Sober-Now

01/05/2026

The Epiphany often slips by quietly, tucked between the glow of Christmas and the ringing in of a new year. Yet its meaning is anything but small. Epiphany is about revelation. It is the moment when the light that entered the world at Christmas is made visible, recognized and received. It reminds us that the story does not end at the manger. In many ways, it is just beginning...

We are quick to decorate our homes, string the lights, and wrap the gifts. And just as quickly, we pack it all away (sometimes the very day after Christmas) declaring the season “over” as soon as the calendar turns. But the spirit of Christmas was never meant to be confined to a few weeks in December. Hope does not expire when the tree comes down. Light does not dim because a new year bell rings. Love does not retreat when the decorations are all boxed up.

The Epiphany invites us to linger. To stay with the mystery a little longer. To remember that God’s presence was revealed not only in a quiet stable, but through a journey... one that required patience, trust and perseverance.

The wise men understood this. They did not arrive quickly or easily. Their journey was long and uncertain. They followed a star without knowing exactly where it would lead or how long it would take. They traveled through unfamiliar terrain guided by faith rather than certainty. And when they finally arrived, what they found did not match the world’s definition of power or success. They found a humble, vulnerable Holy child.

Why am I writing this message to you on a recovery page? Because their story mirrors recovery more than we may realize.

In recovery, we too are asked to follow a light we cannot always fully see. We begin walking without all the answers. We move forward not because the path is clear, but because something within us knows that staying where we are is no longer an option. There are detours. There are moments of doubt. There are times when we wonder if we are still headed in the right direction. Yet, like the wise men, we keep going...

And just as the wise men brought gifts, recovery invites us to offer something sacred as well. We bring honesty where there was once secrecy. Humility where there was once pride. Willingness where there was once resistance.

Epiphany reminds us that revelation often comes after the journey, not before it. The miracle is not only in the destination, but in the courage to keep following the light one step, one choice, one day at a time.

So as the world rushes on and the holiday glow fades, may we remember that the spirit of Christmas still lives. It lives in our willingness to keep showing up. It lives in community, in shared stories, in grace freely given and received. It lives every time we choose hope over despair and connection over isolation.

The star is still shining. The invitation is still open. And the journey is still unfolding one day at a time. Keep going my friends.

01/05/2026

12/31/2025

As I reflect on this past year with Sober-Now, I can’t help but smile with gratitude realizing just how much life we packed into the last twelve months!

This year held a little bit of everything. Growth… stretching… late nights and early mornings. Hard conversations and holy ones. Moments that reminded me why this work matters so deeply. Moments that reminded me to slow down and remember that recovery and life are to be lived one day at a time.

There were times I wondered if I was doing enough or moving fast enough. But looking back I see that progress doesn’t always present itself loudly. Sometimes it shows up quietly through connection, consistency and community.

This year, Sober-Now became more than a nonprofit. We celebrated two book launches that became bestsellers! Our board grew. Our outreach expanded farther than ever. We received our first grant. And most importantly, hope reached people exactly where they were.

Together, we showed up.
Together, we shared hope.
Together, we kept going… even when it wasn’t easy.

If this year taught me anything, it’s that none of us are meant to do this alone… including me.

Thank you for being here walking this path with me. Thank you for believing in hope. Thank you for choosing unity in recovery! (Ya see how I plugged my recent book title there 😉)

Here’s to another year of growth, healing and showing up together one day at a time. I love you! Happy and blessed New Year! 💜

12/30/2025

onedayatatime 🦋

12/27/2025

I’ve been a little quieter on social media lately, and for good reason. Life has felt full in the best way, and I’ve been learning..again and again… that balance is something we practice daily. I also know when it’s time to step back and be fully present for the moments I once prayed so hard for.

Every year, after Christmas has come and gone, there’s a quiet moment I cherish. The house is still, the lights on the tree are softly glowing, and I sit alone in the living room praying and giving thanks for the blessings of the year. For as long as I can remember, I’ve also taken that moment to imagine something I hoped would one day come true… that all four of my children would be gathered together in front of that tree.

Three of my children are grown now… living full lives in different places, carrying their own responsibilities and dreams. And yet, year after year, I held onto that quiet hope. I prayed over it. I trusted it. I believed that one day the timing would align.

This year, as I sat in front of the same tree there was no drifting into imagination and wondering what it might be like. There was only gratitude, because this year it happened. There was no lingering distance, no weight from the mistakes of my past, no wondering if the years of healing had truly made a difference. We were there together if front of that tree… present, connected, whole.

This year, my Christmas miracle arrived!

If you’re in a season of recovery where restoration still feels far away… where healing, reconciliation, or togetherness feels like something you can only hope for don’t stop praying. Don’t stop believing. Keep showing up. Your miracle is on its way too.

I am so deeply grateful for this second half of life, for all of it—the messy and the beautiful, the lessons and the grace. This year, their presence was the greatest present I could have ever received.

12/26/2025

I’m not sure what she is telling me.. I can make out bits and pieces. Every once in a while she recognizes me. All the wonderful things my sister does, bringing her home for Christmas has been the best gift. There is lots of chaos inbetween these quiet gentle moments. Much like my recovery, it’s an eb and flow….

I cling with gratitude to those inbetween moments and maybe even have gratitude for the chaotic moments too. 😉💕

12/26/2025

The time between Christmas and New Year’s can be a sacred space in recovery—a pause between the celebration of life’s blessings and the promise of new beginnings. For those on a journey of healing, this week offers a powerful opportunity to reflect on the past year while setting intentions for the one to come.

Christmas reminds us of grace, redemption, and the ultimate gift of a second chance. For those in recovery, this resonates deeply. It’s a time to acknowledge how far we’ve come, to express gratitude for the people who have walked alongside us, and to remember the strength we’ve gained through faith and perseverance.

The days after Christmas are quieter, offering time to reflect on the lessons learned throughout the year. What victories can we celebrate, no matter how small? Where have we grown? What challenges tested us, and how did we lean on our recovery tools to overcome them?

At the same time, it’s a chance to look forward. New Year’s is often tied to resolutions, but in recovery, it’s not about perfection. It’s about progress. This in-between time allows us to prayerfully set goals that align with our values and the life we are building—a life of purpose, connection, and hope.

For many, this week is also a reminder to stay vigilant. The holidays can bring triggers, but they also bring opportunities to reconnect with our recovery communities, deepen our relationship with God, and find joy in simple moments.

In recovery, the time between Christmas and New Year’s is more than a countdown to a fresh start—it’s a celebration of the gift of sobriety and a reminder that each day, we are moving closer to the life God created us to live.

12/24/2025

There’s something magical about Christmas Eve when you’re living a sober life. The twinkling lights, the warmth of loved ones, and the joy of preparing to celebrate the birth of Christ fills the air with a sense of peace and purpose. For me, Christmas Eve used to look very different—nights of chaos, overindulgence, and poor choices that left me waking up on Christmas morning full of regret guilt and shame.

But today, sobriety has given me the most precious gift of all, the ability to truly be present.

Instead of numbing myself, I get to embrace the beauty of each season. I can sit around the table with family and friends, laughing and sharing stories, filled with gratitude instead of guilt. I get to prepare my heart to celebrate the ultimate gift, the birth of our Savior, Jesus Christ, without the fog of alcohol or the weight of regret.

In addiction, I was always chasing happiness but never catching it. Now, in sobriety, I’ve found the peace that comes from connection, love, and faith.

This Christmas Eve, lean into the gift of sobriety. Let the miracle of Christ’s birth remind you of the miracles that can happen in your life every day. Our sobriety is a miracle! YOU are a miracle! I’ll forever cherish the opportunity to wake up on Christmas morning with a clear mind, a joyful heart, and hope for the future.

I give thanks to God for the ability to connect with wonderful people like you! Merry & Blessed Christmas to you, my Sober-Now family! May your hearts be filled with hope, peace, joy and love, not only in this season, but every day moving forward, one day at a time.

12/20/2025

Romans 12:12 offers a gentle roadmap for both Christmas and recovery….

Christmas reminds us that hope is often born in the most unexpected places. Joy doesn’t come because life suddenly becomes perfect, it comes when we allow light to enter the darkness. In recovery, that same hope keeps us moving forward even when the path feels slow or uncertain. Joy becomes a steady, quiet confidence that healing is taking place one day at a time.

Being patient in affliction reminds us that the hard seasons are not wasted. The waiting, the stretching, the rebuilding… all of it matters. Even when we can’t see progress, growth is unfolding. These moments are shaping something stronger and more beautiful than we ever imagined.

And being faithful in prayer reminds us that we don’t have to carry any of this alone. Prayer is where we pause, breathe and listen. It’s where we remember that we are held, even on the days we feel unsure or worn down.

At Christmas and in recovery, Romans 12:12 reminds us that hope rises, patience refines us, and faith carries us through. Light is still coming. Healing is still happening. Keep going, keep growing…. one day at a time. 💜

12/20/2025

Ran into Dr. Gary Chapman while out to dinner with my kiddos 🤗 I’m not sure my children will ever fully understand the impact he has had on my recovery, or how his work helped pave the way for Sober-Now and the books I’ve written to share hope with others. Dr. Chapman graciously wrote the foreword for both of my books and allowed me to use the practical steps of the 5 Love Languages as a framework to help people rediscover connection, healing, and hope in recovery. In that brief moment of shared conversation, I felt deeply blessed to have my family and my recovery journey standing together in the same space.

If you’re interested in learning more or sharing these resources with someone who may need encouragement, you can find my bestselling, award winning series:

I’m Sober… So Now What? A Journey of Hope and Healing

I’m Sober… So Now What? Unity in Recovery

Grateful beyond words for the people who have helped shape this journey—and for moments like this that gently remind me how connected it all really is, one day at a time. 💜