09/01/2026
So let’s take a moment to deinfluence the easily influenced, because it disappoints me to keep watching talented creatives close doors that could change their lives. I was at a dinner this evening where a fashion designer was being honored with an award, and I overheard someone at the table comparing their journey to hers, highlighting her privilege, and criticizing her for what they believed to be her creative shortcomings.
In this case, I happen to know the background of the woman being honored and I know her path was far from easy. Behind that moment of recognition were addiction, the su***de of a parent, foster homes, loss, rebuilding, college dropout and far more than anyone looking at the stage could see. You have no idea what someone survived, sacrificed, lost, built, rebuilt, destroyed, or endured to arrive at the point in their journey where you met them.
What struck me even more was that the person criticizing her didn’t seem to realize they were speaking to someone who had served on the jury and was connected to the foundation behind the award, someone with the ability to make introductions, open doors, and amplify their work.
You never know who is in the room. Talent may get you into rooms, but character and discernment keep you there. Community expands your work. Collaboration scales it. And your character determines whether people advocate for you when you’re not in the room. That’s why envy and comparison are such expensive games to play.
You see the privilege, not the doors that closed and stayed closed. The stage not the discrimination before they got there. The recognition, not the rejection. The access, not the exclusion. The smile, not the tears. The confidence, not the doubt. The opportunities, not the ones that disappeared. The relationships, not the loneliness. The success, not the sacrifice. The outcome, not the cost.
Work on your craft. Stay in community. Be very good to people. Stay true to your path. Clap for people when they are winning, it speeds up your time. Envy can make you so focused on someone else’s open doors that you fail to notice your own. And sometimes, you close doors yourself. - Ambriel