underlying childhood issues of being rejected, abandoned, and left behind (emotionally or physically).

The lies, deceit, and rejection by our partner (who we trust so much!) deeply shakes our sense of safety- which is fundamental to our emotional well-being.

The betrayal and rejection we experience as an adult triggers our sense of safety and security that we didn’t have as children. Perhaps you’re the child of an alcoholic, or were emotionally or physically abandoned, or felt neglected by a parent.

It leaves us feeling unnerved, angry, unable to trust, and anxious...

👎A few years ago, I experienced a betrayal from someone for whom I had sacrificed SO MUCH - they literally lied, took my money, trashed my home, and used me.

It left me angry (and I mean F%KIN ANGRY!) It left me projecting onto my husband.

But the truth was it was triggering a deeper event from my childhood. The anger I felt was really the wound from being sexually abused by a family member as a child (and other trauma).

This betrayal as a grown up was triggering me back to feeling so powerless like I felt when I was that small six year old who was being taken advantage of....

The RAGE I was feeling was really that wounded little girl trying to take back her power. So I mistakenly and unconsciously projected that anger towards my husband because I felt he needed to stand up for me so I could feel “safe”.

The truth is I gave MYSELF (and little Terrie) her POWER back by listening to her inner voice and giving her the “safety and security” she needed at the time.

If you’ve been betrayed or cheated on, spend some time and reflect back on a time in your childhood where you felt vulnerable or powerless....

Was there an incident or person you trusted that didn’t protect you or took advantage of you?

That’s the root...
After reading, what was the triggering event? ❤️

04/22/2024

💔Let go of betrayal trauma after divorce…Get a free resource so you let go of the pain & anger and find peace. Comment👇🏼or DM me