08/19/2026
I think most people's dating experience is terrible because of the fast-paced nature of dating today.
People meet each other and, in less than one week, are already sleeping together and want to become a couple so quickly that they miss the necessary steps to actually get to know each other and determine if they are right for each other.
What are you rushing?
A healthy union is built over time, but it requires attention to detail, intentionality, and careful analysis of what each of you wants and can give to each other.
Slow down a bit.
Get to know people for who they are and not what they can give you.
There is a big difference between a rich man and a generous man. Some are rich but not generous, and some arent rich but will move the mountain for you. Some are rich and generous.
Also, there is a big difference between someone kind to you for what they can gain from you and someone who is naturally kind without any personal interest attached to it.
These are the things you need to analyze when you are getting to know each other, and you will miss out on the difference in these things if you are just rushing to attach yourself to another person because you are lonely.
In my lifetime, I haven't been to many dates because most people never make it to that point. In the process of building friendships and getting to know each other, I see a misalignment of values that show we can't be in a relationship.
My people, please take your time. If you rush in, you will most likely rush out. This is a fact.
Cheers.
Profit Eneh
Relationship Coach.